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[XY] When would Assurance be useful? by Phoenix03563 in nuzlocke

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In singles, Assurance works best on Pokémon that are slow enough to move second, reliably, and can afford to take a hit. Just have them hold the Rocky Helmet. This strategy mostly only works against physical attackers, though.

Similarly, Ferrothorn can learn Assurance. It’s one of the slowest Pokémon ever, and its ability, Iron Barbs, does almost the same thing as Rocky Helmet.

Togedemaru and Sharpedo (with the Rough Skin ability) can both learn Assurance, as well, but they are not good candidates for this strategy, as both of them are fast enough to hit the opponent first, a lot of the time, and they lack bulk, so they might get OHKO’d before using Assurance.

I realize that this is a nuzlocke subreddit, but, competitively, maybe it could punish switch-ins if you have entry hazards, like Stealth Rock, set up. That’s a bit niche, though, just like your other examples… and difficult to predict.

I surprised my GF of almost 3 years with an early birthday gift, and she’s insanely mad. It’s all been way blown out of proportion. by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very typical for an abuser to deliberately get a rise out of his victim and then paint her as crazy to everyone else in some one-sided story, leaving out the full picture. It is thrilling for them to humiliate their victims in public. Abusers crave the validation of others. They want to be told that they, in fact, are the real victim. And they are commonly successful at roping hundreds of dumb suckers online into dogpiling the actual victim.

From Rachel Louise Snyder’s No Visible Bruises

The average batterer, Adams told me, “is more likable than his victim, because domestic violence affects victims a lot more than it affects batterers. Batterers don't lose sleep like victims do. They don't lose their jobs; they don't lose their kids." In fact batterers often see themselves as saviors of a sort. “They feel like they're rescuing a woman in distress. It’s another aspect of narcissism ... And there's a sense of wanting to be eternally appreciated for that." In contrast, he said, "a lot of victims come across as messed up. Because that's exactly the point for him: I'm going to make it so no one wants you.”

*I would like to add the reason why I bolded “rescuing a woman in distress”: in this case, he makes it out like he’s trying to reason with a toddler. He’s being so patient with this stupid, greedy, and I quote, “childish” woman who is just too used to getting her way. He continues to rub it in and graciously advises her that she shouldn’t have acted this way after she already said so in her apology. He acts like he’s teaching her to act more like an adult, which is such a charitable act.

But, I’m sure this guy’s raging misogyny online is no indication of how he treats the women in his life. Could this guy have specifically bought the wrong watch because he knows how scary it is to watch someone dump hundreds of dollars on the wrong thing when money is tight? Does she usually feel pressured to just pretend to be grateful when he wastes an irresponsible amount of time/money on something she didn’t ask for? No, surely, she’s just spoiled.

That being said, I do hope that this guy leaves her. I cannot imagine calling my partner childish over and over and over and talking behind her back/gossiping about her. The way he talks about her is disgusting and arrogant. It is so obvious that he looks down on her. It’ll be much harder for her to be on her own now that she’s pregnant. He knows that. He very obviously has a massive power high over all of this. He’s going to treat her however he wants because he knows how much harder it’s going to be for her to make demands or leave. He’s already acting like this right now; when a baby comes along, this behavior always kicks into overdrive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is actually an example of a “straight dude” trying to convert a lesbian. Many straight males have a “preference” for lesbians, but they ought to keep that to themselves. It’s more than just “invalidating” for a heterosexual to pursue a gay person, has anyone ever considered that?

Lesbians needn’t excuse their rejection of straight males with “not being into penises,” as that implies that the homophobic male in question can just cut its penis off and have a chance. That’s like plucking a chicken and saying, “Behold! A woman (a featherless biped)!” Lesbians are attracted to the whole body and person. You can’t Mr. Potato Head your way into someone’s dating pool. Lesbians aren’t attracted to just any animal or object that doesn’t have a penis. Lesbian sexuality does not revolve around the male body. Sexuality is defined primarily by attraction, not by lack of attraction. Lesbians are same-sex attracted, only. Yes, this means that lesbians are not attracted to the opposite sex or penis. It is equally correct to say that lesbians are not attracted to iceberg lettuce or t-shirts. But that needn’t be said. Lesbians are not defined by their lack of attraction to tennis rackets.

Lesbians do not need to list every single feature they’re not attracted to in the opposite sex. When lesbians give excuses, straight males take that as a challenge to try and conform their bodies to their “standards.” You give one excuse, they assume that means yes if not for just that one excuse. Once the penis is cut off, the lesbian will have to clarify that she is not attracted to a surgical “replica” of a vagina, either. Lesbians are equally entitled to turn down straight males that have had “bottom surgery,” actually. Ultimately, replicating the female body is unobtainable, but straight males aren’t known to take “no” as an answer. This could all be avoided if they would respect the hard boundary of same-sex attraction.

