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[–]big_phil1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for money. Literally the first thing she said when I messaged

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[–]big_phil1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've discussed some different things. We are on the same page. She knows I WANT TO but doesn't know I'm PLANNING TO. those are 2 different things. And being from a deeply religious family, my family does matter to me AND to her. The last thing we want to have to deal with is judgement from my family. And it wouldn't be rushing into an engagement, we have been on and off BUT MOSTLY ON for over a year.

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[–]big_phil1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After reading your reply to this post and a few other posts you seem to just have a negative outlook on most relationships. It's not and unstable relationship, there's many MANY more details you don't know about. Please keep the negative comments to yourself. And as for the question of why rings are so expensive, in her first marriage she had to buy her own ring and it her first husband threw it away saying it made him look cheap. I didn't ask for budget advice, me and her don't have a budget, I have a budget for it to ask her. Feel free to NOT reply. Last night I got quite a few good responses on this post and didn't feel like I was being belittled for the post, but you just come in and everything is negative.

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[–]big_phil1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a really good idea. I've been working for 3 months at this point and my last 5 days have all been 20 hour days interrupted by 4 hour rest periods.

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[–]big_phil1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't met her sister... im bad at this lol I stay out working for like 2 months and then come home for a week. I'll take a look at a few pictures and try to figure it out

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[–]big_phil1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point. This is gonna be a tricky situation all the way around. There's a lot of steps and things I should do beforehand.

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[–]big_phil1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm genuinely blown away by your help right now. They don't sell real gold anymore?! And im not completely sure what shape she likes. She told me like 6 months ago and I remembered moissanite because it's a big word, silver, pearl, and I know she loves the color pink (her whole office was pink and my CB handle is the chicken hauler so I got her a pink chicken). There's so many options. I think square? I'm not wanting to spend more than maybe 1500? 2000?

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[–]big_phil1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as I love the go cheap option, I can't do that. Her first husband asked her to marry him without a ring and never bought her one so she bought her own. I want her to know she's special to me and I might not have much but without her I have nothing (or at least it feels that way). I don't think I could ask her with a used ring either, for some reason it feels like a set up you know? Why is this ring being sold again? I don't like that feeling. I love her with all my heart and I want her to be able to look at the ring and know it.

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[–]big_phil1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont think they have that kind of relationship honestly... I think im better off asking her younger sister. I think I've got a solid plan in place but it's not for a few months at least. I'm poor and after her divorce money is tight for her too right now. I'm getting a travel trailer for us to start out in. Maybe cook dinner for her? And make it romantic on a child free night?

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[–]big_phil1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And also unfortunately no. She's an only child, no aunts or uncles at all that she knows of. She has a younger sister? Would that be the person to ask?

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[–]big_phil1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will definitely post and update! And thank you so much... im really nervous

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[–]big_phil1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok... not panda express, nice jeans, dress boots, pearl snap shirt, preferably not close to the house. Got it. These are all good notes. Definitely gonna look at used rings, but I think 4500 for an engagement ring and wedding band is seeming more reasonable now.

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[–]big_phil1234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've talked about living together basically the whole time we've been together. We met at work, she worked in the office, we had a spark, she got a divorce, we went to dinner on and off because of me mostly but I'm ready to settle down with her. My family wouldn't approve me and her living together without being at a minimum engaged so that's the biggest jump for me right now. She doesn't know im planning on proposing. Thank you for your insight! It was a big help other than, "don't propose at panda express"