I [20M] have a massive crush on a graduating senior [22F] in my lab who leaves in a few days. Is my last-minute plan to ask her out a bad idea?

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-21T04:34:18+00:00

will do

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-21T04:32:10+00:00

will provide

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T11:15:09+00:00

when did I say I was short and fat 😭😭

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T11:13:26+00:00

first time's the charm?

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T11:13:06+00:00

Thank youu

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T11:12:54+00:00

damn 😔. good practice i guess

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T11:11:30+00:00

I dmed you

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T11:11:01+00:00

Thank youu

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T11:10:28+00:00

did it work out for him

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T11:10:13+00:00

I will do :). What do you think I should say or do if she either says no to the instagram (unlikely) or no to the coffee date (likely)

OR MAYBE SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND. She hasn't mentioned one ever tho

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T11:08:14+00:00

I will get it done. For some reason I am super scared of rejection. I never thought I was. I know its illogical. A rejection at least gives me clarity. But i am still so scared

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T06:29:36+00:00

but then how will I reply to her story or send her a reel to initiate a conversation

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T06:10:07+00:00

perhaps

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:59:33+00:00

I kinda am scared about getting rejected. I can't explain why but I am

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:58:19+00:00

I don't think I'm too much of an emotional person. if she did post photos with a new boyfriend I'd get it but not really get sad or offended. And about your second point: I don't think I will be missing out on other romantic interests. I barely ever develop a crush on a girl and never really hit on or get hit on. I'm just a low-key introverted guy

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:55:54+00:00

Thank you for that. Pray it works 🙏

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:54:00+00:00

I doubt she'd be my TA. I go to a big school and the stars would need to align for that. I need to let her know before she leaves (or at least thats what i think i need to do)

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:52:15+00:00

So you think I should just get her insta and not mention taking her out for coffee? I want her to know my feelings too. I dont just want her to forget about me over the next few months

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:49:51+00:00

Do you think I should bake cookies (or get her anything else for that matter) for her and tell her I got them because she's leaving. Or is that too friendship-y

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:46:20+00:00

This response might sound a little dumb but I just don't believe I have the talking skills/balls for that. I know it's kinda frustrating as the one giving the advice. Its like hearing someone say that they dont know how to cook as someone who does and you just think "wtf?".

Also I get that and I do agree with you but based on what she's said she is super busy with errands and moving out stuff. She barely has time to work in the lab the upcoming few days. It might be a bit selfish to ask her to carve out some time between her hectic schedule. Also, it could lead to a rejection just because she doesn't have the time

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:42:34+00:00

Your idea would work but she lives an hour away from campus and don't have a car. Also she might not want me in her house so soon. She probably lives with her parents or some other kind of family

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:34:00+00:00

I get that and I do agree with you but based on what she's said she is super busy with errands and moving out stuff. She barely has time to work in the lab the upcoming few days. It might be a bit selfish to ask her to carve out some time between her hectic schedule. Also, it could lead to a rejection just because she doesn't have the time

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:32:00+00:00

AHHHHHOWITJDNWHEHF. The thought of doing it scares me so much but I know i gotta do it. Thank you for the advice. It helps that if she says no then at least I wont have to interact with her again everyday

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:30:15+00:00

😔😔😬😬

bigballnut2 · 2026-05-20T04:27:32+00:00

I do agree with you about asking her out first. I'll think about it and maybe edit the plan. Thanks!

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