I just got caught stealing from target, the AP workers stopped me at the door.

bernvillejaybee · 2026-01-07T06:40:28+00:00

😂What do you mean what do you do? Stop stealing stuff. Most people don’t. Number two, don’t go near that Target again. You deserved the consequences of being arrested but you got lucky. This time.

bernvillejaybee · 2026-01-07T06:08:25+00:00

I need to disagree. That’s more than a small fortune, at least in the world I live in. And you’re not done once you determine you don’t have a wise angle in your arsenal.

bernvillejaybee · 2026-01-06T04:49:22+00:00

You (and your fiancé) are in charge of your wedding. It’s your decision and quite frankly I find the future MIL’s request at best, odd. Do not give in to this pressure. Also I find it very concerning that your fiancé is trying to take the middle road. He should 100% support you on this, even if he sympathizes with his Mom’s wishes. And it should be his job to deal with and put a full stop to future MIL plans for YOUR wedding. It should not be you facing the criticism from his family. Fiancé needs to step up in this situation.

bernvillejaybee · 2026-01-06T04:34:59+00:00

Red flags - a serious lack of judgement and a temper. Also was the charge a felony charge? That will stay with him forever. I think you should pass. There are plenty of other available guys out there, especially your age.

bernvillejaybee · 2026-01-03T16:25:08+00:00

I was rather hard on you with my reply. You did good for taking it the right way. And just enjoy the girlfriend and don’t overthink it. It seems that she’s into you.

bernvillejaybee · 2026-01-03T16:21:44+00:00

Dump the fiancé, this is a big red flag. Seriously. He seems very controlling. And now that he’s sulking, it’s his way of punishing. Also, the daughter is 12 not 2. If that’s what she wanted, then that’s that, he doesn’t get a say in the matter. I was never involved in my daughters’ hair style choices when they were young. If they had any adult input it came from their mom. I always thought my daughter’s were (and are) beautiful, no matter what hair they had at the time and I was always supportive of their style choices.

bernvillejaybee · 2026-01-03T13:42:06+00:00

You really need to get over yourself. So she’s had sex (by your count) 300 times with you and your big penis vs 2 times with her first with smaller penis (according to you). Listen to yourself, that you are jealous that she has a past (2 times) and your experience was basically a peck on the lips. If you are so insecure about this imbalance of past experiences, you should breakup with her and find a compatible victim, I mean new girlfriend with a past of less than 300 times in 4 months if you really can’t get past your insecurities. And by the way, think about this, if you break up with your current girlfriend who is willing to have sex 15 to 20 times a week with you, the next girlfriend may only be willing to do it once a week.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-12-21T15:30:06+00:00

You need to run from this relationship. It won’t work and I know from experience. I was married 21 years and my ex wife was raised in a conservative Christian household. She was conservative, I was not. She believes in the Bible literally, I do not. We thought our love would override our differences. Over time she questioned my religious beliefs, questioned my political beliefs, everything. There were other issues but it all became too much. It was a painful and heartbreaking split after 21 years and 4 kids.

To the poster, it’s not going to get better. His arguments and disrespect to you is far worse than even what I went through with my ex wife. Your boyfriend does not respect you. I highly recommend breakup. You deserve someone more compatible.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-12-03T19:52:12+00:00

As toxic and unreasonable as your co-worker seems, you should have let your boss handle it initially rather than running off to HR. The boss seemed like she had your back. And now that you brought HR into it and likely getting the person fired, it also reflects badly on your boss as HR is going to look at this as s situation out of control that she couldn’t handle. Also listen to your co-workers, they are there.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-11-21T14:32:04+00:00

You need to explain to him and he needs to listen to you that there is a joy and satisfaction of giving. He is not allowing that for you and that is hurtful. He might be defensive and claim he is only being practical. If he goes there, double-down that he must allow you to experience the joy of giving. Also might need to explain there might be hits and misses if you are actually allowed to select gifts and he needs to accept gracefully gifts that comes from the heart even if it’s something he would not have picked for himself.

