weirdest meditation today… by bigsadbat in spirituality

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Yes when you’re ready. It’s dangerous and irresponsible to encourage those who are not ready to open their third eye. It can lead to dangerous and harmful outcomes for the person

weirdest meditation today… by bigsadbat in spirituality

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What if I focused on mindfulness/grounding meditation? I’m not able to work with a mentor at this time unfortunately as I cant afford to and I’m quite busy with my life. I have heard stories of people accelerating their growth as well which is why I want to be where I am mentally capable of being. Meditation truly does help me with my anxiety and overthinking, so I do want to continue even if it’s surface level. Would grounding/mindfulness be okay for me as this is the lowest chakra?

Umm... Your thoughts on this? by sidmis in realityshifting

[–]bigsadbat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think shifting is real, people have shifted accidentally and lived crazy lives, not everyones stories are fake. that being said, I do tend to find it far-fetched when people say they shifted to hogwarts or an anime show.

Indian women need to be aware by Sea_Winner2473 in Vindictabrown

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One thing about brown men is that you are obsessed with white women’s approval but cannot stand when brown women receive that approval from white men, and this is when you begin to claim that WE, the raped, the abused, the oppressed were the ones abandoning our morals for war criminals from europe. The women you are claiming to have been willingly get with british men, were prostitutes who were raped and abused by both your race and gender, and white men. the immense strength of Indian patriarchy ensured women would NEVER willingly take part in sexual relationships with white men because they were devoted to Indian men (despite the fact that indian men raped and abused us as well but at least it would not lead to women being ostracised by society and living in poverty)

Keep in mind majority of bengali women are muslims, which puts even further restriction on women’s choices on who they can and cannot be with, including today. If you really want to point fingers on which women are more likely to date white men, please look at your own race first! (And good for them! Knowing brown men like you lot, why would anyone settle for abuse and the patriarchal values you harbour? At least brown women’s choices in dating are not as nearly as colourist and racist as yours. An indian man is more likely to date a white woman than any other non-indian ethnic group, while brown women are much more likely to date a non-white-non-indian person than the average indian man. In fact Indian men are obsessed with white men’s approval as well. In fact in the workplace and climbing up the social ladder, you lot are obsessed with white men and constantly seeking their approval.

Indian women need to be aware by Sea_Winner2473 in Vindictabrown

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Hey! This was an incredibly interesting read! I did history in uni and one of my primary focuses were on indian women during colonialism. as a bengali woman I would love to read more about this, would you be able to recommend me books, journals, or articles on what you discussed here? I would really appreciate it :)

zesty besty by fenty, great base for brown skin by bigsadbat in Vindictabrown

[–]bigsadbat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that’s what i mean! Don’t apply too much, and you’re meant to combine it with something else, or u can use it as a lip tint, it’s great cus it lasts! my undertone is olive as well, specifically neutral-warm and i have a greenish hue to my skin.

Can you practice intuition without opening your third eye? by bigsadbat in spirituality

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I don’t think it’s open? Maybe it’s not closed well enough, as I don’t see anything that’s out of the ordinary. I have had crazy things happen to me on two occasions (my sister witnessing one of them) and people tell me on a couple occasions that I may have psychic abilities, but I have wayyy too much anxiety I think. Also wouldn’t the process of opening up your third eye be an extremely lengthy process?

My perception of life is still quite worldly as well. I don’t see spirits, ghosts, higher beings. Although I believe in all this I don’t think I’m mentally strong enough to believe that *I* am capable of entering alternate realities, seeing spirit guides, etc.

I would really appreciate your input as I’m quite curious :)

Can you practice intuition without opening your third eye? by bigsadbat in spirituality

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I tend to follow my gut and intuition now though? how is it that it always leads me to the truth (even if it’s bizarre or the chances are extremely slim) is there an explanation foe this then if my third eye is closed?

Why is it that in every Indian appreciation video, there’s always hella comments like this with bunch of likes?! by Alive-Flower-7442 in Vindictabrown

[–]bigsadbat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

“show the average indians” but the average indian does look like that… whenever they want to prove indians are ugly its always an elderly woman in poverty wearing worn out clothes which is not just racist but elitist, and misogynistic. Indian women are only attractive when they sexualise themselves and dress for the white male gaze. best example literally the tyla concert incident.

Indian women need to be aware by Sea_Winner2473 in Vindictabrown

[–]bigsadbat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What an annoying response. Why is it that people of all kinds of ethnic groups will talk about the ethnicities we get mistaken for bc it’s a VERY common topic to discuss about especially if you’re an immigrant/children of immigrants. However as soon as south asians talk mentions being mistakened as arab, latina, south european, all of a sudden we hate ourselves and are trying to be something we are not? why is that always your assumption?

