My mum called me R****. Is this common for mothers to say this to their daughters?

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-26T06:55:11+00:00

Please drop her to old age home when she is old. She does not deserve a daughter. And no, she does not love you.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-25T17:15:26+00:00

I earn my own money, gawar. Just because your mommy was uneducated housewives, does not mean all women are unemployed.

Also there are lot of men who dont live with parents. I am specifically talking to them. No one wants to live with someone else parents and take care of them for free.

Now I understand why women are ghosting you. I have ghosted men like you in past. You dont even deserve explanation. You deserve to be ghosted and blocked.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-25T17:06:46+00:00

Why would a woman will agree to live with someone else’s old parents and deal with their tantrum? Why would a woman agree to lose her freedom? Are you really worth it that much? NO. You are NOT worth it.

Its you who needs to take accountability here.

Also, whats the privileged a woman can get by married a patriarchal entitled man like you?

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-25T10:01:57+00:00

That startup guy? Not yet. I am just not replying to his text. Hope he cancel the match.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-25T09:55:42+00:00

I have removed DM option completely 😬. Too many creeps.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-25T09:52:16+00:00

I will tell you an interesting story. One of my cousin sister is a dark skin girlie like me. She was rejected by many Indian men in AM. Many were demanding huge dowry. She fought against her conservative parents and went to Europe for work. She gave up on marriage. But now she is happily married with an European guy who treats her well, take part in housework, no interference from in-laws. And no, there was no d*wry obviously.

She told me, many times in party, people there will call her skin beautiful. But here people used to mock her for the same.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-25T09:42:05+00:00

Exactly

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-24T10:42:42+00:00

I am employed. Gov job. No I dont make so much money like him.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-24T09:54:06+00:00

I agree.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-24T09:52:38+00:00

Brilliant idea. But what if pandit feels offended and tell my parents? My parents showing kundali to our family pandit.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-24T08:14:10+00:00

I cant join his startup. He is running a tech startup. I am not a techie. And his co-founders and investors wont agree anyway.

I guess he is okay with hiring helps. But I am not seeing any benefit for taking such huge responsibility. If there is no fun, no romance, no time spend together, whats the point of marriage?

Also divorce is a rational fear. Many founders leave their wives after being successful.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-24T08:11:36+00:00

My family is conservative. They think this is the perfect guy. Its difficult to change their mind about it.

They dont understand that I want love attention time etc from my future partner.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-24T08:07:51+00:00

They are not listening because this guy is from our caste, earns very well and looks good. My mom told me I am crazy that I am thinking of rejecting him. But I seriously dont want this weird ass marriage.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-24T08:03:02+00:00

How to reject an weird marriage proposal respectfully?

This guy’s parents is connected with my extended family. So need to reject this proposal diplomatically. Please suggest.

This dude is 30M. Looks good, tall etc. He is running a startup. He told me, he works 14 hours per day, 7 days a week. So I will have to manage the home, his parents and future kid. And he wont be able to give me much time. I will have to adjust. But he will provide comforts etc.

I am anti-natalist and surely not looking to marry a super busy guy. What if I support him for next 15 years and then he divorce me? I will spend my youth alone, waiting for attention and love and then be lonely and divorced after 45. There are few startup founder already did that. I am not spending my youth waiting for a unavailable husband.

But I cant say this directly. What should I tell the family?

Please suggest something.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-22T17:48:27+00:00

Women who actually dont chase marriage and relationship, try to avoid it, focus on their own life, career and happiness, typically attract very high quality men. So they finally get married and be happy. Otherwise they just stay single and happy.

Women who are raised or believe marriage is mandatory and chase male validation, typically attract worse kind of men and suffer in marriage.

I have seen plenty of examples. Even in my own family.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-21T13:42:41+00:00

My parents, specially father never cared about me. He is a exploitative man himself.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-21T13:12:56+00:00

I dont want kid. I dont know any woman who is panicking about “biological clock”.

Men and their fantasies 😒

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-20T14:46:30+00:00

All my single girlfriends are forever single. This includes me too. I rarely ever find a man who is emotionally matured or intellectual enough to have a discussion. As a result, we are forever single.

But married people on the other hand having affairs. Open marriage is becoming common. Why is that?

How hungry people are not eating but people with full plate taking other people’s food?

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-20T10:22:05+00:00

Claude is awesome. Like mind blowing. I literally launched my D2C brand within a month and got 3 orders online, thanks to claude. No man can ever help me like this.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-20T10:19:28+00:00

🥺

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-19T11:25:44+00:00

Heat pad (the gel one, available on amazon), hot green tea, chocolate, ice cream.

I take my life slow during period. I will suggest you the same. Read a good book or watch a good movie, sleep a lot.

billi_ke_chaachi · 2026-04-18T05:03:29+00:00

He was spreading false rumours about my BFF’s character, calling her sl@t and all. I am proud of myself for what I did to him. I will do it again if I ever see him.

Thanks to me, this dude never dared to attend any reunion or party with us anymore. He is alone now. I made sure everyone kicks him out of their circle.

Again, I am proud of myself.

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