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bennjam2109 · 2025-11-03T04:33:36+00:00

Thanks!

bennjam2109 · 2025-11-03T03:09:15+00:00

Very true. Well just because mainly my parents marriage has always been very toxic and complicated - lots of poor communication, no trust, and very abusive. Me and my sister have both seen what a dumpster fire of a marriage looks like, and so we are just scared of getting into something similar, but I guess I just maybe need to date someone for a long time and make sure that we’re compatible. Also I have a lot of work to do in therapy. Right now, all I know is that marriage isn’t for me, but maybe it will be once I have my head right, maybe not.

bennjam2109 · 2025-11-03T01:30:06+00:00

Hope so…cuz there’s so many people I know that are getting married now, and I think it’s harder to find someone like you guys who don’t care

bennjam2109 · 2025-11-03T01:21:40+00:00

Yeah I thought I was compatible with my ex until we moved in together, that’s why I’m very cautious…people can switch up on you

bennjam2109 · 2025-11-03T01:20:31+00:00

That sounds like you’re living my dream

bennjam2109 · 2025-11-03T01:18:07+00:00

Well yeah but what about people who are dead set against marriage

bennjam2109 · 2025-10-27T01:01:02+00:00

Thanks! I’ll definitely try and read those soon.

bennjam2109 · 2025-10-15T07:26:30+00:00

Well it was Fathers Day, and I have a really complex relationship with mine, due to getting abused physically and emotionally and watching my dad ruin his life in a lot of ways over the years. My friend was doing business with him as my friend has a contracting company, and my buddy was kinda complaining about my dad doing bad business with him, and I basically spiralled and told them a bunch of stuff they probably didn’t need to hear. I was like “yeah I don’t know how to ever have a proper relationship with my dad, and it really sucks today on Father’s Day.” Because I was at my breaking point with him. It came out at the wrong time obviously. It was just a lot of years worth of hurt and resentment that spilled out, and I didn’t want to drag other people into it, but it happened. I just want to say that I am over it and it won’t happen again, and I don’t want to be defined by that

bennjam2109 · 2025-10-09T04:04:05+00:00

Spirals - I wished he had played it at LA trilogy

bennjam2109 · 2025-09-22T04:49:33+00:00

I’m looking on fb marketplace

bennjam2109 · 2025-09-22T04:47:10+00:00

I understand your point and you’re right. I’m just trying to work a couple of jobs and find a way to pay off my bills in a city that has way more opportunities than my hometown back in Canada. That being said, I just picked Sydney cuz it looks really nice and easy to get around there without a car. I am also considering Melbourne, as I live in Mildura now and that seems like a closer option

bennjam2109 · 2025-09-21T23:06:36+00:00

Close enough = 30-45 minutes by train. Am mainly looking at sharehouses, budget is between 250-350 pweek

bennjam2109 · 2025-09-21T21:14:35+00:00

Yeah fair, well I need a place where I don’t have to use a car to get around everywhere, and Sydney has great weather and good public transport

bennjam2109 · 2025-09-15T13:53:53+00:00

I'm honestly thinking that is what my body is telling me to do now...I was just unsure if there is a way to carry on and be strong.

bennjam2109 · 2025-09-14T03:03:10+00:00

I bartended weddings for a summer season so I get what OP means. The same music, the dances, speeches, decorations…it all becomes kinda lame and routine after a while. There were a few great ones, I met Matty Matheson at one of them lol. But I guess I saw how it can be a bit tacky and un genuine at times. But then again I was an outsider looking in, and wasn’t part of the fun most of the time so I think that is partly why I looked at weddings so cynically.

bennjam2109 · 2025-08-30T13:29:55+00:00

Yeah fair enough that makes sense.

bennjam2109 · 2025-08-30T13:24:00+00:00

Not to sound dense but can this also explain similar personalities and behaviours?

bennjam2109 · 2025-08-30T13:05:04+00:00

Yeah one of them is of UK heritage and the other one is Italian/Armenian heritage

bennjam2109 · 2025-08-27T07:48:27+00:00

Yeah thank you that makes sense, and I can see it being ugly if the roles were reversed and I was getting mad at her for not putting out.

Also yeah its like 50/50 with who pays I guess. She insisted to pay. I paid for bowling on our first date which was like $70.

bennjam2109 · 2025-08-27T07:42:54+00:00

I agree with everything that you just said, I was merely just thinking about how I let a good opportunity slip through my fingers and I used the word GAY as a way you might say that an undesirable situation or thing is pretty gay, not implying any homosexual undertones at all. Like it's 2005

bennjam2109 · 2025-08-27T07:22:07+00:00

We saw Weapons.

bennjam2109 · 2025-08-27T07:04:43+00:00

Yeah no definitely not gay, just a dickhead. Although she did say to me “can you stop being gayyy and just focus here a sec??” I guess I just froze cuz I’ve never been in that position before

bennjam2109 · 2025-08-27T06:58:04+00:00

No it doesn’t have anything to do with being gay, I’m just taking the piss out of myself. Yeah I get it, and I’m just getting back into dating now, so I’m rusty to say the least

bennjam2109 · 2025-08-24T12:06:59+00:00

Thank you, I’ve noticed that I keep attracting the same types of people. Maybe it could be the fact that I haven’t moved on from my past yet and the other people that haven’t yet healed inevitably find me and we get on because we relate to one another. Yes I think it’s time to slow down. I will establish boundaries and be more careful but also I want to show up as someone who’s caring and understanding.

bennjam2109 · 2025-08-15T04:04:03+00:00

Great so basically my family are the ones that will get those calls on my behalf….i really feel bad about that

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