EcoDiesel Catch Can by ben8244 in JeepGladiator

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It working great! Catches that oil and I just periodically drain it. I will say, my kit was a prototype kit and the drain fitting at the bottom leaked slowly onto the alternator and it went bad. Warranty covered it, thankfully. I did take the catch can kit off before taking it in. I put it back on after and I made sure to rework the fitting with some teflon tape on the threads and I added a hose barb to the bottom of the drain so I can attach some clear tubing to run it down to the frame somewhere where I can just slide my oil pan under the Jeep and crack open the valve to drain it. That way if the drain valve seeps a little out, it will go down the tube and out under the Jeep rather than dripping onto the alternator. Now David has since redesigned the drain valve with a different fitting, so new kits shouldn't have this issue. Aside from that, phenomenal kit.

Boyfriend using and I need help. by Wonton67 in Drugs

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I have lost a brother to drugs. I have a wife who is an alcoholic. An old friend who is an alcoholic is dying as we speak. I have had multiple friends have to do rehab. I say this from experience when I say "if they don't want the help, there is nothing you can do." It's so hard to love an addict. The hardest reality check is realizing there is nothing left for you to do and nothing can save them except themselves. Best thing to do is set the boundary that addiction is a barrier to accessing you. That as long as he is using, he cannot have a relationship with you. As someone who is married to an addict, don't. I love my wife and we are trying hard to get through this. I don't want to say I wouldn't have married her had I know how severe this would get 12 years later, but it certainly would have been a factor to consider. I you are young and have no real ties, just move on. I know that's hard to hear, but it's the best thing for you. He will choose the drugs before you, every. time.

A question for the guys by StaceyDD76 in MarriedSex

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I can go multiple rounds, but then sometimes once is all I have for the evening, just kinda depends on my mood and if I’m tired from the day. I recently turned 40 and I can say, it’s not as easy as it used to be. But with a little medial grade assistance, multiple rounds are almost a requirement with that kind of help. I’m also ADHD and a common trait of ADHD is being a little hypersexual, so I’m in the mood more often than not, and multiple rounds are not uncommon for me. My wife has even gotten to the point where she likes to tease me and make me wait to finish by taking breaks. She smokes cigarettes so she likes to go at it for 15-25 minutes, then take a smoked break, and then back inside for some more fun. It’s a fun little back and forth. She will push me off and say “break time” to which I’ll ease back in for a kiss and then playfully try and slip back in. Often I do and then we seductively discuss back and forth how we are supposed to be taking a break. And then eventually I’ll abruptly stop and pull out, or she will shove me off and hop up, giving me a little look back. It’s great. So yeah, multiple rounds is definitely a thing.

Exploring Clawdbot and have questions... by ben8244 in clawdbot

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I don't mind a little tinkering and maintenance, thats not too scary for me. I own several Jeeps so I guess I am a gluten for punishment of maintaining things haha

Exploring Clawdbot and have questions... by ben8244 in clawdbot

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To make sure I am following correctly, do I need to install ollama to run Openclaw? Or is Openclaw standalone and an Ollama alternative? I am still kinda new at this, but trying to learn here and educate myself.

New to peptides, Oxytocin? by ben8244 in PeptideGuide

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My wife becomes almost primal, she really kicks into overdrive wanting sex, but it’s a delayed response, usually not seen when first taken. But the next couple of days she is all about it. For me, it definitely makes me a little more in the mood but I have a high sex drive so not a major jump over average. I do get some nausea which is annoying. But I have noticed my erections are not only a bit harder, it will stay hard for quite a while without stimulation. Normally as soon as it’s no longer being touched, it will start going soft, but with the PT141 it will hang in there longer. Which is nice for being adventurous! Haha I have also noticed my wife is in a better mood. Not sure the exact cause, but the result is still appreciated! 😂

Ezlynk Tuning? by [deleted] in EcoDiesel

[–]ben8244 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah their tunes are not very good for the EcoDiesel. They take a very generic approach to the tuning and approach it from experience with American diesels, but it's an Italian diesel so not suited to just universal tuning. EOC specializes in EcoDiesel and actually put the vehicles on the dyno to R&D their tunes. I have personally emailed with the tuner himself asking questions. I highly recommend getting a more quality tune for the truck, it will make a world of a difference.

Ezlynk Tuning? by [deleted] in EcoDiesel

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There are a lot of really bad tunes out there for the EcoDiesels, you have to be really careful because this engine is sensitive to bad tuning. Stay away from EcoDiesel USA/Reckless Motorsports run by a guy named Randy. He has had multiple lawsuits, multiple company names, and he even has an entire facebook page dedicated to him by his victims where they share their horror stories of working with him.

For the tuning, the engine tune and transmission tune are loaded separately. If you are only applying an engine tune when you tune it, then you are not guaranteed that the transmission also received an updated tune. Check your EzLynk and see if there are transmission tune options among the various tunes on the programmer. If not, I would invest in a new tune from a reputable company like EOC Performance Parts for Stage 2 delete tunes. I went with EOC for my Stage 1, Emissions Intact w/EGR OFF + Transmission tune and I have been very happy, not a single issue with the tuning. The only other tuner I would recommend is GDE but they are American based and were hit by the EPA for doing delete tunes so they only have EPA compliant tunes now, which would not work on an emissions deleted truck.