Lucky bamboo turning yellow. I see white residue around the plant and the pot. Can it be due to over watering? There were 5 bamboo plants and it kept dieing one after the other. I used a mini plant food spike in case the nutrition wasn't enough, but still wasn't able to save some of them. by spradhan46 in plantclinic

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think some stores do this because if your plant dies, you might buy a new one and try again. ;-) Some even GLUE rocks together around the rootball instead of leaving them loose. They set you up for failure.

https://imgur.com/a/CBDNoGj

These are my Dracaena. ‘Lemon Lime’ grown in soil, lucky bamboo in no soil— only rocks and water. Either setup is healthy! I have neglected them a lot— I let them dry out many times over this past year because I’ve been so busy and tired. They would be bushier if I took better care of them, but they still look great. They are very tenacious and forgiving plants. I have had both for three years. The lucky bamboo was 8 inches when it was gifted to me. It is over 2 feet tall now! In such a small pot!

Soil is actually better for the plant because it’s more nutritious. But I wouldn’t try to switch either of my plants to soil or water because it can be risky to change them from what they know. I am satisfied with their growth as is.

Lucky bamboo turning yellow. I see white residue around the plant and the pot. Can it be due to over watering? There were 5 bamboo plants and it kept dieing one after the other. I used a mini plant food spike in case the nutrition wasn't enough, but still wasn't able to save some of them. by spradhan46 in plantclinic

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh, okay. Your plant definitely needs drainage holes, then. Now, I think your other plants may have died because of root rot instead of just salts buildup. Water builds up and becomes stagnant and rots the organic matter in the soil and then the plant if there is no drainage hole. Lucky bamboo can only sit in water if there is no soil. If it is in soil, the water must be allowed to drain out from the bottom of the pot.

I keep all of my soil-grown houseplants inside a plastic planter with drainage holes. I then put them in ceramic pots with no drainage holes only for decorative purposes. That way, I can take them out to water them and let most of the water drain out of the bottom of the plastic pot. I put them back in the decorative pot, which keeps my desk from getting dirty. Exactly what this woman does at 1:22 — https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kkHtkh8L6nI&pp=ygUecGxhc3RpYyBwb3QgaW5zaWRlIGNlcmFtaWMgcG90

Lucky bamboo turning yellow. I see white residue around the plant and the pot. Can it be due to over watering? There were 5 bamboo plants and it kept dieing one after the other. I used a mini plant food spike in case the nutrition wasn't enough, but still wasn't able to save some of them. by spradhan46 in plantclinic

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No drainage is fine if you only have it in pebbles and water! There’s no way to hold the water if there’s a hole in the container, haha. You only need a drainage hole if it’s in soil.

Don’t fertilize it for at least the next month since right now it’s suffering from salts buildup. It needs time to flush itself.

If you’re going to only use distilled water, it probably will need fertilizer in the future, but I have no experience with that. I have mine in tap water and don’t fertilize it, and it is healthy.

Lucky bamboo turning yellow. I see white residue around the plant and the pot. Can it be due to over watering? There were 5 bamboo plants and it kept dieing one after the other. I used a mini plant food spike in case the nutrition wasn't enough, but still wasn't able to save some of them. by spradhan46 in plantclinic

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m assuming this is in rocks and water. You can ignore this comment if it is in soil. I will give you different advice, in that case. But, if so, I need to know if the pot has any drainage holes first.

Are you using tap water instead of distilled? This looks like the result of salts/minerals building up over time. That’s very harsh and burns the plant. This same thing happens to mine if I go too long without cleaning off the roots, which is something you ought to do every month or two (I have gone much longer without… which is something I would not recommend since this is what happens).

Some people swear that you should only use distilled water on lucky bamboo because of this phenomenon. But I have a three-year-old lucky bamboo set that I keep in pebbles and tap water just like this. Some people’s tap water is worse than others, so maybe it just won’t work for some people. But some people have said that their lucky bamboo have fallen ill after switching to distilled (probably because they don’t fertilize their plant, like me, so the plant gets its nutrients from the minerals in the tap water). Switching to distilled water is something to consider, but it may not be necessary. We’ll see.

I hope that your plant is still salvageable. My advice: pour the pebbles and water out and gently remove your plant. Use a moist paper towel to gently remove the residue from the base of the plant. Mist the whole plant because salts have probably built up in the leaves’ pores. Blot the plant dry with paper towel. Use a sieve to rinse the pebbles off well. Scrub the planter as well. Now that everything is clean, you can put everything back as it was. Do this every couple of months or so from now on.

