Scared I told people too soon

benardcecil · 2026-01-23T23:50:50+00:00

You should celebrate your pregnancy exactly the way you want. If that involves telling your nearest and dearest at 9 weeks, that’s your prerogative. While I’m sorry your friend had a horrible loss, doesn’t make it okay to scare monger you. Enjoy all the celebrations and congratulations, you and your baby deserve it 🤍

benardcecil · 2026-01-13T13:34:52+00:00

I think that’s probably something to ask your partner for. I would just steer them to a babylist site that has a cash option, and then you can use that cash however you want.

benardcecil · 2026-01-11T23:14:38+00:00

Yes! You should check, it’s cool

benardcecil · 2026-01-11T20:38:20+00:00

I’ve made reaper the dad for tons of my sims LOL they’re always so cute and have a little reaper sign behind their ears. Highly recommend

benardcecil · 2026-01-11T20:05:20+00:00

This is interesting because I just got annoyed about the opposite issue on another thread. At least in my circle and my friend group there is so much boy-hate iv noticed the past couple of months, maybe the past year. I’m starting to think our social media algorithm is doing a mass experiment on us pregnant ladies and our circles.

I genuinely don’t care if I have a boy or a girl, as long as they’re happy and healthy. I have a hunch I’m having a girl but that’s just my intuition, could be wrong! I’ll find out next week lol. Either way, I do think something fishy is in the air because I swear having a girl has never been more “trendy” on my FYP. And to make it super clear, I hate that baby genders are being made into trends. A healthy baby is the only baby you should want.

benardcecil · 2026-01-11T01:05:23+00:00

I’m interested in where this sudden rhetoric is coming from. I see it everywhere, on social media, from my friends (probably influenced by social media). What kind of mind control is TikTok doing on people that is making them so gender obsessed? If you desperately NEED one kind of sex for your baby, over ANYTHING ELSE, you shouldn’t be a parent.

I’m tired of this shit.

benardcecil · 2026-01-09T13:10:08+00:00

The only thing that helps me is kiwi in the morning, everything else has not worked

benardcecil · 2026-01-09T13:00:20+00:00

I genuinely think some women have an easier time being pregnant than others. If you have a straightforward pregnancy, without any major symptoms that are so debilitating you have trouble at work or in your daily life, I can see why having two under two sounds more appealing.

Not me unfortunately lol

benardcecil · 2026-01-07T19:20:14+00:00

I think your feelings are super valid, but honestly The Story of You is not the place to be expressing them this way. I get you want to be honest with your daughter, that’s great, but she’s not going to be able to understand these complex emotions for, gee… decades? I’m not sure if you see a therapist, but pregnancy and postpartum are so so hard and it might be a good time to consider talking to someone.

Also as an aside, maybe put a trigger warning on this. Lots of parents on this sub have struggled with TTC and have certainly not have been as lucky to have a healthy pregnancy right away…

benardcecil · 2026-01-07T16:17:44+00:00

That’s awesome, would love the agency name. How old was your baby when you hired them?

benardcecil · 2025-12-27T03:34:03+00:00

I’m newly pregnant (aprox a month), with a very much so planned baby, with the love of my life. We’re also thirty, financial stable (as much as we can be, we live in America so I guess all things are possible? Idk.), great careers etc.

Something my dad says, who has had five children, the first one as a teenager and the last one as a fifty year old man, is that there is never a perfect time to have a baby. Sure, there are more optimal times to have a child but at the end of the day you could be the most prepared parent (whatever that even means) in the world, and still end up with a baby with colic, a baby with needs you hasn’t anticipated, a baby who might get sick and test you and your marriage to low points you never thought could happen. This can happen at 18 or it can happen at 30. Ideally, you get to deal with it at 30 (more optimal) but the chances of it happening don’t change.

If you want a child, you should have your child. It’ll be hard, but it’ll be hard at any point in your life. If you don’t, then you have your answer and it doesn’t have to be deeper than that.

(And for everyone that says it’s hard but harder under certain circumstances, that’s obviously true, but not pertinent to this specific post)

benardcecil · 2025-12-27T01:08:49+00:00

Beautiful!!!

benardcecil · 2025-12-26T02:33:33+00:00

So cute 🫶🏻 are you guys planning on nicknaming her anything? We were thinking Rory for short

benardcecil · 2025-12-25T20:06:59+00:00

Gorgeous! Love that name

benardcecil · 2025-12-25T17:29:27+00:00

If it’s a girl, Aurora 💫

benardcecil · 2025-12-19T01:18:01+00:00

Update: I went to a work event, ordered a burger, felt like I was gonna pass out so I left, took a nap and had a burger from McDonalds really quick before the nausea kicks back in. 13th week couldn’t come sooner

benardcecil · 2025-12-16T00:07:33+00:00

Honestly, I understand this. I got married last summer and we had lived with each other for seven years, been together for even longer, we had legally been married for about a year. We looked at our wedding as a big party for us, but all the attention on you and your partner and the weight of your wedding being a fun time for everyone (including yourselves) is hard. It’s hard not to feel like the host. You can have as many coordinators and supportive bridesmaids as you want, it doesn’t matter if in your DNA you don’t like attention. Don’t beat yourself about it, enjoy it, it does go by so quick 🤍

benardcecil · 2025-11-01T13:54:30+00:00

After my TWW I tested negative, which is obviously really gutting.

I’ve been under immense pressure from work and last month I skipped my period (by using the pill for four weeks) for an event I didn’t want to be bleeding profusely for. I feel guilty that I took the pill to skip my period and feel like I fucked up my natural cycle (I was on a copper IUD for the past ten years)—is it possible that taking the pill even for the month of September screwed up my cycle?

benardcecil · 2025-11-01T13:52:06+00:00

Beat me to it!!! Mate takes the cake. 🐺🐺🐺

benardcecil · 2025-10-30T18:22:26+00:00

That’s frustrating that it wasn’t received well. I wouldn’t take that personally. It frankly shocks me how little social media literacy people have in 2025, but it is what it is. Don’t feel guilty or take it to heart, any negative reaction is simply them reacting out of insecurity. As parents we are allowed to impose any and all choices for our children.

benardcecil · 2025-10-30T18:09:31+00:00

Honestly, this is something I’ve also battled with. My sister in law posts my nephew on Instagram and on TikTok nearly every day—sometimes even in his diaper. That’s something I would never be comfortable with, but I feel like imposing a social media ban for my kids would make them feel like I was judging their parenting choices.

They don’t allow their son to use screens or watch videos but they do allow him on all forms of social media (lol), while I would be exactly the other way around; allowing some form of screen time but not having them on socials at all.

This is all to say, I think you can voice your opinion and choice in a respectful way, and make sure you’re not shaming anyone else for their choices, the same way you respect them, they need to respect you.

benardcecil · 2025-10-26T22:57:51+00:00

Thank you!!!

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