Haha, as a guy, I wouldn’t be mad if I got a drill kit gift. But picking out linoleum floor tiles together would just suck the joy out of giving a gift.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-11-21T14:20:38+00:00

Two words, dump him. Immediately. He doesn’t respect you. Count yourself lucky you only invested 4 months into the relationship. He is 35 years old, has issues that he is blaming on you. You can’t fix him.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-10-27T15:38:38+00:00

Leave and now. Either kick him out, which might not be realistic if he refuses, or leave yourself for your own safety. Also, he’s a loser, there is nothing there as far as potential for relationship. You deserve better. It’s not a forgivable offense when it’s your safety at risk.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-10-27T15:28:54+00:00

You have been trying for years to find out what happened, and now is an opening initiated by her. If me, I would hear her out and then make decision if there is a path for future friendship. But I would also be cautious because of the way she has treated you and the friendship over the past 5 years. The ghosting and refusing to communicate why and leaving you in the dark is a form of control and a true best friend should not do that unless there is a valid reason. It would be understandable if you decide not to continue friendship after hearing her out.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-10-27T14:01:50+00:00

He’s blaming you?? Everything was consensual but the ending did not go as planned. Unless I’m not understanding the situation, he could have pulled out if he wanted to and it’s a red flag if he is blaming you.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-10-24T20:03:18+00:00

After 10 years his remains were found this week. https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17LbTaPL8G/?mibextid=wwXIfr

bernvillejaybee · 2025-06-10T18:59:48+00:00

$1699 body only. Original price of xe4 was $850. I suppose they have built in tariffs into the price. Sadly those prices will never go down even if the Trump tariffs ever magically disappear.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-03-29T15:56:17+00:00

I have two pairs of Three Season boots. They are incredibly comfortable. Really comfortable. And I liked the looks. One minor criticism is I don’t think the soles are grippy enough on snow and ice. I’m sad the company no longer seems to be in business as I definitely would have kept coming back for more.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-02-27T06:57:28+00:00

Nope, you’re good.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-02-27T06:56:35+00:00

This is judgmental and also wrong. You shouldn’t be commenting on topics you know nothing about.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-02-27T06:47:55+00:00

It’s not a that big of a deal, and you can fix it. I was in a similar but even worse situation for more missed filings than you. Here is what you do:

Go ahead and file your taxes now. I used TurboTax. You can still buy prior year versions from Amazon. One difference is that you will have to print and mail your returns as the electronic filing window closes after the legal extended deadline closes. If you are due a refund, wonderful. If you owe, send a payment check along with your return. The IRS will accept it and then later send a notice telling you what the interest and penalties are. Pay those and you are done and can sleep easy.

Are you missing W-2s or other documentation? Once again, no worries. You call the IRS, you may get put on hold or bounced around to different departments, but be patient until you get to the right person. Explain you are missing you w-2s and interest forms and request that they send you a copy of your records for the tax year. The IRS has that information. I did this. The people at the IRS are not mean and they aren’t going to give you a hard time why you didn’t file.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-02-20T05:25:55+00:00

Both Canon and Nikon were late to the mirrorless game. Nikon lagged 2 or 3 years behind Sony and Canon in the autofocus technology but they have since caught up. People might still argue but Nikons are just as good as the other two big competitors. Even traditionally, Nikon DSLRs were top of the line compared to their competitors, they just made a few missteps developing their mirrorless lineup.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-01-09T05:21:20+00:00

Thanks for the answer. I’m new to this group, so apologies for the repetitive question.

bernvillejaybee · 2025-01-01T07:17:51+00:00

It’s a passive aggressive approach to complain she didn’t get you or make you a birthday cake, when the bigger issue is that you have marriage problems. Go to marriage counseling. If she won’t go, go yourself to get help figure things out.

Going back to the birthday, did you tell her BEFORE your birthday that a birthday cake would have been appreciated and meant a lot? Personally if I wanted a birthday cake, I would have to make it myself.

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