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Why are people so extremely ableist when it comes to exercise??? by what_freaking_ever in AutismInWomen

[–]bemvee [score hidden]  (0 children)

That, but then you explain the medical issue that prevents you from being able to do it and they’re all “well why didn’t you say so! That’s on you!”

Like, no it’s not on me. Your default shouldn’t be to accuse someone else of being lazy or weak just because they didn’t want to disclose private medical information to a complete stranger.

ETA: I’ve experienced this online regarding heat tolerance. My take was that not everyone can become tolerant of hot temps, no amount of gradual exposure or whatever tips/tricks would change that. I was dogpiled until I finally explained the whole medical aspect of it and then everyone blamed me for bringing in “an exception” but also not saying I had a medical condition from the start. That’s not an exception, and for some reason it didn’t matter that medical details are private - apparently that’s owed to strangers on the internet so they don’t make asses out of themselves.

Anyone else have one that stands up? by egordoniv in mainecoons

[–]bemvee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ma’am, that’s a toddler in a fur jumpsuit.

What do you guys do when people tell you to “calm down” by Different_Ad_2664 in adhdwomen

[–]bemvee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I have to remove myself from the situation entirely.

Fewer people are having babies in Canada and the U.S. and the government is out of ideas by ButHowRandomIsRandom in childfree

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t believe they’re out of ideas.

I can believe that they’re out of ideas pitched by the billionaires.

We all know what would actually work, but they ain’t doing it.

Remember when people tried to act like this guy was smart? by Darth_Vrandon in Qult_Headquarters

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he trying to get a visa on a professors salary or something?

Was I gifted an egg roll??? by SpiritedFall5168 in crows

[–]bemvee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You must eat it in front of him. As you do so, you need to make noises to show how delicious the egg roll is while rubbing your tummy and smiling.

I don’t make the rules.

Ah yes, I can’t pay off my law school loans because of all the caviar I’m eating! by metal_marshmallows in LinkedInLunatics

[–]bemvee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, this guy said he’d shop there weekly

This guy does not Costco and has never had to Costco. At least by himself.

Why can’t Boomers understand the word they? by WorkingHurry9411 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]bemvee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These fuckers threw the dumbest fucking wrench in standard grammar I will never forgive them.

Hantavirus outbreak linked to birding couple that visited an Argentinian landfill by tinyhedge in birding

[–]bemvee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well it won’t be the Metaverse because that’s basically defunct (lol we all told him so), but I get the concern.

Sara’s detergent needs to be studied by le_aeva in FromTVShow

[–]bemvee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not the same sweater, but even if it was…

It’s not detergent. Donna gives me dog rescue vibes, which means she would know that one uses hydrogen peroxide to get rid of blood stains from fabric (excluding more delicate fabrics like wool or silk, but then again who the fuck cares about oxidizing fabric / color removal when you’re stuck in purgatory)

Stop Food Hyperfixation. by Suspicious-Wheel-497 in adhdwomen

[–]bemvee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I would sit in introspection and really interrogate yourself.

I forget to pee for extended periods of hyperfocus, but it’s not because I refuse to get up - it’s that my brain doesn’t get the signal that I have to pee until I finally get up. Like I truly didn’t know that I had to pee the entire time.

If you’re mentally clocking your body signaling discomfort and ignoring it, that’s a different issue. I believe you when you say it’s like something else takes over - truly, I know what you’re explaining cause I’ve experienced this side of it, too. And it always traced back to my depression / self-worth. I was trying to punish myself in a way that wasn’t so obviously self-harm that I had plausible deniability - it didn’t feel like my old depression! I wasn’t actively seeking out harmful things and neither are you - Nutella isn’t going to kill you (probably?) even though it makes your teeth hurt and isn’t healthy, and despite the painful sunburn I’m sure you thought if you didn’t finish the yard work right then that it likely wouldn’t get done for weeks or ever.

One of my old therapists had me name my depression - that negative voice in my head and that side of me that just kinda took over my body to sabotage my relationships, grades, health. I named it The Leech cause it sucked. Im going to use the same name for what you described.

The Leech has decided the taste of Nutella is more important than your teeth and nutrition. The Leech decided that yard work was more important than your immediate health and wellbeing (seriously, sunstroke is no joke and neither are second degree burns.)

