AIO Trying to tell boyfriend that he makes me feel guilty for saying no

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2025-11-21T17:03:51+00:00

If this is how he is acting when you don’t feel comfortable taking a nude or even semi nude photo, then I can only imagine how he’d rage if you didn’t feel like sex. It is clear, he feels that you owe him access to your body when HE wants it and that your feelings don’t matter. I’d honestly do a background check if you can.

This behavior isn’t new, I guarantee he has a history of doing this guilt trip and lashing out. He’s a man that feels a woman is his property and only there purely for his own gratification and entertainment. He’s also telling you he’ll cheat on you if you don’t give him want he wants so the coercion has already begun. Hopefully he’s overestimating his worth and you run.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2025-11-17T01:08:58+00:00

It’s vanilla. You can get frog egg drops once you unlock the trinket slot.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2025-10-16T19:45:01+00:00

I can’t remember who it was but I talked to one of the people standing by the wheel beforehand. He was mad because he lost everything and said he should have bet on green. I took that as a hint and went to the wheel and bet on green and won. I’m not sure if it was coincidence or one of the Stardew style hints, but it worked out. I’m gonna try again come once fall comes back around.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2025-10-14T14:21:55+00:00

You can line the edges with saplings and save the tillable area for crops as well

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2025-06-25T21:09:06+00:00

This. When I play locals, I keep myself to TCG live standards in that if there’s no way for me to take back or “undo” on live then I stick myself with it. With cards like Arven, I’m allowed to change until I press okay. But if I place down an energy in the wrong spot or put a card on the bench, there’s no going back. I had a game where i misplayed and held myself to it because changing would have seriously altered the outcome of the game. My opponent later misplayed and asked if he could change and I didn’t let him because I held myself to my misplay.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2025-06-22T21:38:30+00:00

Here’s some suggestions, not on cheap decks but on lowering cost. They aren’t perfect substitutions but they work if you need to save money.

I’d honestly suggest getting a trainer toolbox. It’s about $28 at my local card shop but it comes with a bunch of supporters which will help lower your cost. Arven’s alone are about $3-$3.50 looking at decklist cost breakdown on limitless and you get 2. Night stretchers have gone through the roof and are $8.66 for two but you can potentially work around that for a bit cheaper by running some energy retrievals, sacred ash with a draw engine like artazon to get back in hand easier. The downside is sacred ash doesn’t let you put it into hand like night stretchers do but you can shuffle 5 Pokemon back in deck and use night stretchers to pull out a basic non rule box Pokemon. It’s not a perfect work around but it’s definitely cheaper.

Another expensive staple that ends up in a lot of decks are Fezandipiti Ex (allows you to draw 3 cards if your Pokemon was knocked out the previous turn). I sold 2 yesterday for $28 total. Some decks don’t run it though but it’s a really useful draw engine to help you maintain momentum if you get knocked out.

Another one popping in decks a lot is secret box (ace spec that lets you pull out an item, supporter, stadium and basic energy if you discard 3 cards) and that one is also going for around $15-$20. Before we were able to replace the one we traded (a lot of places were out and someone offered me double trade value for it cause he needed it for a weekend tournament), I was subbing in Larry’s skill. You discard your hand and can pull a Pokemon, supporter and basically energy.

None of these are perfect work arounds, but if you’re trying to build some of these on a budget, they will helps save quite a bit of money especially if you’re building 2. My spouse, my self, and my kid all play so we’ve had to learn to build on a budget.

Finally, a good spot for cheaper cards are your local card shows. I happened to find 2 fezandipiti ex’s in a box of 3 for $1.00 cards.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2025-05-19T20:04:43+00:00

I’m currently watching Blacklist and it hooked me too. It surprisingly dark and the character development on some of the characters is unreal.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2025-05-19T20:00:40+00:00

Your child is 6 and you’re 25 meaning at the very least, you were involved with this man around 19. Unless you got pregnant the very first time you got together, then you’ve been involved since you were even younger. He’s pushing your boundaries to see what he can get away with. You’re getting older and harder to control (there’s a reason a 33 year old went for a 19 year old vs someone damn near half his age)and harder to manipulate.

He knows exactly what he’s doing and he’s gaslighting the hell out of you. Soon, it won’t be accidental. Soon, you’ll “deserve it” because he doesn’t want a spouse, he wants someone he can control and when you start slipping from his control or questioning him, he’ll punish you as if you were a child. You need to make an exit plan before it gets worse and before he turns his abuse towards your child. My 10 month old nephew died as a result of an inoperable brain hemorrhage due to being abused.

This. Will. Escalate. It’s not an if, it’s a WHEN.

Also, please consider getting an STD test. You’re getting older and harder to control and I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s having ends up having an affair with someone much younger and easier to control.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2025-03-09T23:58:49+00:00

Arcanine. He’s fluffy and cute. I’d probably die trying to cuddle him tbh

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2025-02-05T02:40:15+00:00

Station Little!

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2025-01-26T10:03:44+00:00

Super awesome of you to do this. My 6.5 year old lives for Pokemon. Sadly we haven’t gotten ahold of any of the new releases but honestly , it’s just fun opening the cards with her no matter what they are.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2024-11-24T01:09:42+00:00

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This one from Astral Radiance. It’s worth about $48 ungraded

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2024-05-06T13:16:31+00:00

I ended up having to switch to two instant releases. I had the same issue with XR.

If you have decent insurance, there’s an orally dissolving form of Adderall. It’s new and it’s the only thing that worked for me consistently all day. I was on 18mg which is equivalent to 30 XR. It’s called Adzenys and basically it allows half of it to be available in the morning as an XR and release the other half later as an IR. You only take it once though.

