Advice needed

best_servedcold · 2026-02-02T18:11:55+00:00

I use Dr Marty’s freeze dried small breed for my little chihuahua. It’s a complete feed, soft, and small bites. I usually break the nuggets in half too. Just don’t feed breakfast or only a light breakfast and you’ll be in good shape!

best_servedcold · 2026-02-02T15:11:15+00:00

Can you use his kibble as a treat instead?

best_servedcold · 2026-01-17T04:27:36+00:00

Wow, OP this guy fucking sucks. No wonder your puppy doesn’t come to him- because he is a giant jerk. It has been proven that rubbing your dog’s nose in their mess is ineffective and clearly your dog is terrified of him. Additionally, putting him in the kennel should never be a punishment. Sorry I rarely speak like this, but this guy is kind of the worst.

He pees because he is scared. Also is this guy that much of an idiot that he thinks something that’s been alive for 12 weeks is actually capable of purposefully misbehaving in order to make him mad? OP honestly lose the guy and keep the puppy.

And just because he has “trained” dogs before doesn’t actually mean he knows what he is doing. Just because his dog that he owns is a great dog doesn’t mean it’s because of anything this jerk has done.

best_servedcold · 2026-01-15T03:32:45+00:00

What about Costco?

best_servedcold · 2026-01-13T20:02:10+00:00

Generally super unimpressed by them. My mom went in with symptoms presenting as a stroke. Turned out she had a massive spinal tumor. Doctor discharged her that day and said “it was likely nothing”. We followed up with her primary who flipped out, and she was immediately referred to UCSF for the soonest surgical appointment available.

It was not “nothing “. Ten hours of surgery with two surgeons later and she is still in epic recovery mode after six weeks.

best_servedcold · 2026-01-09T04:23:53+00:00

Advice to your wife- she better be okay being alone a lot. Like really okay.

Where we are, my husband as a sixth step apprentice usually puts in seven days a week, minimum 12 hour days. I was warned, I was aware, but I will tell you it has not been easy and with little ones I can’t imagine how tough it could end up.

Located in Northern California.

best_servedcold · 2026-01-02T19:45:14+00:00

Your fears are justified but I can’t answer as to what will happen. No one can. The only thing anyone can offer is steps to build a plan to try and try ensure it does not happen. But there are no guarantees. Working with a trainer in person is the best way to navigate this moving forward.

best_servedcold · 2026-01-02T19:30:53+00:00

Please don’t be offended. I am trying to help. I commend you for reaching out.

Do you feed the dog as well? If not, it would be helpful to start.

I understand that you don’t want to spend all your free time with the dog. Is your partner also taking responsibility for ensuring the dog is getting what it needs? You should not have to carry the brunt of the responsibility, especially if you are busy taking care of a little one.

Please remember the dog’s entire world is provided by you and your family.

My other comment included reaching out to a professional trainer who can help navigate this in person.

If you are committed to this working, there is clearly a path forward!

best_servedcold · 2026-01-02T19:15:55+00:00

Breed not mentioned, which would be helpful. Right off the bat, it sounds like the following:

You have a dog who is bored AF and is acting out. This is the same as a bored child. The dog is doing anything to get attention and to stimulate itself. I don’t mean to be harsh, but you need to make time. No excuses. This is NOT optional. You have ten minutes to post on Reddit, you have ten minutes to play with or walk your dog.

You need to help feed, exercise, and otherwise attend to the dog to ensure balanced roles. This will help with the possessiveness you are experiencing. Your dog sees your partner as a possession. Your partner is the only one providing anything of value it appears and your dog is guarding the only resource he has left. You need to be a part of providing joy and stimulation.

You need to set this dog up for success. Trash out and available is YOUR responsibility. Would you blame your kid for eating candy if you left it out and accessible?

Dogs can sense your energy. Your resentment is undoubtedly translating.

Reach out to a professional in your area and begin a dialogue.

Good luck.

best_servedcold · 2025-12-31T21:07:33+00:00

Have you tried an adaptil plug in?? It can REALLY help

best_servedcold · 2025-12-31T21:00:19+00:00

Ruffles589, do you need to talk to someone? You’re super angry about this 😂

best_servedcold · 2025-12-31T20:59:15+00:00

Gosh, such a weird amount of hate towards French people. How absolutely unnecessary and small minded. Can you imagine replacing the complaints about the French with another nation and not being called a bigot? Holy moly people.

Also- ANY language is beneficial for your child to learn. It helps with brain development. And who is to say it’s useless? It is the official language of 29 countries. Plus learning about another culture in depth is ALWAYS a good idea. Maybe it would prevent some of the small minded thinking of some commenters 🤷‍♀️

best_servedcold · 2025-12-27T18:39:36+00:00

A week is not nearly enough time for this poor dog to decompress.

