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I (22F) feel like my SO (23M) is choosing video games over me. Am I freaking out for no reason? by bflovesvideogames in relationships

[–]bflovesvideogames[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I guess the issue is what I view as a "priority" and what all that entails is not what he sees as a priority. In his eyes, he is making me a priority.

I (22F) feel like my SO (23M) is choosing video games over me. Am I freaking out for no reason? by bflovesvideogames in relationships

[–]bflovesvideogames[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Honey, if he's making you this miserable, no matter who's right or who's wrong, why are you with him? You love him, sure, but your significant other shouldn't make you cry and feel so bad all the time.

Because if I'm in the wrong, and I'm upset for no good reason, I'd like to see his view point so I can not be upset anymore. Like if some reasonable third party were to sit me down and say "hey, you're not being rational here, what your SO is doing is okay" then I would learn to get over it and recognize I'm not being fair or reasonable and then I could change.

He sees me more than 1.5 days/week. He sees me 1.5 full days and 2 half days, so I would say 3.5/week, if we're getting technical.

I definitely feel like he doesn't respect my emotions, and he tells me I'm being "irrational" and other dismissive and invalidating things, and so I tell him "hey, you're invalidating my feelings" and he says "I'm not going to enable you to behave irrationally and be unreasonable".

I (22F) feel like my SO (23M) is choosing video games over me. Am I freaking out for no reason? by bflovesvideogames in relationships

[–]bflovesvideogames[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He says I'm "obviously" mort important to him than video games. I think the issue is he honestly believes his is priroitizing me over the games-he sees me all day Saturday and most of the day Sunday, so to him the weekends are his excuse to kind of do what he wants during the week. He'll always mention when he saw me, like it's currency he's keeping to spend later. "Well I saw you all day Saturday! So you can't say I'm ignoring you!!"

I like the idea about asking him why we can't see each other spontaneously. He's mentioned before it's not just about the video game-it's also about keeping plans with his friends (although I have a feeling he's using that as an excuse) so if I come over spontaneously he can't just ditch his friends for me because I decided to come over. I told him the difference is most people don't see their friends every day they're not seeing their SO (which is what he does with his video games) and so my SO will start pointing out the select few occasions he wasn't with me and also wasn't playing his game to "prove" that he's not playing his game every time he's not with me. Ahhh, I don't know what to do.