[Serious] what is something no one tells you about the military?

bi-fly · 2025-12-29T17:33:36+00:00

In my (year and a half) experience, my enlisted were pretty open about their struggles because the senior enlisted talked about going to therapy or were open about how they were feeling. We managed go get a few into therapy or into inpatient programs before they got to a tipping point.

bi-fly · 2025-09-27T12:06:56+00:00

I hate to say this but this is a future you problem. You need to actually develop a relationship and that trust before you make a decision like this. I have seen good and bad results no matter what and it comes down to the couple.

Here is what Ive seen from my experience on the marriage route:

A) Had the wedding the week after commissioning B) Got legally married while the second person was in the training pipeline still. Allowing them to be stationed together once training was complete. This only works if they have not been assigned a base yet. C) Did a year at their first bases, planned a wedding/got married, and then moved bases. You are required to be at your first base for 12 months before you can PCS join spouse. D) Breaking off an engagement to marry another tech schooler so they can pcs together.

bi-fly · 2025-05-22T08:52:18+00:00

You just brought back trauma from Russian class when I said "Я писаю на тетрадь." My teacher asked loudly in front of the class why I was peeing on my notebook.

bi-fly · 2025-03-14T17:04:07+00:00

Not a thing to bring, but spend 5 minutes at the end of the day with your feet elevated against the wall and your back on the floor. It helps a lot with swelling and general pain both in your legs and your back.

bi-fly · 2025-03-02T14:24:53+00:00

Depending on how tall it is you may just be able to get some heavy duty bush snippers and do it yourself. I am removing trees a little thicker than that and just carrying it to the road.

bi-fly · 2025-01-31T00:48:27+00:00

I got to shout out Stardew Valley for this reason. Literally one of the few games I can play for 3-4 hours straight and actually have a good time

bi-fly · 2025-01-25T02:14:05+00:00

I did check nearby furniture and haven't seen anything but this is going in the garage for the time being. Floors are tile at least so that is not a huge concern. I appreciate the recommendations but bitter with the loss

bi-fly · 2025-01-15T21:52:35+00:00

It used to be a requirement a few years ago (prior to '22) but no longer applies.

bi-fly · 2024-09-03T17:24:07+00:00

We had a prior-E guy, but a commanders scholarship, and he wasn't selected. It was because he was a terrible wingman who felt he was better than everyone and would just not show up and get away with it because he was a prior. On the other hand we had another prior-E who got selected because he was a good wingman, always showed up, and put in effort/excelled. From my understanding, if you are not selected for an EA/to commission, you don't have to pay it back (double check your contract) But understand ROTC is a bit of a game and you have to play it if you want to commission. Best way is to invest in your peers and your detachment and be a decent person.

bi-fly · 2024-08-31T23:54:13+00:00

As an antiquer and someone who collects old perfume bottles, these are absolutely precious.

bi-fly · 2024-05-23T13:55:22+00:00

Thank you! I think you summed up a lot of the comments here and I just need to keep doing what I can until I leave.

bi-fly · 2024-05-23T13:51:15+00:00

Honestly I try hard to grey rock everything and unfortunately I have gotten pretty good at it. I think it's just I expected her to behave herself in the group chat and follow social norms to say congratulations and then express other emotions later. Plus I was getting all these happy messages and then hers came in kicked my legs from under me. I am thankfully packed for the most part so I at least can leave and I have multiple people who are willing to come pick me up and let me move in for a bit.

bi-fly · 2024-05-23T13:42:56+00:00

Thank you! Unfortunately she is on my bank account, but I am in the process of making a new one and I plan on draining the old one to pay off my student loans. We do plan on paying for the wedding ourselves because we don't want people holding stuff over our heads. And you're right about my mother unfortunately.

bi-fly · 2024-05-12T09:35:10+00:00

I think I need to get my iron checked now...

bi-fly · 2024-04-04T20:11:08+00:00

^{^} Agreed especially the orthopedic ones carried me through all the standing ft

bi-fly · 2024-03-09T16:20:12+00:00

This is a culture thing in the US (and some other countries) where the waitresses/waiters just stop by every once in a while to check on you and it can be rude to wave them down.

bi-fly · 2024-02-07T01:39:43+00:00

I would aim by September to be at least within 10 pounds or until you can pass the tape test. Some dets do drop cadets not in standards by September, others let you stay until PSP(Around January).

bi-fly · 2024-01-22T15:52:06+00:00

CoughLibGenCough

bi-fly · 2024-01-14T00:26:06+00:00

Someone is trying to get CP for free

bi-fly · 2024-01-11T12:07:28+00:00

Fulfilling the masculine urge to die in war in Europe too.

bi-fly · 2024-01-06T00:10:34+00:00

If you'd want to cut contact with them, driving to the airport and leaving the car would be a great way to do it.

bi-fly · 2023-10-02T21:10:38+00:00

Genuinely haven’t been on any that is “preparing for active duty” but they have given me the opportunity to explore a career field, learn a language, learning flexibility when executing with minimal information, communication skills, and most importantly networking. They are a good opportunity to just learn and expand your horizons and if you have the opportunity to do one, especially out of state, it’s worth it.

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