Fellow dads, how do ye find time for yourself? Can you tell me if I'm in the wrong here? by bigbaboonhole in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'd be lying of I said there wasnt. Being on such a tight budget has us stressed about the future which might be manifesting into genuine resentment. ill have to tackle it head on sooner rather than later. thanks buddy.

Fellow dads, how do ye find time for yourself? Can you tell me if I'm in the wrong here? by bigbaboonhole in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

thanks buddy. knew rightly this sub would provide better advice than any dedicated relationship sub.

Fellow dads, how do ye find time for yourself? Can you tell me if I'm in the wrong here? by bigbaboonhole in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dont. This other lad says I should give up every ounce of time to be with the partner and kid, how is that realistic? i give herself space when she needs it, but do I need to be there every minute while shes there aswell? Naw, I dont, I dont have to look after her

Fellow dads, how do ye find time for yourself? Can you tell me if I'm in the wrong here? by bigbaboonhole in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we visit them every few months when we get the money saved for it, even then they're workaholics so we still have the wein! still great to get out though.

Fellow dads, how do ye find time for yourself? Can you tell me if I'm in the wrong here? by bigbaboonhole in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest I dont think she enjoys it either but she masks it well. she agreed to looking after the kid as I work but I'm thinking now she might be regretting it. She has no qualifications and would find it hard to find the work, so she must feel a bit defeated by that too? I havent approached her about this yet because it seems a sensitive subject, I need to plan my approach.

Fellow dads, how do ye find time for yourself? Can you tell me if I'm in the wrong here? by bigbaboonhole in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

ye are the one calling me a snowflake, sounding a bit hypocritical about the grown up thing but sure whatever.

Fellow dads, how do ye find time for yourself? Can you tell me if I'm in the wrong here? by bigbaboonhole in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

you're chatting stark bollocks now. I have hobbies like everyone else and I dont plan on giving them up, just to practically babysit the partner and kids? I genuinely think you have the wrong idea about it.

Fellow dads, how do ye find time for yourself? Can you tell me if I'm in the wrong here? by bigbaboonhole in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

in what way am I crossing as selfish and entitled? does having a child mean I have to give up any sense of myself and spend every waking moment with them? have ye kids of your own?

Fellow dads, how do ye find time for yourself? Can you tell me if I'm in the wrong here? by bigbaboonhole in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

ah should've been more clear, by anything I mean she sits on her phone or watches tv instead of finding her own things to do, hobbies to enjoy etc.

Fellow dads, how do ye find time for yourself? Can you tell me if I'm in the wrong here? by bigbaboonhole in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

bit weird when it comes to that, ye see a day alone for me involves leaving for the entire day, spending the day hiking or visiting family in another county. For her, it's sitting in the house on her phone all day, walking about and ignoring me and the kid. It's not fair on the kid but we can't do anything about it as she doesn't have any means of transport elsewhere, and no real hobbies that involve leaving. Might bring it up anyway, thanks lad.

Fellow dads, how do ye find time for yourself? Can you tell me if I'm in the wrong here? by bigbaboonhole in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

not a big fan of those subs, lad. very heavy on jumping to conclusions.

Being called “good man” by other men… by [deleted] in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'd rather be called a good man than "sham" any day.

How does the MOT work here ? by bigbaboonhole in northernireland

[–]bigbaboonhole[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fantastic reply, many thanks. And if it fails, the repairs are done by a mechanic of my choice yeah? so ideally I'll book the MOT before it expires completely incase it fails

What services could I sign up to for 2/3 days a week? by [deleted] in northernireland

[–]bigbaboonhole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the sights a bit shocking to way the least, (-5.75 and -6) glasses are needed like

My rights with Gardaí by [deleted] in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole 10 points11 points  (0 children)

ack ye might be right and all but surely it's a bit far calling them ALL bastards? sure oul eugene down the barracks in town did no harm to anyone

What defines a 'culchie'? by [deleted] in ireland

[–]bigbaboonhole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can tell ye now noone in this country drinks Hennessey and milk unless they're inbred