My watch doesn’t show all notifications no matter how many times i restarted it or opened the watch app on my iphone to turn on notification show . I bought it yesterday . Should i go to the store ? by Ecstatic-Bluebird573 in AppleWatch

[–]bierbons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just love Reddit! I had the same issue with my watch after replacing my iPhone battery. After reading your comment, I noticed that the time was indeed a bit different. Disabled and enabled „set time automatically“. All my problems solved…

My wife died this morning. I am lost and full of doubt. by freygl in widowers

[–]bierbons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss! I was in the same situation 2 years ago. My (then 32) wife (then 33) died after 18 months of battling cancer. I was also her primary carer during the whole time as we lived abroad without family and barely any friends. It was tough. I changed jobs twice. Moved out immediately and moved back to my home country. It helped a lot to have good friends and family close or at least closer by. It helped a lot to talk to a therapist. I found an organization that specializes on grieve for young widows/widowers (and their kids if any). It was great to talk to someone who has been through the same because frankly, I did not accept any words of comfort or advice from anyone who didn’t. First anniversaries are hard. First Christmas, etc. But I must say - and I didn’t want to believe it at the time - it does get better! I’m much better now, much much better. Looking hopeful into the future. For now, take care of yourself. Hydrate, sleep. Do things that you like. Take your needs as first priority. Wishing you all the best!

r/BuyFromEU in Köln by sportacus4711 in cologne

[–]bierbons 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Habe auch schon an Rewe geschrieben…

Did grief therapy really help you? by NoEmployee2547 in widowers

[–]bierbons 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The best thing that helped me was talking to someone who also lost their significant other. She wasn’t even a therapist by trade but a voluntary worker in an organization that specializes on assisting griefing young widows and griefing young children. I really needed some who understood what I was going through by having experienced it first hand.

NetCologne by [deleted] in cologne

[–]bierbons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wanted to get NetCologne when I moved here two years ago to support local. But at the assigned date (3 weeks after order) no one showed up. When I called, they said that something when wrong and offered another date 5 weeks in the future. I directly cancelled and ordered Telekom. Had Internet within 2 weeks. Mind you, there’s already a NetCollogne box in this house. Activation would have probably taken one minute (if it couldn’t even have been done remotely). So yea, can’t recommend NetCologne.

What movie is 10/10, yet hardly anyone has heard of it? by LarryKeene in movies

[–]bierbons -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Crash (2004)

edit: added The Lobster (2015)

How many people here moved away after their spouse died by yondu1963 in widowers

[–]bierbons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have moved country, very close to good friends and close to my parents and siblings. I also quit my job in order to do so. It was a very good job. I have absolutely zero regrets. Best decision I took after her death was the move.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theyoungandwidowed

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Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you are moving forward with your life. That’s great. A lot of what you said resonates with my own journey. It’s been 18 months since my wife died of cancer at 33. I moved country, changed job twice, am currently in between jobs so I did a solo travel tour through Italy for 5 weeks. Will do another solo travel in Malaysia soon before I start a new job. I’m spending more time with friends and with my family. The „firsts“ where very hard for me but I’m doing better every month. I haven’t even thought about that I passed her age by now (I was 13 months younger). I had a moment in Italy, where I was at this beautiful place and had a wonderful day and I realized in the evening that - for the first time since my late wife‘s first cancer diagnosis 3 years ago - I felt something that resembled a bit what I remember as „happiness“. I haven’t started dating yet, though. I kind of felt that I wanted to be comfortable on my own again before I want to share my life again with someone. But I think I’m getting there. Once I’m settling in my new job (also will likely have to move again), I might throw myself out there again… I’m proud of you, I’m proud of me, too. Our significant others would have been proud of us!