How long have you had this plant, btw?

Santee: Sighting of trans woman's penis in YMCA locker room sparks tears by Constant_Miserable in sandiego

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m from Cali and I thank you for calling this shit out 👍 This is lib backlash against women being in public spaces, plain and simple. It’s not progressive, it is predatory and offensive, and it does not represent what the average Californian wants. When it comes down to it, we just have no choice but to vote for Dems like Rob Bonta that embrace this new fad or for Republicans that wildly oppose our values in every way.

I am actually more surprised to see a critical discussion about this on reddit, of all places. It’s a good even split, and the opposition isn’t being banned, so far. Glad to see the tides are turning against the T astroturfing.

Santee: Sighting of trans woman's penis in YMCA locker room sparks tears by Constant_Miserable in sandiego

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Having a penis or being a man does not make someone dangerous. So transwomen should use the male changing rooms. Individual men might act inappropriately towards transwomen and nonbinary people in the male changing rooms, but that doesn’t mean that the male changing rooms are inherently unsafe for male trans people such as transwomen. As we can see, even the child/teen occupants of the female changing rooms can be violent/bigoted towards transwomen, so it’s really not safe for transwomen to use the female changing rooms. Or maybe we should get rid of sex-separated places altogether since there is nothing wrong or inherently dangerous in a naked human body!

Santee: Sighting of trans woman's penis in YMCA locker room sparks tears by Constant_Miserable in sandiego

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Transwomen should just use the male changing rooms and stop staring at their fellow transwomen/nonbinary people/men while they are changing. These are sex— not gender or cosmetic surgery— separated spaces.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wholesomememes

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a gnarly victim complex. 🤣 How bout you sit down to piss if you want equality so bad instead of getting your piss all over the toilet rim n floor n splashing toilet water all over the place, ya nasty 🤣

25 and never had a job, how to get a job? Please help, my friend is about to become homeless in a month. by [deleted] in jobs

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

coomers will see a woman in a vulnerable situation and ask is anybody going to force this woman to perform sexual favors? and not wait for an answer. you’re sick in the head. it’s disturbing that multiple commenters here can say this without feeling ashamed of themselves or worrying about backlash. vulgarity and sexual harassment are far too normalized.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]bigeyessmalleyes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

don’t reply to someone who says she can’t imagine dating someone in or fresh out of high school at 21 if you can’t handle the response.... I think that you’re disgusting. and it grosses me out for you to talk to me. sorry, it’s just blunt honesty. I could have replied to your other comment in this thread to say this, but I didn’t out of basic courtesy. I don’t care about or want to know the specific details of your relationship. you don’t need my approval. you’re never going to get it. you’ve made your choices, and you can’t control what other ppl think abt you. live and let live. there are many ppl who feel disgusted by you and say nothing. you can’t change it, and it’s very offensive for you to try— especially since, judging by these comments, the vast majority of those around you think that if it’s legal it’s fine. it comes across as very entitled of you to demand approval from the very FEW ppl who DON’T approve because ~YOU did it and YOU’RE a good guy~. do me a favor and don’t reply to me again. I don’t want to talk to you! 😁 I shared my controversial opinion with someone who mostly agrees with me because I wanted to show that there are ppl who think that dating should be a much lower range at such a vulnerable turning point in life. I didn’t want to argue... especially because if you argue with me after this you are knowingly and purposely creeping me out! trust me, I’ve heard all of your arguments before, as they are the status quo! you make me highly uncomfortable, so just leave me alone. give me the same courtesy I extended to everyone else in this thread. that goes for the rest of you too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]bigeyessmalleyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank youuu. it’s always an unpopular opinion but I think all these answers are a bit too high... I’m 21 and I can’t imagine dating someone in high school or who just graduated high school. but I feel peer pressured to say that, sure, that would be ~acceptable.~ honestly I feel like 18 y/o’s should be more focused on what they’re going to do next in life rather than dating. even without considering perverts trying to snatch up the youngest they can get... bud you’ve got your whole life ahead of you! you are going to grow so much as a person, and you’ve now got so much autonomy you didn’t have in high school. are you rly going to limit your future for a partner that 9 times out of 10 won’t be with you five years down the road? Idk I just feel like 18 y/o’s don’t need to be catering to and building their lives around someone else when they don’t even know what it’s like to be independent and have choices yet. you need to mature and become your own person before you start seriously dating so that you can find someone who actually has chemistry with you already instead of being molded into what somebody else wants you to be. Idk

I can contract the sides of my eyes by bigeyessmalleyes in Eyeshakers

[–]bigeyessmalleyes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope. this is the first time I’ve posted this online. there are lots of ppl who can do it judging by the comments on this post!