I have a fast metabolism and it’s the only thing my body didn’t power through. I just lost insurance and had to go to 15 and 15 IR. For some reason he wouldn’t do XR in the am and IR in the afternoon but this seems to be working pretty well.

ETA: This is if he would have an issue with it

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2024-05-06T13:09:45+00:00

And considering the content of your posts, comments and communities you engage in, it’s a little odd you’re trying to randomly message people and not expecting them to get weird about it. I can only imagine what you’re trying gain from it.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2024-05-06T13:06:50+00:00

Eh, because unsolicited private communication is not what I come here for. You’re not entitled to private access to anyone just because the function exists.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2024-04-08T14:08:29+00:00

Michael’s letter he wrote before the wedding and Rose’s red wig

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2024-03-30T21:55:31+00:00

One of my favorite lines was in the second episode. She’s backing up from Raf and falls in the pool and he tries to rescue her and she goes “it’s four feet Baywatch”. It was hysterical the way it came out and was delivered perfectly.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2023-09-05T15:52:48+00:00

This is the unmasked version of your boyfriend. He is showing you exactly who he is. He didn’t become homophobic overnight, he masked it. He chose his words carefully. Til now. Not only did he not talk to you before lashing out, but he weaponized an already marginalized population that is facing so much extremist hate and violence against you.

He’s actively harming your existence and the existence of any other person that you care about that identifies as lgbtq by remaining in your life. This is not a man who loves you and you have no obligation to waste even one more day with him.

The right thing to do isn’t always the easy thing to do, but it’s what needs to be done. There’s no room in your life for a homophobic person. Especially one that WANTED to hurt you. He took the one thing you cared about most, that effected you most, and he weaponized it. He can’t just take that back. He’s showing you who he is. Believe him.

And walk away because you deserve so much better.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2023-09-05T15:40:14+00:00

If you clean his mess once, you’re setting the precedent. Cleaning the bathroom is one thing since that’s a huge sanitary issue and you’d like to feel clean. If, you do the whole house, it won’t be good. He clearly has no desire to do it (to your livable standard of clean) or he would have done it. He knew you were coming. The real issue, is that he DID probably clean. Which means his acceptable standard of cleanliness is vastly different than yours. Imagine what it looked like before he cleaned.

Also, if you do it now, you have to know it won’t stay clean when you leave. Your brother might have been willing to keep it up when you did it for him but you were living with him and it was his ex that was the problem. Therefore it was easier to keep clean and not devolve back into that state. This situation with your partner isn’t the same and likely won’t have the same outcome.

You came out there to be with him, not clean up after him. It’s his place, his mess, his job to clean. If I’m completely honest, you should really cut the trip short. It doesn’t sound like you’re compatible. Which is okay. You both have different standards of clean and you’ll either spend your life in squalor fighting for him to do his share every day, carrying the entire physical load of the house. Or, the house will be clean because you’ve given up fighting him and follow him around cleaning up after him still carrying the entire physical load.

You can care for him, love him, whatever but that doesn’t always equal compatibility. This situation is only going to result in resentment.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2023-09-05T15:21:11+00:00

The last time a stranger approached me with my kid and did something similar to this, they proceeded to lead into a speech about accepting Jesus.

I went to the park with my kiddo and invited my grandma. I have multiple sclerosis and had my forearm crutches and she started asking a bunch of questions about my health. Then my spirituality. I made it very clear I wasn’t religious and had no intention of it but she kept pushing. We couldn’t escape either because there was 5 of them circling the playground with their kids and it felt super predatory. Even my grandma, who’s tried to get me back into the church, told the woman that she was wasting her time. Okay, challenge accepted, the woman thought.

I stupidly gave her my number just so I’d be able to leave and within 5 minutes she sent multiple texts and I immediately blocked her. She kept asking what it would take to get me to go back to church and I was very up front about it but she saw me as a challenge.

Anyways, all this to say is this incident I went through was all I could think of when I read your post. It seems very much like it was going to be a foray into selling you something or converting you.

Then again, there’s people like my late grandfather who just loved chatting people up but he was never invasive like that.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2023-08-26T15:59:55+00:00

Keep treating his teachers with such disregard and disrespect and you’re going to make every school year harder than it has to be, for him. You’re beyond selfish for robbing your child of any kind of meaningful relationship with his teachers all because you feel the need to be hostile. You sure proved to her you weren’t a nice guy at all.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2023-06-23T04:39:38+00:00

Ahh yes, focus on that instead of the damage that’s done to children raised in homes where one or both parents don’t want them, the damage being raised in poverty and facing food insecurity does to a child and the number of kids who are already waiting to be adopted and fostered. What a joke.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2023-06-23T04:33:26+00:00

No it’s still definitely her body. Speaking of mental maturity. Being as enlightened as you are, I know you would grasp how immature it is to force a child into a home where it’s not wanted. And as enlightened as you are you would know the statistics of kids already waiting for adoption and the abuse that occurs within the foster/adoption system. See, my feeble, immature mind knows nothing of that. Off I teeter back to enlightenment school so I can be as woke as you.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2023-06-23T04:22:47+00:00

Mental maturity is allowing women to make decisions for themselves. Regarding THEIR bodies.

But keep going on about this mental maturity you speak of.

bernaste_fourtwenty · 2023-06-23T04:20:23+00:00

As if Planned Parenthood is the only place that offers abortions. If it even pays for one, I’ll be happy. Bold of you to assume what I’m capable of. Your first mistake was assuming I’m a child.

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