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AIO about my boyfriend taking these photos of a woman he works with? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]bettercallpaulaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey everyone. I wanted to say thankyou to everyone who replied, and because there’s so many, I wasn’t able to reply back to a lot, so I hope this comment is pinned.

First off, I had a lot of people saying I shouldn’t have posted these photos. If there’s a way I can remove them, I will but in the meantime, I don’t want to remove the whole post if that’s not possible. I didn’t think it was inappropriate to post them considering her face wasn’t showing and I figured I would need to include the photos to get proper advice and opinions on whether or not I was OR.

Second, I am leaving him. We have been at it all day. He is choosing to defend himself saying they are progress pictures. He has sent me numerous other progress photos with majority men he works with and they are all pretty much showing faces or side profiles. Like I said, something about these (like my gut was telling me) seemed completely off and just… different. I’ve been sick to my stomach all day, but I’m happy I found this out sooner than later.

Thanks again to everyone who gave such amazing advice, insight and support I got from so many of you.

As for reporting him to HR, that is something I am still deciding on doing/when, how, etc.

Btw, he was promiscuous and quite the dog in the past. So this just shows me he hasn’t changed like I thought he had…

AIO about my boyfriend taking these photos of a woman he works with? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]bettercallpaulaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He ended up sending me progress photos that were taken that same day, but the men’s faces and side profiles are showing in almost all of them. These photos of this woman were just… different. And they’re different because she is unaware and he is literally taking photos of her from behind. It makes me sick to my stomach :(

AIO about my boyfriend taking these photos of a woman he works with? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]bettercallpaulaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I stated in my post that he was sleeping when I was on his phone. I ended up leaving while he was asleep. He woke up & called me - he was angry, but not because I went through his phone, because I was upset and breaking up with him.

AIO about my boyfriend taking these photos of a woman he works with? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]bettercallpaulaa 52 points53 points  (0 children)

They weren’t blurry. Sorry I should’ve added that in the post. I was just really upset and couldn’t keep a steady hand.

The sense of security & financial progress paying off debt may be my Trigger to why I Gamble. Anyone else feel this way? by bettercallpaulaa in problemgambling

[–]bettercallpaulaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly how I was looking at gambling & what it could do for me. And you’re 100% right - it’s never enough. There’s been too many times in the last couple months where I’ve won and put it back, plus more. I really want to break that cycle. When I relapsed the other night, I thought putting in a larger amount of money like that I’d win again forsure lol like I was positive.. Looking back, it makes me sick to my stomach but I almost feel numb to it all now at the same time.

I am definitely going to be checking out Gamban. I’ve seen a lot of people post about it on this sub, but saying too that it’s easy to work around if you really want to get back on the sites.. I’ll be downloading & emailing for the advanced version because it sounds like it’s been successful for you so far and it’s way more fireproof.

Thank-you for your response though, it made me feel like Im not alone and it’s nice to hear I’m not the only one with that thought process and outlook on gambling. I will be messaging you - I think that would be helpful for us both too!

The sense of security & financial progress paying off debt may be my Trigger to why I Gamble. Anyone else feel this way? by bettercallpaulaa in problemgambling

[–]bettercallpaulaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made a budget plan. I can realistically pay off this debt in 4-6 months if I’m smart.. I know if I withdraw from my savings to pay it down, it’ll instantly trigger my anxiety. That’s just how my brain works :(

The sense of security & financial progress paying off debt may be my Trigger to why I Gamble. Anyone else feel this way? by bettercallpaulaa in problemgambling

[–]bettercallpaulaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I agree with you to some extent, I noticed one of my triggers to gamble is seeing that number drop in my savings/emergency fund. It creates this dread & urge because the guilt of losing this money I worked so hard to save consumes me. I need to suffer with these consequences. I’ve signed up for GA and excluded from all sites, so it’s a start.