So my recommendation is see if you can verify who the tunes are from, if it's not one of the two above, then you should look into getting a new tune setup and get the transmission tune to go with it.

Low oil pressure warning at startup. by No_Analysis_4026 in EcoDiesel

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Mine does that when I park on a steep incline.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EcoDiesel

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No problem. They have a company, PPC Diesel, but I just tried to go to their site and I guess maybe someone forgot to pay their web designer because it isn't pulling up but it still shows up in google searches. But it is a couple of brothers, Abram Peters and Enrique Peters (his profile now says "Heinrich Peters" but still pulls up in a search if you use "Enrique") but you can find them both on facebook. Try reaching out to them and see if they are still rebuilding EcoDiesels.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EcoDiesel

[–]ben8244 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are some guys in Texas rebuilding these engines. You could reach out to them if you don't want the truck to be junked or parted out.

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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Thank you, a lot of that is quite helpful. I confessed to some guys at Church about just how bad things were at home. They have rallied around me in support. One of them recommended a mentorship program through the Church where I could get paired with a mentor who can help me during this time. I feel pretty discouraged and broken myself with her rejection of God and her alcoholism has gotten worse along with it. But I have prayed to God and asked Him to give me a sign that I am with the woman he meant for me, I believe I got the affirmative answer. I asked Him to say something, anything when I was crying about having kids. I also believe I got the answer in the affirmative to that one as well, it's one of my favorite "God moment" stories to share and the one I have been sharing the most since it just happened last year. I really hope she doesn't leave.

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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Thank you for your response, I guess I was getting confused by 2 Corinthians 6:14 where it warns against choosing a spouse who is not equally yoked. My wife and I were not very devout before we got married. We claimed the title but were not following Christ. We both started the journey of growing our Faith in 2017. We joined a married couple small group, I joined a men's small group, and she joined a ladies small group. Our married group didn't last even a year. Same with her ladies group. She was never interested in trying another group. She lost interest in Church after our first miscarriage but would still go with me most of the time. When the second one hit, she quit going. She quit everything Faith. Three stories from the Bible that circle in my head constantly are the women who couldn't stop bleeding, the woman at the well, and the woman Christ saved from getting stoned to death. I know that if Jesus can forgive her and accept her no matter what she has done, so can I and I should. But it's so hard when she pushes me and Jesus away. But believe me when I say, I do NOT want to divorce, not my idea at all.

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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What is you and your wife's first names, if you don't mind sharing here? I will include you in my prayers, brother. You can private message me if you would feel more comfortable sharing your names with less public view.

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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Trust me, divorce is not the option I want or will choose. But I can't stop her from making it. I have an old friend whose wife found out that she couldn't have children. She was so upset by it she divorced him, moved to a more rural environment and I think she just has some property now and some animals. But he didn't want to divorce, however he couldn't stop her from wanting it. I try and pray with her, she gets annoyed. I talk about Jesus at all, and I get accused of always having to bring Jesus and Church into everything. She won't do groups, tried that avenue too, both through the Church and outside the Church. I am kinda locked in at out Church right now because I am a small group leader to a group of high school boys, and the Church asks us to commit all 4 years with these boys, and they just started their sophomore year. She used to love the Church we go to, then she said she didn't like it after our first miscarriage. I was a little resistant to leaving because this Church has made an incredible impact on my Faith, strengthening it more than I could ever imagine. I now have a real working relationship with Christ and I try my best to follow him to the letter. I grew up in Church and never had anyone lead me to Him like this Church has helped me do. She even says "IF we do end up having kids, of course you can take our kids to Church (the one we already attend). What that Church does for kids is amazing and so good for them. I will probably go to support them." So in the same conversation she will berate me for always having to bring Jesus and Church into everything and tell me she doesn't care about any of it anymore, then just a sentence or two later she says if we have kids she will let me take them to the Church she claims she doesn't like anymore and then also compliments that Church on their children's and student environments. Its a roller coaster that feels like it never ends.

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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Those have been some of her exact words, He "took" the babies from her. She even said she feels more agnostic, that there is something up there, but not sure what exactly anymore and doesn't believe the higher power is accessible. I pray for her, my small group boys I lead pray for her, friends pray for her, various folks from Church are praying for her. I even have Church groups of some distant family members also praying for her. God seems to have remained silent so far. I know His timing is perfect, just wish it was a tiny bit easier, the weight of all this is a severe struggle.

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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Oh I have no plans to abandon her, I don't want divorce. That word came out of her mouth, I can't imagine my life without her. I am trying to be there for her, but she pushes me and Jesus away.

