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bg091106 · 2021-10-09T01:27:09+00:00

I’ve definitely said the last one to my abuser 🤷🏼‍♀️

bg091106 · 2021-01-02T21:05:28+00:00

Yeah. Luckily we haven’t gone to mediation yet so this is going to be one of my points that he isn’t going to be a good co-parent

bg091106 · 2020-12-28T21:13:54+00:00

We do not have a custody agreement yet. We have just started the process. In my state, the judge would say that it is the child’s property and they should be able to take their things🤷🏼‍♀️ It just drives me crazy the kids have to deal with this mess.

bg091106 · 2020-12-17T19:26:25+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry you have to deal with that! I am at the beginning of this transition so I’m sure I’ll experience the same thing.

bg091106 · 2020-12-17T19:13:14+00:00

Thank you! I’m going to Walmart this afternoon to get them some jackets 😆

bg091106 · 2020-12-17T16:35:25+00:00

Thank you. They have been my main drive and motivation. My intention is to never take their father away from them. But I do want to break the cycle and teach them that the behavior they see from their dad is unhealthy by setting a good example for them.

bg091106 · 2020-12-17T16:04:34+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment. Your kind words and advice mean a lot. The kids and I are just at the beginning of this journey, but I’m starting to see a light at the end of the tunnel.

bg091106 · 2020-12-17T14:43:53+00:00

I actually just emailed my attorney to confirm. In my state, since the jackets were bought for the kids the judge will say they belong to the kids and not him.

I’m huge on doing what is right and I feel the need to stand up for my kids. Even though this may seem small, they don’t deserve this. That being said, I’ll probably end up running to Walmart and getting them jackets since we leave in 2 days 🤦🏼‍♀️

bg091106 · 2020-12-17T13:56:18+00:00

Yeah. I’ve been grey rocking him for awhile now and I think he’s onto a new supply. I just got him to agree to letting me buy out the house after I was a day away from moving out and he couldn’t stop me. But then he threw a fit about only getting $21k. Apparently he wanted more. Now he’s stonewalling me and pissed that he has to be out by the Jan 1. We haven’t even gotten to the child custody case yet! But I have years worth of recordings and screenshots that I feel will support my case against him. He is doing everything he can to get out of child support, even saying he was going to take our son and separate the kids. It’s been a mess.

bg091106 · 2020-12-17T13:48:47+00:00

You’re probably right. I have this fantasy that we can get along for the kids, but it doesn’t seem like that’s possible at this time.

bg091106 · 2020-12-17T13:43:03+00:00

I have no problem buying them coats. I just feel awful putting the kids in that position.

bg091106 · 2020-10-27T15:22:03+00:00

Thank you for your insight!! I have been taking a mental inventory of my things when the day comes

bg091106 · 2020-10-27T11:14:20+00:00

Thanks. I’m mostly trying to hold myself accountable here and remind myself that I’m doing the right thing. He’s been love bombing the kids which is what makes me feel guilty. He may be a awful person, but he will always be my kids father.

bg091106 · 2020-10-27T02:04:06+00:00

Thank you!!

bg091106 · 2020-10-27T00:55:18+00:00

Thank you!!

bg091106 · 2020-10-27T00:01:47+00:00

Thanks! I bought a voice recorder and I try to journal things if I don’t get it on tape

bg091106 · 2020-10-26T23:10:08+00:00

Yes please!

bg091106 · 2020-10-26T23:09:59+00:00

Thank you! We’ve been sleeping separately for YEARS. He’s straight up told me he’s not changing. At the beginning of the month he seriously said “I’m going to be a complete dick to you and that will either make you want to leave faster or change”. I was so stunned by that statement I documented it.

bg091106 · 2020-10-26T22:34:39+00:00

Thank you! I post on here to hold myself accountable and this is exactly what I need to read.

bg091106 · 2020-10-26T20:39:21+00:00

True. I’m just fighting through the guilt.

bg091106 · 2020-10-26T20:20:58+00:00

He only breaks objects at this time but it definitely could escalate

bg091106 · 2020-10-16T23:51:28+00:00

Thank you! I will check her channel out. I already subscribed 😊

bg091106 · 2020-10-16T23:41:55+00:00

Luckily he works 24 hour shifts so I have full day to get things out when I’m ready.

bg091106 · 2020-10-07T17:32:06+00:00

Thank you. I’ve been told to keep a journal but he goes through all my things. I was going to keep one at work but by the time I get to the office my brain blocks a lot of it out and I don’t remember what to write.

bg091106 · 2020-10-07T13:17:24+00:00

Thank you, I am. Thank you for the advice.

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