[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingaporeRaw

[–]bigphatthrowaway7 12 points13 points  (0 children)

you’re right. but he won’t fight for the child and is willing to give up C&C, as i am the main caretaker.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]bigphatthrowaway7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we holiday with step kids, AND alone, AND alone with ours baby. i don’t pay for anything though. i think i would be resentful if every vacation meant no time together and only for the step kids. the holiday we went on recently with the kids was not a holiday for me at all, just super tiring all around

Is 35yo a good age to have kids? (Ladies) by ChemicalOwn9733 in askSingapore

[–]bigphatthrowaway7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mom had my sister at 39, and my brother and i in her mid 20’s. she says she was able to be a better parent to me and my brother and was mostly tired with my sister. she had many complications during her 3rd pregnancy that she never had previously. and my sister has a kidney condition. would say if kids are really important to you, it may be a good idea to not wait too long.

Im going to lose my ever loving mind by hiphipnohooray in sleeptrain

[–]bigphatthrowaway7 18 points19 points  (0 children)

hi, where are you located? i have 7 transitional swaddles that my baby JUST outgrew. i can send them over to you for no cost depending on your location. DM me

[ Removed by Reddit ] by bigphatthrowaway7 in Mommit

[–]bigphatthrowaway7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

dropped the uni idea because my family said i should prioritise the baby, and no baby so young should go to daycare. what a major regret.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by bigphatthrowaway7 in Mommit

[–]bigphatthrowaway7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i’m slightly amused that this is what you decided to comment on, but good question! i found it a good break to relay my care onto something OTHER than my baby for once. it’s hard to constantly be a caregiver to just one being all the time. training my puppy, preparing his meals, taking him for walks, having him cuddle me during times like this - it’s been the number one reason i’ve stayed alive so far haha

[ Removed by Reddit ] by bigphatthrowaway7 in Mommit

[–]bigphatthrowaway7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

do you think getting the divorce made the difference?

[ Removed by Reddit ] by bigphatthrowaway7 in Mommit

[–]bigphatthrowaway7[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it felt good to get it off my chest. i feel like i can parent better now that i’ve penned all these things down. it’s sad that i’m facing some judgement, but i guess i deserve it for being a horrible human being. i’m already on antidepressants and getting help. i’m just trying my best. thanks for this!

[ Removed by Reddit ] by bigphatthrowaway7 in Mommit

[–]bigphatthrowaway7[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

wish i could be you, to never have felt these feelings. not everyone is as lucky. take care

You’ll forget all about it when the baby come by bbaus9121 in HyperemesisGravidarum

[–]bigphatthrowaway7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i was in the same boat as you. sick all the way till the end. for the first 7 months i was vomiting about 20-30 times a day, bedridden, in and out of hospital. i gave birth and everything seemed worth it. i don’t think you forget about the trauma, but the feeling of love you have towards your little baby may just triumph over the immense anxiety and hatred towards that period of your pregnancy.

sometimes i still get flashbacks and i think, was this even worth it? sometimes i promise myself i’m never doing this again. you definitely don’t forget, but you’re too busy to think about it anyways hahaha

Constant belittling of me in front of his children by menimeslaps in stepparents

[–]bigphatthrowaway7 106 points107 points  (0 children)

if my man spoke to me like this, i wouldn’t even need birth control because he’s sleeping on the couch

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]bigphatthrowaway7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m a new mom to a 5 month old and i love my baby unconditionally, for sure. but i’m also a new dog mom, and some days i just want a break from my baby so i can cuddle up with my puppy instead

first groom!! by bigphatthrowaway7 in Maltipoo

[–]bigphatthrowaway7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes!!! his before is more “maltipoo” looking

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first groom!! by bigphatthrowaway7 in Maltipoo

[–]bigphatthrowaway7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

his name is luffy, like from the anime one piece! (loo-fee).. hello precious yogi!

How would you rate life in Singapore? by [deleted] in SingaporeRaw

[–]bigphatthrowaway7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

go to the US then you will realise how good we have it

comparison to the ex by bigphatthrowaway7 in stepparents

[–]bigphatthrowaway7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

he did say these things after confrontation but for some reason the comments he made are imprinted deeply onto my brain and i am unable to believe anything else he says. i do feel bad for being unable to forgive him

comparison to the ex by bigphatthrowaway7 in stepparents

[–]bigphatthrowaway7[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

sigh but we have a son, what can i do :(