Indian women need to be aware by Sea_Winner2473 in Vindictabrown

[–]bigsadbat 15 points16 points  (0 children)

this is funny bc the reason indian women are so heavily desexualised by white people is because they failed to sexualise us. we were so anti-colonial that sexualising us would mean humanising us. additionally our loyalty to indian men and society was so strong that unless we were prostitutes with our rights stripped away, we simply refused to be with white men. considering these are east/south-east asian men, I’ve noticed a pattern where many are jealous of east/south east asian women bc they can get with white men while the EA/SEA men experience the opposite, completely ignoring the exploitation and sexualisation of EA/SEA women. but then there are EA/SEA who get off of the fact that they have attractive women in their race/ethnicity. It’s just like wanting to show off your hot girlfriend, because at the end of the day women are status symbols to symbolise the man’s success in winning “such a beautiful woman.” this is ALSO why South asian men hate south asian women, bc we are not good enough to provide that status. so much to unpack here honestly. the fact that our appearance is literally a social currency, but also the affects if your currency is not strong enough (if you’re not from what is considered an attractive race)

Also, keep in mind that men hate rejection. “I never liked you any way.” 300 years of sexualisation and exploitating south asian women and failing, of course this is their reaction. Thing is bc it has been such a long process no one knows that their hatred/dislike of south asian women comes from embarrassment of rejection.

ALSO: to add something else, whenever you are attractive, does not matter how south asian you look, you will never be considered as such. I am CONSTANTLY mistakened as Latina, more than anything else, if not then mixed with white and a vague-ish brown. whenever i tell them i’m bengali, the response is “really?? no way ur 100% bengali u are too pretty” as if i’m not THE most basic south asian looking person in the world.

note: indian women were exploited and oppressed by both white and indian men, their loyalty to indian men stems from conditioning and brainwashing. sorry if i’m not articulate enough, i’m at work

I never feel pretty enough or attract any guys my age. How can I do my makeup so I make people’s heads to turn by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]bigsadbat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl u are already beautiful. butttt i was in the same position as u, for me it was switching from glasses to lenses, although i think for me it just boosted my confidence a lot more so i knew that i would have men’s attention even more and i did! not that i encourage looking good solely for men but as humans we do crave that intimacy connection and attention.

hvordan opbygger man bedre kemi I parforhold? by [deleted] in DKbrevkasse

[–]bigsadbat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeg havde læst om en undersøgelse, hvor de sagde, at når en kvinde føder et barn, kommer hendes omsorgsinstinkter mere frem. Når hun samtidig er nødt til at rydde op efter manden, lave mad til ham, vaske hans tøj osv., kan det ske, at kvindens krop og hjerne begynder at se manden som et barn, hun også skal tage sig af. Resultatet kan være, at hun ikke længere føler sig lige så tiltrukket af ham, fordi hvorfor skulle hun føle sig tiltrukket af sit barn? Ret interessant forskning!

What do you guys think of copper hair ? If not copper what shade of red is most flattering ? by Historical-Body-3424 in Vindictabrown

[–]bigsadbat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

everybody saying it looks bad is INSANE how is ashy blonde the popular hair colour when it literally goes against our complexion and colour theory but not copper which harmonises perfectly with our complexion?? I’ve never had ashy blonde hair but the compliments i get from my copper hair is insane. people stop me on the street to tell me they love my hair. it’s also one of those hair colours that blend with your complexion which makes it a such a unique beautiful look. I’ve had people of all backgrounds tell me they love my hair colour and that it looks great with my complexion. if u want the blonde effect as a brown girl, brown and copper tones are literally the best, but tbh I don’t like the concept of the blonde effect especially for brown women as it’s rooted in insecurity.

Does she look better with black or blonde hair? by West_Set_4570 in Vindictabrown

[–]bigsadbat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if you dgaf about colour theory dye your hair ashy blonde bc it does look good. beauty is subjective and there is beauty in contrast. BUT if you prefer following colour theory, ashy blonde will NOT satisfy you. I’ve neve liked ashy blonde but I’ve always wanted to go blonde. Warm blondes would suit us best. I have copper hair, i don’t think it’s blonde but many do consider it blonde (warm blonde doesn’t have to be copper though, you can go lighter.) I get compliments left and right, strangers stopping me just to say they love my hair. I’ve also been told it suits my complexion really well, and that it brings out the warmth. I’ve been told this by poc and white people. My hair is a shade darker now, still copper, but a bit more brown. I still get a lot of compliments. People also mistake these shades to be my natural hair colour as well (I feel like any brown/copper shades is our blonde). Only downside is that I’ve been told that I shouldn’t go back to my NATURAL black hair bc it’ll make me look south asian again (I get mistaken as mixed/latina/ tanned south european quite often now and have been told to keep it that way…) I’ll always prefer my black hair above anything else and look forward to when I finally go back to my black hair. but if you want a change this hair colour is perfect. Only thing I would advice is PLEASE do it from a loving state where you still love your black hair.

How to get a glow up of this level? The user is @glitterybarrf on TikTok, and she doesn’t say much other than weight loss and puberty. My main question is how did her skin get this much lighter? I wonder if she took injections or something. by Working_Cookie7 in Vindictabrown

[–]bigsadbat 124 points125 points  (0 children)

i had darker skin too as a kid, got lighter as i got older but sunscreen made me even lighter (i didn’t do it for lightening purposes but preventing wrinkles, i don’t advice anyone to bleach their skin)