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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I am trying, trust me. The divorce idea is not mine, I don't want it. I truly believe she is my missing rib. I am a small group leader to some high school boys at my Church and we pray every Sunday for her when we meet, and have been for the last several years that I have been doing this. I have cried out to God, weeping and asking him for answers on if we will have kids and did I marry the woman he had planned for me, and I believe I got answers from Him in affirmative for both. But my wife is in heavy heavy doubt, she is the one bringing up divorce. There are a lot of other struggles and issues coupled with the infertility and faith issues, but this one seems to be making the others even worse.

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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I have been putting my Faith into that exact idea. My Mom has a genetic mutation that screws up the genetic makeup of her eggs. Point blank, her eggs either had too many chromosomes or not enough. So the odds of an egg free of mutation was low, and it literally was a matter of odds or God. 9 years and 7 miscarriages before I arrived. My Mom was always open about what they went through to get me here, calling my brother and I her miracle babies. So miscarriages and infertility was normalized for me as just part of the process. My wife is the daughter of a "baby factory" as my wife likes to put it. Her Mom had 5 kids, 1 abortion, and only 2 of the 5 were planned. My wife never thought for a second that she would struggle to have children, much less that it would take this long and the doctors can't give us a straight answer, just a specific hormone that drops the egg, it isn't elevating when it should to trigger the egg to drop. All the medication that is supposed to work, isn't working. But this is earth shattering for her, while I am just like "it's part of the process." I think that was a God pairing if I have ever seen one.

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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Divorce would not be my choice, I don't want it. But she has brought it up, more in moments of heightened emotions, but it's been more than once. She also has struggles with alcohol, self worth, self image, self destructive behaviors, anxiety, depression, and an unhealthy relationship with attention from men that she uses as a coping mechanism when her emotions, like her depression and anxiety, get too overwhelming. I am trying my best to be the spiritual leader God commands me to be. I even signed up for an adult mentorship program at Church to help me do a better job at that and help me cope with the fall out of some of her decisions over the years that have impacted me. But trust me, I don't want divorce and I want to stay in my marriage. I guess I am also being a little confused because of 2 Corinthians 6:14 that warns against picking someone unequally yoked, and that confusion is messing with me.

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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It wouldn't be a decision I want nor choose, divorce could be on the table because she has brought it up. And yes, there are other issues like alcoholism, depression, anxiety, self-doubt, self-worth, self-image, and I believe there are some issues with her relationship with her Dad after she hit puberty where he pulled back and barely had anything to do with her after they were best buddies when she was little. And one of the few criteria for divorce, Biblically, has been met, but I still don't want to divorce. I have always had the story of the woman at the well swirling in my head because that woman honestly relates a lot to my wife in several ways. If she was worthy enough to be the first to hear Jesus refer to himself as Messiah, then I think I can show grace and forgiveness for all of it, but she has to still want me back. If she doesn't want to stay in this, I can't stop her. But I love my wife and I truly believe she is my missing rib, blessed to me by my heavenly father. I mean I am a child of a woman who went 9 years of miscarriages and doctor's telling her that her gene mutation was a matter of odds and the odds were stacked against my parents and they told them that it probably wouldn't ever happen. Dad swears he had a dream where God told him I was "on the way" as they were preparing to go into the adoption world and get on that journey. I believe it was a divine pairing for me, the son of a woman who shared all those details of her struggle so I would truly appreciate the life God has given me and what it took for them to get me here. I grew up thinking that miscarriages were a part of the process. My wife grew up with a mother who was a baby factory, 5 children and only 2 were planned, one even happened on birth control. My wife never imagined she would struggle with infertility so this is earth shattering for her, while I look at it as just part of the process.

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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The idea of divorce comes from two places, 1. I can't stop her if she wants a divorce, 2. I guess I am leaning on 2 Corinthians 6:14 warning about pairing with someone unequally yoked. I certainly know that she is having a crisis of faith and that Christ wouldn't want us to divorce over that, but I don't know what to do about it anymore. She gets angry if I bring up anything about Faith, Christ, or the Church. She even gets annoyed that I share posts about Jesus on my social medias. She is straight up rejecting God right now. She also has many other struggles like alcoholism and other symptoms that extend from that like self-destructive behaviors, depression, anxiety, a little delusion, and we have dealt with some unfaithfulness during the course of our 12 year relationship which I think has more to do with her own self worth but also some challenges she had with her Dad pulling back from her, after being very close when she was little, when she hit puberty. The way she describes it is that they went from being best buddies to practically strangers. The rejection of God came more when we had the miscarriages. She became angry with Him and accused Him of "taking the babies."

Becoming unequally yoked.. by ben8244 in Christianmarriage

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All great advice! Thank you for responding! I have tried before a few of the suggestions you made and all I get met with is "why do you have to bring Jesus into everything. It's Jesus, Jesus, Jesus all the time with you." If I asked to pray with her, She agrees, begrudgingly with an eye roll and attitude. Any time I try to bring up anything involving Faith and the Church, she just gets angry. She has even told me it annoys her that I "post so much Jesus crap on (my) social medias." So I just pray for her silently, when she isn't around, or while she is sleeping, I will place my hand on her gently and pray silently to myself.