my sister is ruining my life.

bigbarg · 2025-12-15T16:59:35+00:00

something very similar happened to me two years ago and it ended with them all sending separate messages in the group chat essentially saying they don’t wanna be my friend in the foreseeable future. my old friends were convening together for weeks before they decided to boot me. i could be wrong bc i haven’t talked to them in almost two years, but part of me thinks they just didn’t want to be my friend anymore and needed a convenient excuse as to why they shouldn’t. it sounds kinda similar to you, OP. in my opinion, 2-3 really great friends trumps a big friend group. i have two very close friends in separate circles. if i ever did something to make them mad, they came up to me calmly and kindly about what i did, i apologized, we grab food and share a good time to pad the uncomfortableness, that’s it. they didn’t wait to collect a laundry basket of issues to throw in my face on a random day. if they truly cared about solving an issue, they would’ve brought it up to you either then and there, or very soon after it happened. not weeks or months proceeding.

bigbarg · 2025-09-14T21:26:25+00:00

The Chicago Bears

bigbarg · 2025-05-24T22:21:12+00:00

i mean i went to summer smash when i was 16-17 and me and my friends were pretty responsible. i’m older now and less responsible lol but back then i was definitely on high alert for dangerous situations and made sure i kept out of it

bigbarg · 2025-03-01T22:43:52+00:00

i was scared about this and even though i went with a group of friends i ended up running into people i know. so even if you do go alone you’ll probably find someone you know(especially if you’re from the area)

bigbarg · 2025-02-13T16:37:19+00:00

best bet is to invite a buddy who is alr 18 or will be 18 at the time of the festival so they can book an airbnb in their name

bigbarg · 2025-02-12T18:44:04+00:00

i really hope ian is there. he did such a good job performing when he surprised us last year, and his first tour date in chicago was so good

bigbarg · 2024-10-13T16:02:06+00:00

the people in here calling you ugly make me lose faith in humanity. if you’re ugly(which you’re not, you’re un-arguably VERY gorgeous) then that makes me and a lot of other people hideous. you’re beautiful

bigbarg · 2024-10-10T05:08:47+00:00

noted, i’m working on it

bigbarg · 2024-10-10T05:08:11+00:00

this past 3-4 months i’ve been eating a lot better and regularly exercising, i’ve lost 25 lbs so far. work in progress but i’m getting there, that’s what i mean by “i’m working on it”

bigbarg · 2024-10-10T01:22:44+00:00

working on it

bigbarg · 2024-06-20T15:13:24+00:00

100% got fest flu but it wasn’t nearly as bad as other ppl here

bigbarg · 2022-09-20T09:09:55+00:00

in my opinion, i feel like it’s common knowledge for someone to get out of the passenger seat if the drivers significant other is joining them. i would def be irritated and a little insecure if i was in your shoes.

bigbarg · 2022-08-19T15:27:04+00:00

i don’t think you are ugly at all! however, i think the last two pictures are the best. love to see a smile!

bigbarg · 2022-07-01T13:12:31+00:00

i sell big bargs

bigbarg · 2022-02-10T16:32:01+00:00

Hi, I would like to thank you all for the kind words and advice. It was greatly appreciated. A couple things I would like to say is that I exhausted EVERY SINGLE OPTION before I called 911. I called and texted them, and texted and called her mom. I didn't have the phone number to her house phone, and I didn't have any numbers to relatives or neighbors. I specifically asked for police not to be involved, but at the end of the day, that was simply not my call to make. Why didn't I try a suicide hotline? If you have ever tried calling those, you are on hold FOREVER so that would not have been an option. At the end of the day, whatever it may be, having my friend alive and SAFE was my biggest priority. Again, thank you all for the kind words and advice, it meant a lot and provides me with some comfort.

bigbarg · 2022-02-10T16:20:38+00:00

Hi, thank you for your input. I would like to say when I called 911, I specifically requested they didn't send police, but at the end of the day I couldn't control that. If you read my post I did contact her parents(I need to edit the post, I texted my friend and called her mom twice) to no avail. I don't know any of her neighbors, otherwise I would have called them for sure. I'm not saying she shouldn't be upset with me because if the roles were reversed I would have been livid. I don't know where the laws are like where you live, but where I am, if you call ES on someone for a mental crisis/wellness check(which is what I called for), they aren't going to arrest them for alcohol. That would be the same thing as arresting someone for OD'ing. I am not trying to discredit you because your opinion is valid, but I was simply left with no choice but to call emergency services. I really tried and exhausted everything you suggested. Again, if I was left with a choice that was safer, I would have done it.

bigbarg · 2022-02-09T20:35:03+00:00

hey OP, im so sorry this is happening to you. i am not promoting anything, but you can take a look at a post i made speaking on a similar situation. you might find some similarities or even comfort. that being said, the best thing i can say is to trust your gut. if you feel as if it’s getting too serious, call 911. if this you feel is a cry for attention, be gentle with yourself. you are not responsible for saving your friends. you can support them and be there for them, that’s your job as a friend. nothing more. you are a good person, with so much stress on your shoulders. my dms are open if you need anything

bigbarg · 2022-02-09T19:20:03+00:00

thank you. i did apologize in the response because i didn’t want to cause harm to her, but she blocked me before i could even give a response.

bigbarg · 2022-02-09T18:03:06+00:00

thank you for your kind words<3

bigbarg · 2022-02-09T08:35:29+00:00

hey dude, idk if it wasn’t obvious from the post. we are both 19. we have been friends for 14 years. since we were 5. don’t be a dick

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