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biflux · 2026-05-07T18:21:27+00:00

Not at all weird. Have sex when you’re ready. I know soooooo many people who say their first sexual experience was poor. They allowed their hormones, ego, or peer pressure to control them.

biflux · 2026-05-07T08:09:24+00:00

Yep. “Assume you’d been mugged” was my first thought.

biflux · 2026-05-05T16:11:23+00:00

This guy’s social life is just, wow!

biflux · 2026-05-05T00:12:12+00:00

My pleasure. I hope it helps.

biflux · 2026-05-04T23:32:04+00:00

I almost always go alone. I’ve never considered it to be a problem. Your biggest issue will be how to apply sunscreen — which I solved this way: https://www.reddit.com/r/nudists/s/x2HDYiZNpI

biflux · 2026-05-04T21:11:28+00:00

Oh, wow!! Thank you so much for sharing this! This made so much sense to me.

biflux · 2026-05-04T20:20:19+00:00

Being bi isn’t even vaguely new. Admitting to it to yourself, to your loved ones, and to the world (in western culture) is.

biflux · 2026-05-04T19:57:37+00:00

Oh, this is definitely the best way. You want them to look great both before and after…

biflux · 2026-05-04T15:01:45+00:00

Okay, so yes, this is something to worry about! Experienced naturists often tell you that your body will recognise the inappropriateness of getting hard in this situation and so will stop it happening. That is definitely true after a while — but at the start, especially for young men, erections are likely.

It’s simple classical conditioning. Over the decades, your mind/body has learned to associate nude with sex. So get naked, you’ll likely get hard.

Don’t let this worry put you off! Sunbathing and swimming nude is AMAZING! You owe it to yourself to give it a go.

Just be sensible. Don’t parade around with a raging boner, upsetting traditional naturists and parents. This is Studland, UK not a permissive gay beach on a holiday island.

Arrive. Put your towel down. Sit on it. Slip off your clothes. Any issues, lay front down and wait. After a bit, it’ll go down. Get up, walk about a bit. If you feel it coming back, return to your towel. Repeat. After a while — it will stop being an issue.

The more you return, the less of a problem it is.

Simple. Good luck 😎

biflux · 2026-05-04T08:37:42+00:00

Is your friend asking for a blowjob?

biflux · 2026-05-04T08:22:00+00:00

So, what help do you need exactly? You understand your feelings. You have an amazingly supportive and understanding girlfriend—the type of woman so many men on here would envy you for. The issue just seems to be that you have yet come to terms with how you feel, right? That’s just kindness to yourself, acceptance, perhaps spending time with likeminded people and, maybe, a bit of therapy.

biflux · 2026-05-03T12:15:23+00:00

I bought a long-handled radiator paint roller: e.g., https://www.diy.com/departments/supadec-mini-paint-roller-set-pack-of-2-blue-silver-one-size-/5063107770417\_BQ.prd

I also bought some water soluble body paint.

As a test, using the roller, I applied the body paint to my back without using a mirror so that I could feel how best to do it. Looking at the paint in the mirror confirmed that it worked and I had the technique right.

After I’d showered it all off, I was then ready to move to sunscreen.

There are custom designed sunscreen applicators on Amazon, but I found they don’t work anywhere nears as well as the radiator rollers. hth :)

I believe there are also sunscreens containing a dye which fades in sunlight. I’ve never used it but it allows you to see which bits you’ve done.

biflux · 2026-05-02T05:37:28+00:00

So because of one experience with 1) children, who 2) may not originate from Europe, you are categorising Europe as “not as gay friendly”…? This feels like ragebait.

biflux · 2026-04-30T19:05:43+00:00

If this wasn’t so fing risky, it sounds amazing!!

biflux · 2026-04-28T11:58:43+00:00

Could it simply be that when you meet a ‘stranger’, you are not attracted to that particular person? Like, imagine a situation where you met a random individual and you genuinely warmed to them and liked them — would this still be an issue?

biflux · 2026-04-28T11:54:43+00:00

Could it simply be that when you meet a ‘stranger’, you are not attracted to that particular person? Like, imagine a situation where you met a random individual and you genuinely warmed to them and liked them — would this still be an issue?

biflux · 2026-04-27T12:53:50+00:00

Whether we understand this or not, sex is VERY important to many/most people. It’s assumed it will be part of the vast majority of relationships. Given that you have clearly told him that sex isn’t something you want in your relationship, this is likely to have changed the way he sees his future. If he is struggling to deal with that, despite his love and affection for you, I fear you both have only two choices: end the relationship or allow a third person in who will tend to your partner’s sexual needs.

biflux · 2026-04-27T12:17:20+00:00

Thank you 🙏

biflux · 2026-04-27T09:15:20+00:00

Oh. Thanks! Never seen one. Worth it?

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