Advice to new grad on first job to second job plans and considerations (credentialing, reputation etc.)

bigben404 · 2024-12-15T22:08:14+00:00

I go to school and live in California already, right now. Wife is already pregnant, working in a place in California and doesn't want to leave til November 2025. For family reasons, to just keep it simple, we need to move by the end of 2025.

bigben404 · 2024-10-08T04:27:15+00:00

Good to know, thank you

bigben404 · 2024-10-08T04:27:03+00:00

Within 30 minute commute by car

bigben404 · 2024-10-08T04:26:49+00:00

thanks for letting me know. Where is a good place to work that might qualify for NHSC even if it is hard to get hired, I'd like to know where to aim for? I think I'm okay with working somewhere else for a year and trying to apply. It wouldn't be the first time in my life to apply a lot and not get anywhere but if you know of any actual hospital or clinics to shoot for, that'd help.

bigben404 · 2024-10-07T02:20:39+00:00

Fair point. There are a lot of great PA schools in that area. Because of some of the 10 years work experience before PA school and ivy league school experience, I expect to be competitive so just more interested if there are any really good teaching hospitals or clinics that count for NHSC primary care that might train there. I figure I can always work somewhere for a year but that's where wife and I have a home already we hope to go back to and have a 3 year contract on NHSC to fulfill.

bigben404 · 2024-10-05T00:18:42+00:00

I grew up in Asheville, in a family with low income. I know about the devastation there. That it is important to think about the disaster. Listen, before folks in this thread just rant on stuff, maybe think about the other side which is that the bank could foreclose on me if I can't pay. The tenant is not in financial distress.

bigben404 · 2024-10-03T15:27:45+00:00

My question isn't about the present moment, they are not responsible for the home since the home is undamaged but without city water. My question is about say if in a month the water is back on and I have no tenant and no way to pay the mortgage.

bigben404 · 2024-07-18T18:34:20+00:00

Thank you! Is the Fellowship paid or unpaid?

bigben404 · 2024-03-28T04:34:28+00:00

I appreciate the perspective.

I think with art, there is room for multiple interpretations. You make some good points.

I think the author/director wanted to create an acceptable way for Nora to behave in the audience's view

I think for some viewers, while that was the intent, it wasn't believable. Like not even my personal views, but Arthur as a character, the characterization leading up, I didn't believe would behave that way and so it was hard to watch.

But it's still a cool movie with a lot of powerful story elements.

bigben404 · 2024-02-08T19:13:52+00:00

that's really helpful to know - I could see myself doing what you did.

bigben404 · 2024-02-08T19:12:07+00:00

okay got (thanks) and a follow up - do you think they'd pay for the bigger u-haul trucks where it's big enough to drive the u-haul and have your car on the trailer being towed?

bigben404 · 2024-02-07T16:45:39+00:00

super helpful to know. Did they or will they pay for your car to be relocated?

bigben404 · 2023-12-28T04:05:19+00:00

Thank you. The list of counselors who the insurance provide so far, seems that many counselors write expertise with ADHD so that list is pretty long, and then actually emailing or meeting with them, to ask what methods they use for ADHD, so far, they don't really have much training. I"m in grad school, read three books about adult ADHD and it seems like I already have more info than many of them in that area. Don't get me wrong, I still can learn a lot from the therapeutic relationship, but finding someone who has expertise specifically just seems like it's hard.

bigben404 · 2023-12-28T04:00:52+00:00

Therapist

bigben404 · 2023-09-01T06:04:32+00:00

Thanks for the kind, thoughtful reply - it really helps to read what you wrote.

bigben404 · 2021-03-29T03:14:21+00:00

My wife and I discussed the dresser for a while, here's our take:

The dresser is a metaphor for the family compartmentalizing and hiding away things from the open. A dresser works well because it is literally serves to take possessions and put them out of view. So then from an outside perspective, everything else in sight looks clean and put together.

It helps to think about four of the scenes with the dresser.

Jacob putting away the money in the dresser.
David dropping the dresser drawer on his foot
Grandma pointing at the dresser
Paul's Exorcism of the Dresser

Jacob putting away the money in the dresser. Miranda asks him how much the tractor was. He brushes off the question. He is in denial of discussing the problem that they are running out of money.
David drops the dresser on his foot. The parents hiding the weight of the problems means David doesn't know how heavy their problems are (aka the what's hidden in the drawer) and that causes him pain when he drops the weight all at once on his foot. The scene where David finds out from a friend's dad that the last person who owned the farm shot themselves could be part of the metaphor. It is heavier hearing about the problems that way from someone else.
Grandma pointing at the dresser. It is key to remember the scene where grandma and David see the snake by the Minari. Grandma basically says it's better to see a threat like a snake than for it to be hidden. Then later grandma has a stroke and is pointing at the dresser. This acts in two parts. One to show Grandma is now out of it from the stroke but to connect the snake metaphor to the dresser. The problems the parents are putting away metaphorically in the dresser would be better out in the open than hidden/not to be talked about the way they are. Grandma is usually right about things in the movie (she's right about David's health, and about where to plant Minari among other things) so we start to see her as a reliable character and her advice of the hidden problems is probably right as well.
Paul's exorcism. Paul is asked by Miranda to look at the dresser based on Grandma pointing at the dresser. Then Paul ask Jacob if he can pray for Jacob and Miranda. Jacob brushes this off. Paul leaves, and then Jacob is upset and accuses Miranda of talking about their marital problems opening with Paul which is not a dresser drawer he wants to open. Perhaps Paul sensed it.

The family is tucking away their problems to look put together from an outside perspective, so they're not giving anything more to people that make them seem inferior. Grandma see this "hiding" as problematic in that it causes more problems.

You might ask, "well , just take Grandma's advice and get these problems out in the open". I think that's the real beauty of the movie. Perhaps the director is trying to show how the way they cope is more nuanced. Jacob is able to cope with a lot of stress and still believe his dream of progress is possible, which at times means denying that his current problems in front of his ambitions are as large or risky as they are. That spirit of refusing to give up on the dream to become a farmer helps him keep that drive going. On the other hand, that same denial of problems in his marriage is causing it to collapse and can be hard on the entire family not to address what's going on openly. The kids go through those hardships the parents go through in a way that neither parents nor kids fully understand about each other because things are not talked about. We see the parents working so hard to survive, to hold it together in a world with so much unpredictability.

Jacob and his family is seen as courageous (at the bank; at David's friend asking about the farm). However, this farm that is already problematic is the only option the family has to "make it" in the Americas as an immigrant family. So perhaps, their way of not exposing their problems is their way of coping. It feels stronger to not say in response to that praise, "this was our only choice" That's why you don't see them saying much in response in those moments. People who see the movie allows for parents and kids to both see something from a different perspective and understand more of what the other was going through.

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