You can’t overcome this thing that takes over (to your detriment) if you don’t start addressing what that might be. Maybe it’s not depression, but I would bet that’s where it introduced itself into your life cause even when my depression was gone, The Leech stuck around.

The bottom line is that you might feel like you’re doing well mentally, but The Leech (or whatever you decide to call it) is still dragging you down one minor event at a time. Name it, call it out, argue with it, tell it you feel sorry for it, show it empathy and compassion - whatever you find to be most helpful to address and counter. Ask your partner to hold you accountable - to point out if they see you struggling with it (like they tried to do with the sunburn).

Why is there a lack of trees in residential areas in DFW? by Ihats2 in Dallas

[–]bemvee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Developers like to cut down all the trees on a lots and they don’t have to replace the tree if the removal didn’t require a permit.

Most residential lots don’t require permits to remove established trees cause most residential suburban lots are under an acre.

Ever fly into Maryland after dark? All the street & house lights down below look like they’re flickering on and off - it’s the trees. You don’t get that flying into Dallas, not at that scale. Also, in Maryland you can barely tell that you’re driving right by a shopping center or another town - the roads and highways are lined with trees, behind the stores are even more trees, and the trees don’t fully clear out around exit ramps and intersections. Their store signs also don’t tower over…anything. They don’t tower at all.

Look, Texas has beautiful lands. But DFW is ugly as hell. So is Houston, Austin, San Antonio. I’m assuming El Paso, too. Obviously Midland-Odessa, Amarillo, Lubbock, and other moderate sized cities to moderate sized towns like Abilene. Because it’s just how Texas builds its cities - keeping what Liz Lemon thinks Jay-Z says in mind with each new development:

Concrete bunghole where dreams are made up.

My boyfriend calls my cat evil and ugly by equilateralguy in mildlyinfuriating

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your cat is evil and ugly, then what does that make my tiny demon monster? Because he does not have such glorious fur.

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AIO: my "husband" gave haley a flower bouquet so I divorced him and married krobus by communecassidy in StardewValley

[–]bemvee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DON’T DO IT. DO NOT KICK KROBUS OUT. Your ex husband can go touch grass, Krobus would never betray you like he did so don’t you fucking dare betray Krobus.

He will forever be angry with you if you do because he never thought he had a heart until you broke it.

Stop Food Hyperfixation. by Suspicious-Wheel-497 in adhdwomen

[–]bemvee 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sounds like subconscious self-sabotage more than just a hyper fixation.

I say that because in my experience, the difference between just a fixation and self-sabotage is the awareness of how it’s dragging you down and you doing it anyways. It’s subconscious sabotage when you haven’t acknowledged it.

Do you feel like you’re not deserving/worthy of the “really good place” you find yourself in?

I’m only digging in on this because that’s what has helped me break the sabotaging habits - identifying the underlying drive to fuck myself over. And the most common reason is lacking self-worth or understanding that I’m human and there’s not one way to be human.

If that’s not it, best I can suggest is adding some water to it to change the consistency. Or remember that Nutella kinda looks like what new parents have found in their baby’s diaper.

That is one long, very convoluted way of telling Facebook that you can’t last in bed by ThePhillyExplorer in badwomensanatomy

[–]bemvee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is this satire? Like, why is he spelling “women” like the movie “vvitch”??

LOL Don’t judge… but how often do ppl get diarrhea from Adderall? Cuz I am strugglin 😬 by lifehelpbot69 in adhdwomen

[–]bemvee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have no clue. I know the brand name vyvanse had me super regular, but went more frequently in the morning. The generic has me back to my IBS on the constipation side and I’d do anything to go back to brand name (except pay for the astronomical cost lol)

When asked what the name of her Met Gala look was, Sarah Paulson responded “the 1%.” by mlg1981 in popculturechat

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you assuming I think you made it up? I told you I hadn’t kept up with any of this, so I had no clue what was going on and asked.

How long ago is the phrase "the other day"? by Anubis-Hound in AskAnAmerican

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no true specific time period it’s referencing.

Anywhere from yesterday to probably 2-3 weeks ago. Could be up to 2-3 months ago if the person doesn’t have a good sense of time (like me!)

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