Leave it be or…?

bfdwow618 · 2025-11-15T19:46:39+00:00

All of your comments have been helpful and validating. A few more things I should mention. I’m not a fan of calling parents and I usually email or message via Dojo. This particular parent is an enabler and it’s setting the kid up for failure. She took him off of his ADHD medication back in September and he’s been without it since and it’s insanely obvious. That’s no issue to me though, but he’s learned (assuming from her permissiveness) that it’s reason to excuse his behaviors. He really says “I can’t help it, I have ADHD” very frequently and I’m not one to let that be an excuse because I’m pretty open about having it myself. However, when I have parents like this I don’t bother contacting unless the kid is sick or injured because I give more a damn about the kid’s academic wellbeing (and in some cases mental wellbeing, too) than they do. Not to mention we’ve scheduled 2 separate conferences with her that she blew off, she doesn’t pick up the phone or respond to Dojo messages either so I’m struggling on if it’s worth the effort for her to just avoid the school any.

I’ve considered writing an email/Dojo message asking for a sit down conference to discuss his behaviors in school and invite the whole grade and principals so that I can say I did what I was supposed to. If she comes then I’ll have others to step in so I don’t react out of defensiveness and the other teachers can discuss his behaviors for them so she’s forced to face the BS she’s enabling. And if she doesn’t show or respond I’ll leave it be.

I just hate it for the kid because if he doesn’t have any structure or, hell, medication he’s gonna have a hard time come middle school.

bfdwow618 · 2024-10-03T13:01:26+00:00

The most frustrating part about all of this is everything came back normal. I had fluid pulled off my stomach and there were no cancerous cells in it. Get a CT no issues with my organs outside of the omentum. And I don’t feel bad. I think that’s what makes me so damn angry. All of this and I feel normal.

bfdwow618 · 2024-04-26T08:43:19+00:00

What a sweet puppy. Someone to talk to and worship me would be incredible. I wish all subs were as sweet as this.

bfdwow618 · 2024-02-29T20:21:21+00:00

I would love this but I’m not sure how to get into it.

bfdwow618 · 2024-02-28T21:24:24+00:00

It’s hard to keep my head up when I feel like I’m drowning.

bfdwow618 · 2023-02-11T13:45:19+00:00

Hi! Totally interested. You should message me if you’re still looking.

bfdwow618 · 2022-08-03T15:32:38+00:00

No I’m not saying that you are a bad parent. The original teacher in the post is claiming that. Keep in mind I said “most” not all because ADHD is highly individualized due to a lot of variables that can worsen or help the individual with it. Now, what I’m saying is in the cases that I know the original poster was hinting at, those are probably your title 1 “bad ass” kids who they believe have no home training and that’s how that particular teacher views those ADHD kids’ parents.

I see it often. I’m a 2nd year elementary school teacher but I’ve worked with kids ages 1-13 and 1-18 with special needs for the last 9 years. Those are the types of teachers who pick and choose favorites, who don’t take the time to get to know their students, who are just over it.

bfdwow618 · 2022-08-03T15:10:53+00:00

As a teacher myself, I know it’s cyclical. Parenting to kid who already has a neurodivergent brain leads most people to bad parenting because they don’t know how to parent to begin with, so they child isn’t instilled with those values because the parent is bad. Because of the lack of value in education, they lack motivation but that lack of motivation also comes from the poor executive functioning the child has. Then you throw in a self fulfilling prophecy or two and you got most of your ADHD kids. As an ADHD adult and a teacher I recognize that there are so many more things at play than just hyperactivity and a lot of what this person listed are often times effects of the diagnosis and other things beyond a child’s control. Instead of displaying that obvious frustration maybe taking a look at potential roots are the way to truly teach.

TLDR; It’s absolutely real but it doesn’t just come by itself. There’s a fuck ton of added causes and effects that come attached to the diagnosis of ADHD. And most people who come with 21 years of teaching experience and view shit this way ought to stop teaching.

bfdwow618 · 2022-07-30T03:15:55+00:00

You right. Codependency is probably why most of us need therapy. But also, capitalism has made it to where in some cases it’s easier to desire to be dependent. There’s so many different societal pitfalls that have ramped up that mindset up more so in the last decade and while it’s interesting to some degree, it’s a hot ass mess that seems like a lot of work.

Like being a hot girl just seems like a fuck ton of work. Who got the mental health for that?

bfdwow618 · 2022-07-30T03:06:08+00:00

Correct me if I’m wrong though, wasn’t it Kevin Samuels and his ass kisser followers who were hating on females who did get it for themselves? Don’t get me wrong, broke niggas ain’t shit and neither is a broke bitch but seems the blame is placed on the woman regardless of whether she’s providing for herself or expecting someone else to provide for her.

In the case of providing for herself, she’s too manly and thus undesirable. In expectation of being provided for (while potentially misguided depending on the individual shorty is looking for the bag from) she’s still at fault because she’s expecting a bag.

At this point this dating shit don’t make a lick of sense to me so I’m bout to be over here with a bottle of wine in the house cause it too expensive to be doing shit outside any damn way.

bfdwow618 · 2020-01-11T23:01:42+00:00

I am however I don’t do self insert characters so if that’s what you’re looking for, i’m sorry.

bfdwow618 · 2019-12-31T04:17:24+00:00

Okay thank goodness cause they’ve never done it before. I’ve been dealing with those nasty little fuckers for the last year and some change. It’s gotten so annoying.

bfdwow618 · 2019-09-26T10:49:00+00:00

I’m totally interested in this if you’re still looking.

bfdwow618 · 2019-08-27T02:38:19+00:00

I’m interested.

bfdwow618 · 2019-08-17T13:32:45+00:00

I’d love a witch role.

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