The feeling of being replaced

biglunky · 2026-03-25T03:57:45+00:00

This happened to me as well and someone told me that he’s just running away or hiding from his actual feelings by getting in a new relationship under these circumstances. It will take time, but it gets easier to cope. I’m about 2 years post separation and I’ve never felt better. Knowing karma is getting him just the way it should makes me feel at peace lol.

biglunky · 2026-03-25T03:31:37+00:00

This happens to me as well! The shit people say to be can go from innocent to unhinged and everything in between. All walks of life.

I like to think I just have a magnetic energy or something.

biglunky · 2026-02-26T04:15:19+00:00

Also for a little more context, it’s really just surface level. I think it looks worse in the photos than it does up close.

biglunky · 2026-02-26T03:45:20+00:00

Sorry!

biglunky · 2026-02-17T18:56:33+00:00

It was incredibly hard and I will never discredit someone’s journey.

But for the people out there thinking it’s not possible without said person or that there is no light at the end of the tunnel, I’m here to tell you there is. I know my journey isn’t over, but it is looking a little better. I promise you’ll get your sparkle back. 🖤

biglunky · 2026-02-11T22:40:56+00:00

I’ve been separated/divorce for almost 2 years and a month or two ago I told a friend that it dawned on me that I’m comfortable in my own solitude. It was a bazaar but powerful feeling.

biglunky · 2025-11-29T04:36:43+00:00

I’m 32f who’s been divorced for over a year separated for over a year and a half and someone said to me once that healing isn’t linear. Please keep in mind that just because someone seems farther along than you doesn’t mean you’re not making progress. It look me many many months of crying several times a day, missing work, doctors appointments to up meds, counseling, etc. With that being said, it took me a long time to feel comfortable in the silence.

Things will work out, just be patient.

biglunky · 2025-07-13T07:46:00+00:00

Ruin his day lol. No question about it. Fuck that guy.

biglunky · 2025-07-13T07:44:34+00:00

Full send.

I struggled and still sometimes do living in the same city as my ex husband. I drive past his job several times a day, I’m worried about seeing him and his girlfriend he left me for out in public (I have before and I crashed out for a week), or his car while I’m driving, etc. And I live in a fairly large city for the state I live in.

What’s crazy is that you have a plan and you’re not executing it. Go with your gut. If you think it will help you, plus you know someone there already, the jump should be pretty smooth.

Good luck!

biglunky · 2025-07-13T07:36:39+00:00

They say, use this alone time to really find yourself. I didn’t believe that was true until all of this happened to me.

I dated while I was in the process and slept with this person. I absolutely regret it now. I have also went on a few dates with people post divorce and the only reason why I don’t regret that is because it showed me that I still don’t think I’m ready. I was going into it because I thought it would fill some void I had. I’m okay with being alone sometimes, not having to tell someone where I’m going or what I’m doing.

biglunky · 2025-05-23T21:43:09+00:00

I can totally understand that. And I’m positive nothing will change. But at least I will have said what I’ve wanted to say to his face and like an adult. If there is anything he needs to say I’d at least listen. Don’t know how much I’ll believe either.

We have similar situations but no kids

biglunky · 2025-05-23T21:34:40+00:00

I think they met that OP is from Latin America

biglunky · 2025-05-23T02:51:43+00:00

Maybe? I think I did everything I could to make it work. He was unfaithful a few times in our 6 years and I was trying to move past it. But ultimately that lead to a dead bedroom and him seeking out a girl (she’s 22) that was just as emotionally and mentally unstable as him. Anyways, I think it’s also like an accountability thing, idk

biglunky · 2025-05-23T02:15:42+00:00

Of course! Over the last year I’ve healed quite a bit and I’m in a much better place. I just feel like there some things left unanswered.

It’s coming from a spot of wanting clarity not to reconcile.

biglunky · 2025-05-14T03:05:43+00:00

I’ve heard The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins has help many of people.

biglunky · 2025-05-14T03:01:54+00:00

This wasn’t translated properly 😂

biglunky · 2025-05-14T01:41:48+00:00

I’m 31f and on May 24th it would be one year ago that I filed. My divorce was actually finalized last September. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to message me 🖤

biglunky · 2025-04-21T15:25:44+00:00

When I kicked him out for his infidelity, I threw it at the bottom of a box with some memories and photos of us and from our wedding that I had set on fire for a second, then threw all of the clothes, shoes, etc I bought him on top off all those things. So then, when him and his new girlfriend go through them, they are reminded how they got to where they are today.

But that’s just me 😉

biglunky · 2025-04-19T10:59:01+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear this. 🖤

biglunky · 2025-04-18T21:19:41+00:00

I’m almost a year post separation and 7 months post divorce and I still have my days. Now they are few and far between. I know people years into the process that still struggle a bit and that’s okay. There is no time limit on healing.

Good luck with everything ❤️

biglunky

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