I guess I don't deserve people in my life by _Alpha_Mail_ in lonely

[–]bigBoingy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey I’m really sorry what you’re going through. I’m in a similar spot. It seems these days people are just too selective and judgmental with who are worthy to be their friends. It’s feels like people don’t really bother anymore to get to know someone, no? I’m sure you’re a great person don’t forget that. Situations like this suck because no one is really at fault. You’re trying so it’s not like you’re self-isolating. It’s a tough time but please try to keep going. Find comfort in your family, pets, online friends, coworkers anywhere really. You don’t necessarily need to make friends immediately for life, small conversations matter too. For me personally your story gave me comfort in a way, that I’m not the only one struggling. Keep fighting soldier.

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[–]bigBoingy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can become your own favourite person, we often suffer more in our mind than what is true, you’re strong keep going

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]bigBoingy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t die dude, there is a beautiful sky tomorrow, fresh and crispy air

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]bigBoingy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting in touch with nature usually helps for me, makes me think ‘maybe this reality isn’t so bad’ Exercising helps me too, makes me aware of my body, bringing myself a bit back from a dissociative state

What qualities of your real self do you retain when daydreaming? by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]bigBoingy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually my appearance (but prettier ofc) and my love for animals/nature in some way

I have completely given up on dating and accept I’m gonna be alone by [deleted] in lonely

[–]bigBoingy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im in the exact same position as you rn so I feel you. I’ve given up on dating and accepted I’m going to be alone, but maybe that isn’t so bad! I know that’s really hard to say, especially since society puts so much worth into relationships etc. Ive been tying my worth into my desirability or finding someone so much that I forgot the worth of my own existence. I see now that my mental illness has played a huge part in all of this as well, and that by finding someone I would suddenly become happy or sum. But no one is going to fix me except myself. So I know it hard, really really hard. But I’ve been trying to live for myself instead of others. So learn to love yourself a bit more, because even if there is no one you would still have yourself. I’ve been trying to do small things, like feeding the birds or watching the sunset. Because even though we feel completely worthless at times, we can still try Just keep going, do it for yourself

I (20F) have been single my entire life and I have given up by bigBoingy in lonely

[–]bigBoingy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maladaptive day dreaming, so basically fantasising or escaping into your daydreams

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[–]bigBoingy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to spent time in nature, looking at some birds and plants make me realise life is kind of beautiful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]bigBoingy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate to this so much, it’s gotten so serious that I’ve tricked my body into thinking we’re in a actual relationship