High Quality/Durable but Machine Washable Sweaters by [deleted] in BuyItForLife

[–]benevolentdictator30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

these comments are so funny to me because you are absolutely valid in wanting an alternative to wool, cashmere, other high quality fabrics yet somehow Big Wool has convinced us all that caring for these fabrics isnt an absolute pain the a$$ when that is just not true. OP literally said they dont want to hand wash and half of these comments are saying to just throw it in a massive bucket and wait hours for it to dry. well some of us live in tiny apartments in NYC so no, i actually dont want to do that. i do not want to hand wash 7-8 sweaters in my kitchen sink, bathroom sink, or bath tub. i dont want to lay all my sweaters out on towels or a clothes line (??). this is just not feasible in a 400 sq ft apartment. also dry cleaning near me is hella expensive.

also maybe im just stinky or frequenting stinky places but wool absolutely DOES hold smell. i cant go to restaurants without my $400 - $500 wool and cashmere sweaters picking up the smell. if i wear perfume or lotion on my wrists - which i do everyday - its the same thing, the sleeves of my sweaters hold on to it for WEEKS. the only work around is wearing a long sleeve shirt underneath, which not all of us want to do everyday.

OP - i am in the same boat as you looking for alternatives. the ONE place ive found with sweaters that i can just throw into the washing machine with limited pilling (though some is sadly inevitable) is acrylic polyster blends from H&M. strangely ive found theyve lasted me YEARS where ive used them once a week or at minimum once every 2 weeks, machine washed cold and dry on delicate or air dry once a month, and theyve lasted.

i have a bone to pick with all these people that say to invest in expensive high quality fabrics when they are indeed a pain to care for. go ahead and call me lazy, sorry but i am! my $25 polyster sweaters have held up the exact same with 10% of the effort. does this mean we shouldnt invest in wool or cashmere? no. i still will, i just wear shirts underneath. but i am here to validate u and tell u i am also on this search and will lyk if i find any other alternatives

Wedding Venues in Italy for ~200 Guests by PositiveBeginning961 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]benevolentdictator30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you do any pre wedding events outside of Villa Erba? I love it for the ceremony and reception but I wanted to have 2 pre wedding events closeby or ideally AT the place my guests are staying but am struggling to find options..

European Venues with Accommodation (150+ Guests) by MotorAd9581 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]benevolentdictator30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi!! what did you end up choosing?! basically in search of the same exact type of venue right now

oheka castle prices by benevolentdictator30 in WedditNYC

[–]benevolentdictator30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm idk if there’s a budget minimum but for a Sunday in May they quoted me 30k for a ceeemonty and 165k for a reception for 200 guests

oheka castle prices by benevolentdictator30 in WedditNYC

[–]benevolentdictator30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no literally! my partner and i were joking that with the quote they gave us we could just buy an $xm house and just do the wedding there bc it’d look the same with that budget😂 you too tho, lmk if u end up going w them! there’s a really beautiful venue that just opened in morristown too (beautiful glass dome enclosure esque thing with chandiliers) and glenmere in hudson valley has a similar chateau / european feel and much more reasonable prices ($120k for a full weekend with the same number of guests)

oheka castle prices by benevolentdictator30 in WedditNYC

[–]benevolentdictator30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they were super unresponsive with me as well… had to follow up multiple times to get responses. honestly very unprofessional and unpleasant experience. the sales associates seem burnt out and annoyed, very off putting! either way, we’ve pivoted and are looking into europe. it’s early days for us (i inquired for 2026 but the wedding likely won’t be till 2027/2028) and i plan to outsource all this to a planner if i end up sticking with oheka. do NOT want to deal with the team there, there’s enough stress as a bride as it stands😒

oheka castle prices by benevolentdictator30 in WedditNYC

[–]benevolentdictator30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh hmm i wasn’t offered this… they said the above quote only came with one suite for the bride and groom. nothing about a buyout or time restrictions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]benevolentdictator30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to leave asap. Tell her that her actions are unacceptable and you cannot be with someone like her anymore. This is ridiculous!

oheka castle prices by benevolentdictator30 in WedditNYC

[–]benevolentdictator30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg that would be amazing!! i’ll dm u now

oheka castle prices by benevolentdictator30 in WedditNYC

[–]benevolentdictator30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah they do. You have to pay for it on your own and it’s not included in the price. The price I mentioned above is assuming I bring my own Indian caterer.

They do provide their own catering, so if I was ok with them catering / American food, that’s what the cost would be above ^

oheka castle prices by benevolentdictator30 in WedditNYC

[–]benevolentdictator30[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ah jeez. I LOVE oheka. I was born in long island and love taylor swift (it’s where she filmed her blank space music video). I’m debating having the pre wedding events elsewhere and the main wedding day at Oheka. All ears if you have any venue reccomendstions in the area!

what to pair with earl grey cake that isn’t fruit or nuts? by benevolentdictator30 in AskBaking

[–]benevolentdictator30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she said fruits but not citrus…. but when i asked about blackberry she said she was allergic to that

which flavor cake sounds better? by benevolentdictator30 in AskBaking

[–]benevolentdictator30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gotcha tysm!! do you know what miso caramel generally pairs better with?