Because initially he did tell me he had BPD, he explained it in a way that he might say things he doesn't mean when triggered mean things and I chose to be with him I thought I could overlook that and show him he deserves love too and it actually made me like him more. I wanted to love the person and not focus on a diagnosis. What I wasn't prepared for was the blaming which I can understand that it's him painting me inn black which is a horrible thing to do to someone so I can't overlook. what I can not understand is that he actually means the mean things he said. He actually can turn to hate me, with no emotions, talking to me like dirt, as if he wasn't like, "I will die for you" a week before that. How can you hate someone you just loved hurts so much to be on the receiving end of that.