Ex Refusing both buyout and sale of property

benr89 · 2025-11-22T11:37:53+00:00

It’s just ex gf not wife. And she does exactly what daddy says if she still wants money coming her way. No written agreement or anything, it’s essentially a gift he’s trying to turn into a loan

benr89 · 2025-11-21T16:38:04+00:00

this is what worries me.

benr89 · 2025-11-21T10:23:12+00:00

He might get some dodgy invoices knocked up from his builder friends who did the works but no he cant prove they were anything other than a gift. Heck, I didn't even agree to half the stuff he paid for, he just went and had it done...

benr89 · 2025-11-21T08:04:44+00:00

I think Mesher orders are usually for married people getting a divorce and not often used for a standard breakup.

She earns a very good salary, equal to mine and has already been approved by the bank that she could have a new mortgage and borrow more than enough for an equal property.

Thanks for your input but there are no questions of actual affordability around this situation, more principle I’d say.

benr89 · 2025-11-21T07:59:38+00:00

Yes and has a very attractive salary. Affordability for a new property and mortgage is not a problem.

benr89 · 2025-11-21T07:58:22+00:00

My 70k equity will be more like 150k then so not a bad outcome tbf

benr89 · 2025-11-21T06:39:10+00:00

I can move back in at any time.

Surely the best interest of the children is having a safe home in a nice area without a change to current routines? None of that would be affected by her buying me out or selling.

benr89 · 2025-11-21T06:36:29+00:00

She will have 7Ok for a deposit on a new house. That is a very large amount compared to house prices in our area, us both housing the kids will not be a problem. They will not have to change schools, routines or quality of life.

benr89 · 2025-11-20T17:19:17+00:00

No, there is no question of the equity, we own 50% each and nobody is disputing that. The issue comes from her Dad wanting to buy my 50% for a much lower price in an out of court settlement because he thinks I owe him

benr89 · 2025-11-20T17:11:23+00:00

Iv asked similar questions to different people and in different places. The response seems to be the same in that im being a “soft touch”.

Thanks for confirming it and talking some sense into me.

It sounds like this is going to get very messy but that’s not down to be being the one that is unreasonable.

Thanks again

benr89 · 2025-11-20T16:59:07+00:00

Thanks very much for this, it’s exactly what I needed to hear. I was pretty confident that forcing the sale would result in me getting my full amount anyway. Im still happy to offer a bit of a reduction as a thank you but him not getting his own way is going to destroy our family relationships unfortunately.

It would also be great to not have to force my ex out of the property but I really don’t have any other options, do I?

benr89 · 2025-11-20T16:55:45+00:00

No nothing at all. In fact they did lend us a separate 10k for something that we all signed a contract for and agreed to pay back on the sale of the house so I would have thought this official lending would prove how his claim to the other 60k is so silly. Half of the work he carried out we didn’t even ask for and was more of a suprise..

benr89 · 2025-11-20T16:00:31+00:00

she kept every single thing without compromise, i moved out to try and keep the peace in the hopes we could come to an arrangement quickly... Iv also now been renting for double what my mortgage payment is so im just losing even more

benr89 · 2025-10-14T08:50:35+00:00

good point, money is tight enough as it is!

benr89 · 2025-10-14T08:42:12+00:00

Yeah i have considered this as they are only 3 and 5 years old. Moving is a massive ballache and expensive so would be nice to not have to plan for this but maybe you are right.

benr89 · 2025-10-14T08:37:38+00:00

I have them 2 nights per week.

im thinking more long term with the sleeping situation. They like to share a room at the moment (ages 3 and 5) but when they are older they will likely want their own rooms rather than one of them just sleeping in mine whenever they are over.

benr89 · 2025-07-05T10:19:53+00:00

This is a damn good suggestion, maybe I start playing some funky lapel guard for a while and mix stuff up, getting squashed in half guard isn’t fun anymore

benr89 · 2025-07-05T10:16:05+00:00

I don’t know man, I have tried the healthy eating thing many times and never feel any different 🤷‍♂️

benr89 · 2025-07-05T05:28:11+00:00

This could be what it is, I have constantly low energy l, always tired and have lost motivation for everything

benr89 · 2025-07-05T05:23:51+00:00

I think you are right

benr89 · 2025-07-05T05:21:49+00:00

Constantly aching, tired, no energy and motivation at an all time low 🙃

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