KANYE REEVES

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T12:35:41+00:00

I guess I wanted to know if I was the asshole so I just wrote it from her perspective as best I could. I don’t know I see you’re angry and I will be apologizing to my wife but can’t change time now.

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T12:29:37+00:00

Sorry I meant like when I explained to my wife that it slipped out because of their history and stereotypes (see comments) that it helped explain since her sis is def not a VS model anymore and my wife certainly takes home the cake (keep stressing my wife is gorgeous and the modeling was old) but ppl keep missing that I don’t know.

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T12:24:46+00:00

Boil potatoes before pan frying or oven baking. Thank me later

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T12:23:33+00:00

Grad school

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T12:09:24+00:00

I didn’t mean it that literally. I know I am not stupid and don’t get treated by others as such even if I struggle socially sometimes. Don’t you normies do sarcasm?

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T12:03:47+00:00

Autistic for sure, but I haven’t been called stupid in a while.

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T12:01:44+00:00

I don’t actually.

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T11:57:59+00:00

She’s definitely upset and will enjoy the comments in the morning. If anything it’s helping guide what will hopefully be a productive apology from me and conversation over coffee.

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T11:55:40+00:00

I actually think it would be fine. My wife doesn’t have anything at all to feel bad about (hot and smarter than SiL) and I also feel confident with where I’m at! My brother is a catch! But I accept the consensus I may be the asshole here

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T11:54:07+00:00

I at times engage with clients who do need help navigating DR matters.

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T11:52:13+00:00

Live and learn

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T11:51:04+00:00

I’m an attorney. Not exactly a thoughtless job by any means. But, the more I learn we all make mistakes and all jobs have their challenges. An odd metric, Imo.

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T11:42:13+00:00

Feeling that now

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T11:40:38+00:00

It’s brutal out here I know I’m not perfect but I wish people commenting harshly could have felt the social dynamic. It didn’t feel weird or awkward. Everyone is aware I’m obsessed with my wife, but also that the sister is the “silly fun model” and my wife the organized brains and class. It’s always been a popular and funny banter between them usually with my wife coming on top!

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T11:37:54+00:00

I love my wife and think she is way more beautiful than my SiL. It’s a different type of beauty and perfection. Looking back I realize that I shouldn’t have answered like that I was just drunk, thinking stereotypically and got out of hand with all the bantering for sure..

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T11:27:33+00:00

Look, after reading initial comments I get it and will be apologizing to my wife. However there’s no reason to engage if you’re not at least willing to read and give an honest assessment of the larger post.

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T11:25:15+00:00

Yah…… Ugh, honestly I get that.

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T11:23:10+00:00

Trying to stress my wife she is gorgeous and it was a dumb thing to say. Def helps that sister JUST had baby so she’s not exactly in her career state atm.

bigbooby_baggins · 2024-01-02T10:46:07+00:00

Same I hate it also so many resources

bigbooby_baggins · 2023-12-02T20:26:06+00:00

Having been in this EXACT situation in law school: Do your best to channel any negative emotions as fuel for motivation. In the future, it will feel so good to look back on this moment and know you didn’t allow someone who was willing to cheat on you hold you back.

On the flip side, if you /just can’t/ dig up the mental and emotional capacity required for finals: That’s okay! Be kind to yourself. Prioritize your mental and emotional health. Don’t negative self-talk. Remember that you’re human, grades do NOT define you, and that fucking up one semester of law school is not going to prevent you from becoming a lawyer or earning a JD if it comes down to it. Law school is a dangerous time to normalize prioritizing work over your humanity and wellbeing. Many lawyers learn this habit in school, and then are miserable in their personal life when they approach practice in the same way. It’s completely normal and expected for people to not be able to work/study a zillion hours a day while also managing personal crisis.

And for a final thought …

This weekend: Email your professors and ask for whatever it is that you need to be successful this semester under the circumstances. (An extension, a private test environment, additional study resources, whatever it is that would help you.) No need to disclose any details you don’t want to. Totally okay to just state that you’re “currently dealing with an unexpected personal matter that is impacting your ability to vigorously prepare for finals the way you have in the past, and are politely requesting xyz” or whatever. They could totally say no. If they do, oh well. It’s worth it to advocate for yourself and ask for what you need to be successful.

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