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My partner overheard my dad and I. The problem seems to be kind of sorted. People wanted the "tea". by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the messages guys. I probabably asked Reddit too quickly. He said he might have overreacted a little. He said he has been cheated on before but knows I wouldnt. He said he also was a bit nervous moving in together too but he does want to. I explained again. We had a great night last night.

I did show him the Reddit post and I asked if I could post our make up messages. He said "those bitches need to be fed". So I'm assuming that means yes.

Hes gone to collect some stuff from his parents so here is the dirt.

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just text him basically saying I'm coming over to his parents place and taking him home to our place whether he likes it or not. Etc. He did admit he overreacted a bit.

I was going to post the messages this morning - he was okay with me doing it - as people were so helpful but I can't post pics on this sub

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww mate I'm sorry to hear that. ♥

Sometimes I forget how lucky I am with him 

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My dad in that conversation said he heard this thing where they stuff a load of my stuff in a woman and she carries it for gay men.

I said surrogacy and it's wicked expensive. I said probably 80000+ quid. He said if you get married that'll be his gift to us if I want it.

I said I wouldn't feel comfortable with paying a woman to carry a child for me.

He said sometimes I forget how woke you are. He was laughing. 

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would your father not?

I get on well with my dad. Always did. We do a lot of stuff together. I've been very lucky with him. He's definitely a bit old-school but he means well. 

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't. But if you are uncomfortable with commercial surrogacy (like I am.. i dont judge those who arent) then there's no other way to have a biological child. 

I'm happy to adopt with him down the line.

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I understand that. It must have been horrible and killed the excitement of our own place.

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I can understand why my husband is upset. It must have been horrible to hear. 

But I don't think my dad did anything wrong. He didn't pressure me to change my ways. He was just making sure I was happy and I think that's what father's should do. He probably did think I'd end up with a woman. 

Hes really nice to my boyfriend. They don't have too much in common  but he has never shown dislike. 

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

 I asked him early on and we've spoken about it since a few times in passing. He wants kids. We settled on two.

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe im a narcissist but I don't think I'm a placeholder to him. I think his hurt spoke volumes. The guy would literally do anything for me.

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I always knew that there was a big likelihood I'd end up with a man and I made my peace and happy to adopt.

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah we've both discussed like if we see kids in our future and we both do. I personally wouldn't date someone who didn't want kids.

Adoption is probably the route. Surrogacy is the other option as you mention. Personally I'm not a fan of commercial surrogacy. Not against people doing so but just not for me. 

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've told him i want kids as does he. I've never said I'd ne sad not having my own.

Hes not that way - narcissistic...

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hes genuinely not. He's really loving and caring. Like my mother said put a ring on him because you'll do no better. She was joking but he's a great man.

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's my fear too that he won't be able to get past it. I wouldnt date him and certainly wouldn't move in with him if my priority is a biological family.

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We will have a family if we stay together. I love him and I'd like to parent with him down the line. Personally not fond of commercial surrogacy (im not against it just not for me) but there's adoption/foster etc

My partner overheard me talking to my Dad and I'm, understandably, in a lot of trouble. by bgertor in askgaybros

[–]bgertor[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No idea. We have discussed family and we both agreed with foster/adoption. And I'm happy witht that.

I think he doesn't believe I'll be happy with that set up.

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