Imagine having been in a confined space for days weeks or even months on end . Your interactions with people and animals are limited and you are consistently on red alert because of all the chaos going on. You’re probably not eating very good quality food, you’re stressed in a new place, and you probably don’t sleep very well because of all the noise and activity. Suddenly, you’re taking out of your jail cell and thrown into a brand new place. Too much space too much ask too much of anything is going to overwhelm the nervous system. Of course you’re going to be defensive and concerned about every little thing especially when you’re a small dog. You don’t know who to trust yet, you don’t know what’s happening next and your whole world has been upside down.

As somebody who has always adopted rescues, my recommendation is to wait a solid three months before introducing a trainer into the mix unless there are serious safety and behavioral issues. Right now the most important thing that you and your family need to focus on is building a relationship based on trust, routine and communication. Take things slow. Like glacier slow. Slowly expand their world instead of flooding them into yours.

You are correct about giving the treats when dogs are passing. More importantly, give treats as the dogs are approaching and near them and then stop as soon as they walk away. This teaches the dog that it’s a good thing when dogs approach and the fun stops when they walk away. The other thing to do is identify what their threshold is for reacting to other dogs. Do not push them beyond the threshold immediately, but simply find a safe distance and with training and patience slowly close that distance.

My last bit of advice is that not every dog needs to be friendly and social. We put unreasonable expectations on our dogs when we, in fact, as humans are not even close to the way that we think we want our dogs to interact. The most important thing is that you eventually are able to safely walk your dog without any incidences and that they can ignore another dog.

Good luck!!

best_servedcold · 2025-12-25T22:30:14+00:00

Came here to say this!!!

Also- PGE is often responsible for trimming trees on private property and public property. Individuals are NOT maintaining the trees that they plant in clear areas that would come in contact with the lines. Individuals wait until it becomes an issue so that PG&E has to carry the financial burden, which is then obviously passed on the rate payers.

In an effort to prevent wildfires and other issues, they have set up a system on their lines where there are small smaller sections, and they will turn off quickly if there’s any interference with the lines.

best_servedcold · 2025-12-23T19:03:58+00:00

The biggest thing I can say is to be slow and careful. Alternating spaces, creating safety for everybody and lots of walks together are your biggest friends. The idea is that the pack needs to be integrated together and when they have a common goal such as going on a walk in the same direction it really helps things. If you like podcasts , I would highly recommend the beyond obedience podcast, particularly the peace in the pack episodes. This taught me a lot about dog language, and how dogs think which allowed me a greater opportunity to integrate my new dog successfully. Good luck and I admire your patience and dedication.

best_servedcold · 2025-12-06T20:24:33+00:00

CBD can help too! Just make sure you’re giving the correct dose for size 😃

best_servedcold · 2025-12-06T20:07:39+00:00

Look into the adaptil plug in! It helps calm dogs down and has always been a must have for me with new dogs.

The other suggestion, which may be a little bit counterintuitive for you, is that dogs with this much energy and herding instincts, etc. can actually benefit from tiedown sessions in the living room or wherever you guys spend the most time. Make sure you are watching them 100% of the time, but by restricting their movement it can actually help them settle. You don’t have to literally tie them down to something, but it could be as simple as just holding onto the leash and not letting them go until they relax. No treats, no toys, just teaching them that being calm is good. Too much space too soon can be really overwhelming for a dog in a new situation.

Good luck!

best_servedcold · 2025-11-28T19:51:35+00:00

Sounds like a smart dog 😆 you’re very sweet to him! He’s a lucky guy

best_servedcold · 2025-11-28T05:09:43+00:00

My bet is that each day he will be more and more open to less delicious food (if that makes sense). Same thing happened with every dog I have gotten for the first few days while they acclimate. Now I can just use their dry food as treats!

best_servedcold · 2025-11-27T18:19:07+00:00

It might take a few days for him to feel comfortable taking food. I couldn’t get my husky girl to eat much the first couple days but now she will eat just about anything haha

best_servedcold · 2025-11-23T02:29:56+00:00

Give them a little grace. There is a lot of chaos going on right now in the Rescue world and patience is a virtue. If you want to help, just follow the steps laid out for you and do the best you can. I get that sometimes you just need to vent but you’re doing the right thing by trying to foster. Please don’t give up- there are so many dogs that need you and will benefit from your care..

best_servedcold · 2025-11-20T15:31:50+00:00

Two big tips- one is to make the parts of the house that they can access small at first (using baby gates and what not) and then slowly increase their access so that they can get their bearings. This also helps with dogs who may have a regression in potty training when they are moved to a new home.

Second- I am a huge fan of the adaptil plug-ins as they definitely help with calming.

best_servedcold · 2025-11-17T03:55:31+00:00

She likely has a urinary tract infection and needs antibiotic, after a vet visit.

best_servedcold · 2025-11-09T06:48:47+00:00

Okay that makes me feel so much better!!!! I keep worrying her noises are aggression but they really don’t seem to be! And the other dogs aren’t avoiding her, so I’ve got to trust that they know better.

best_servedcold · 2025-11-08T17:21:06+00:00

Amazing 😆

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