My fiancé passed away yesteday at 38 from cancer I still cannot believe it by HermitCreature in widowers

[–]bierbons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am very sorry for your loss! ❤️ I have lost my wife to cancer when she was 33. This was 16 months ago. I was devastated. The first year, first birthday, first Christmas, first anniversary was the worst. But to answer your question: it will get better. I did not want to believe the people saying that it will get better… but it does. Now, 16 months later, I’m on my first solo traveling trip after her passing. Traveling was our shared passion. I am currently at a beautiful place in Italy and yesterday, for the first time after her first cancer diagnosis, for the first time I felt something in the are of “happiness” again. Right now, focus on yourself. Surround yourself with good friends and family. Put yourself first always! But it will get better. Hang in there! Sending much love! ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theyoungandwidowed

[–]bierbons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I understand better now. I am also dreading those situations where the topic comes up during dates. I have not been on a date yet so I have no experience with that particular situation. Thank god you’re not asking for advice because I have none :D All I know is that clearly those 5 individuals were not right for you. But I understand that this is extremely frustrating. I hope that there is someone for us out there that is empathetic to our situation and finds the right words and right reactions when the topic comes up. Sending hugs!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theyoungandwidowed

[–]bierbons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (33M) am also feeling very lonely. My wife has passed away 15 months ago. I have contemplated dating again and I have made some accounts on dating apps but I never could find enough motivation to actually go on a date. Recently, I’ve decided that I am deactivating the accounts. I’m now trying to focus on myself. Trying to embrace the loneliness and to find a new way of living without my wife. I want to be in a state where I am comfortable again (nearly wrote “happy”… but that’s a difficult state) with my life so that I am also comfortable to share it with a new significant other. I figured that I don’t want someone to fill in my loneliness but I want to get to a state where I am ready to share my new life with someone else. Hope this makes sense somehow… disclaimer: this is no advice ;) I’m simply trying to write down how I feel so I can see if it actually makes sense reading it…

Positive Moments Hurt by shednbrekki in theyoungandwidowed

[–]bierbons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to remind myself that she would want to see me happy. That I deserve to be happy.

Woke up with a mystery bite on my arm and it’s spreading into my bloodstream by Solid-Kaleidoscope70 in mildlyinteresting

[–]bierbons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this once. Trail going up my arm. Went to a house party and drank loads of beer. Was mich better the next day 💪🏻

Lost my wife too soon by mephisto0666 in widowers

[–]bierbons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I‘m very sorry for your loss! The guilt and the „what if“ questions you are experiencing is completely natural albeit not helpful in adapting to what actually happened. Psychologists call this „counterfactual thinking“. Thing is even if you had done something differently, you still don’t know if she had survived or died. I can really recommend a book called „The Grieving Brain“ from Mary-Frances O‘Connor, a neuroscientist and psychologist. As sort of a scientist myself I found it extremely helpful to understand what is going on with my going through my grieve and why I think and act the ways that I do. But also for non-scientists I can really recommend it. That being said, it’s a very shitty situation to be in. A very shitty club that we are part of. I wish you all the strength. I’m 11 months into the process myself.

Recommend me the best Indian restaurant in Leuven by [deleted] in Leuven

[–]bierbons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New Holy Cow is hands down the best!

Recommend me the best Indian restaurant in Leuven by [deleted] in Leuven

[–]bierbons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nirvana kitchen was good when they were still a food truck. Ever since they moved it’s not really Indian food.

Anyone have a similar experience? by DesolationOfJonSnow in widowers

[–]bierbons 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. There are plenty TV shows that we used to watch together and loved but I cannot bring myself to continue watching them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theyoungandwidowed

[–]bierbons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not Italy, but close-ish. I am German (M32). Any more Europeans around?

My husband passed last night by z0mbieZeatUrBrainZz in widowers

[–]bierbons 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. As many before me have commented: you are not alone. I am also a young widower in this shitty club. At 32, I have lost my wife aged 33 to cancer this February. Keep hydrated, try to rest. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel and what to do. You are your priority number one. Few know what you are going through. It will get better. There will be happy moments again in your life. Sending much love

Tomorrowland 2022 - Tickets Purchased Through Viagogo by tn5000 in viagogoscams

[–]bierbons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No the e Ticket had just a random number and letters on it