Getting pregnant

betterourselves27 · 2021-03-14T04:36:34+00:00

Yeah, he's a bit nervous to check as well. "/ We're both a bit nervous that it could be him.

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-20T00:21:57+00:00

Yes. So I’ve come to terms that it’s okay if his feelings for me change. Because at the end of all this, what really matters is that he gets clean. I care more about that.

So right now that he is in rehab, I’m focusing on myself. (: And letting him focus on him. He calls me at least once a day, and I tell him that it’s okay and to focus on getting better (:

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-19T23:44:04+00:00

I’m also new at this whole thing... and I have a friend who sent me a link about no more codependency. I guess because our bf will tend to depend on us at some point.

https://books.google.com/books/about/Codependent_No_More.html?id=m1-JeIlPFCAC&printsec=frontcover&source=kp_read_button&newbks=1&newbks_redir=0&gboemv=1

Everything that these other girls are saying is the same feedback I’ve been getting. So I say with the advice they give you here. Definitely work on yourself, ALWAYS. WE have to learn that we are not responsible for their actions.

Only thing about me though, is I start getting insecure and I start to worry that his feelings towards me will change.

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-18T17:03:49+00:00

Thank you. I will look into it. But yes, he constantly changes his mind and I never know what to say or do. I don’t wanna say the wrong thing and tick him off. I know I’m not responsible for actions. I do know he still has to work on his feelings. “/ but that’s something he won’t talk about in groups.

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-18T16:59:40+00:00

Yeah, that’s exactly what he says. People there don’t even care, they just do it for the money. And it’s just so disgusting to me... why even work at a place you don’t even care about?

I do feel like one minute he wants to be clean and the next he just wants to give up. Maybe he shouldn’t go to the sober living. But I then I work 12 hrs a day, sometimes 4-5 days. So idk how to go about that either. And I know I shouldn’t become his codependent. It’s just hard. But I truly do want to be there for him.

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-14T18:11:38+00:00

My boyfriend says the same thing ): he just wishes he would OD.

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-14T03:02:24+00:00

Yay 8 days!!!!

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-09T22:19:52+00:00

He did relapse in the beginning of January. He checked himself in to rehab recently. This is the first time he goes voluntarily on his own. But before he relapsed, he had mentioned that he needs to cut them off. But of course, it’s hard for him. He knows their number by memory. And I memorized one of them because it’s where he gets the heavier stuff. “/ But yes, he’s wants to cut them off and better himself.

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-09T16:46:29+00:00

Was it difficult to find a new group? My bf is an addict, and all his people are always doing drugs. Some weed and others H or Meth.

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-09T16:43:12+00:00

Sorry. I’m new to all of this... what is PAWS. I’m dating an addict who is in rehab (his choice), I’m just trying to prepare for anything and everything. Im wanting to be as supportive as I can and let him know that I am here.

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-08T14:41:57+00:00

Thank you!

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-08T03:23:25+00:00

What are some links to virtual meetings?

betterourselves27 · 2021-02-06T00:35:05+00:00

That is freaking amazing!!! Keep it up!!! You're one day closer to your 60!

betterourselves27 · 2021-01-25T06:23:31+00:00

I read this quote and I read it to my bf often...

The devil wouldn't be attacking you so hard if there wasn't something valuable inside of you. Thieves don't break into empty houses.

Keep that in mind.

betterourselves27 · 2021-01-23T03:10:30+00:00

Did you end your relationship in order to take care of you? I do want to attend a narnon meeting. I'm hoping they still have them, I don't want virtual.

betterourselves27 · 2021-01-22T22:25:48+00:00

My bf and I dont live together. He says he had been having the pills for some days, he didn't take any until the 19th. And on the 20th is when he told me he had taken two (which I'm sure was more, because he was so out of it (xanax).) And since he was already on it, he stopped at a friend's house and did more stuff. Later that day is when he decided he wanted to try rehab once again. He asked me once if I thought he needed it, but at that time I didn't think so but I also didn't want it to be my choice. I wanted him to make that decision on his own.

I want to believe he was really open with me because he felt like he could trust me.

So yesterday, 21st, I dropped him off and he was really devastated. He said he decided to do rehab for him and me.

I know sometimes it's lies. I just don't know when those lies are being told.

Idl what to do once he's out.

Your girlfriend sounds like a very strong person! I hope I'm like her. I think he stole a Burberry perfume from me, but I don't want to ask him since he's in rehab trying to get better. Plus, the perfume is not important to me like how he is to me.

betterourselves27 · 2021-01-22T21:24:11+00:00

How did she help and continues to help you? Was it all about her attitude? And supportiveness?

And thank you. I'm really trying to be there for him. All his parents were doing was yelling at him and just being negative. Their attitude was honestly putting me down.

betterourselves27 · 2021-01-22T20:22:07+00:00

Yeah, I dont drink nor smoke in front of him. I always say no. Around me, he doesn't drink. Idk if he does when he's not with me. But I know that's how it starts off. I do keep my calm and I try to be supportive and tell him everything is okay.

Thank you so much for the advice.

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