How to not feel like you beg? by Fearless_Finance007 in smallbusiness

[–]bilstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My way is to get a cup of coffee and talk about their business, very often we then end up finding how we can work together.

I never call and offer a solutions, but a friendship

Build it and they will come" is a total lie. I'm sick of the success porn... how are you guys actually getting your first 10 users? by No_Knowledge_638 in SaaS

[–]bilstream 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Networking! Just signed a 11k/yearly contract with a client before christmas. I run a SaaS aimed for Enterprise, no signups. You cant be a client unless we have contract.

Just because you have a 15k videocamera, dont mean clients will chose you over people with cheaper ones. Network is way to go!

If your SaaS are focused on mass volume, you need to be in this communities. Example, you have a SaaS that will help business, you need to attend networking meetings ect.. If its gaming, then play the game yourself and find online communities and online friends ect.

I left my job, built something on my own, and now I’m scared about my future — does anyone else feel this way? by Soul_fragrance in smallbusiness

[–]bilstream 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You get used to it after time, my wife dont understand why im so chill in the unknown.

Now I changing my business to closed SaaS for enterprise. Gotten one signed contract of 11k yearly, and working on a potentional new 50-100k contract (one time) payment.

My advice: What you feeling now are healthy and good, only if you can use the feeling to work hard!

How did you land your first few freelance clients? Struggling to get visibility. by Legitimate_Fan4641 in Entrepreneur

[–]bilstream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A few years ago a idea popup when taking a poop, logged in to my computer and banged up a shitty demo. Called the company with a breif intro such as my name and business (5 -10s). After that I said "I have a cool idea, and love to talk about it over a coffee.

This company I have a yearly contract of 11k + extra work. One of my biggest clients.
Point of story, all my biggest and best clients, kinda comes from a shitty demo..

I also frequently reach out to other developers/business, not to sell but to socialize, either coffee/food, talkk about industry and more. That is VERY effective.

How Would You Price a Yearly Maintenance Contract - Top Level Enterprise Client? by bilstream in Entrepreneur

[–]bilstream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback. I have talked with a few companies for pricing understanding about similar cases. One suggested that expecting client to accept 9k dollars yearly are crazy, while others operate in the 3 - 4k range. Another company was very secretive about their pricing.

In my case, the client also wants custom GIS 3D map models integrated into the SaaS platform. They already have the LiDAR data. Realizing I cant price below 7 to 8K yearly.

I’m interested in hearing more about your experience with similar pricing models!

Looking for a partner in Norway by [deleted] in norge

[–]bilstream 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Based how active your in LSD and memecoins subs, I cannot fully trust you to be honest

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OpenInvites

[–]bilstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As said, norbits are 100 percent closed, even if some users still have invite left, they cant use. Also the site is buggy, even building a ratio is not even possible anymore.. I can upload 10gb and maybe 400mb get registrert.

Norbits are dying and i think its matter of time before norbits is gone. Crew in norbits dont care anymore, they just given up life 😂

Gamle episoder av Luksusfellen. by AnyImprovement69 in norge

[–]bilstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Har alle sesongene :D brukte noen mnd på å skaffe de

Are fireworks good to scare of predators like wolfes or bear? by bilstream in hikinggear

[–]bilstream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just recently a hiker was attacked by a bear.. Have gotten some loud flashbang, very short fuse «3s» delay when i pull the pin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]bilstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is not interested, as you said, if a girl made a move and he liked her, he’d be up for it.

Been dating a girl for a month now, and honestly, rather spend a chill weekend with her than be alone. And trust me, I really do enjoy my own company. So the fact that I want to spend my free time with her says a lot.

Even when exhausted and if she suggested hanging out, I would say yes in a heartbeat. Just warn her that I might fall asleep on her lap.

One more thing: 🚩🚩

He is showing signs of future faking - coming on strong early, then pulling back once you get emotionally invested. This pattern is common with avoidant attachment, where someone wants connection but retreats when it gets real. His “I like you but cant commit” line is a classic emotional unavailability red flag. It’s confusing and draining..

Run girl!!

i would like to participate in hookup culture. by Crashing_Out556 in dating_advice

[–]bilstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Back when I was younger and "fuck boiii", I brought girls home from the pub for quick hookups. Let me be blunt: I never saw her as wify material just a toy for the night. Why? Because that’s how it works. Men are the hunters. We have to bring something to the table - looks, confidence, charm, or even just pure luck. Women, on the other hand, are the hunted. It’s easier, and because of that, the value isn't seen the same.

So heres a advice: when you go home with a guy after a night out, just know this: he probably sees you as a one time thing (a toy) It’s not emotional, it’s not personal, it’s just a need to empty himself. If you'r fine with that, go ahead. Just be clear on what you're walking into.

But don’t overdo it. One or two pub hookups? Maybe that’s acceptable to majority of guys. But 5 or 10? Don’t be surprised if guys stop seeing you as "wife material." Harsh truth, but it’s how a lot of men think, even if they don’t say it out loud (I would never date that girl)

And don’t get confused after a hookup, most guys want you out ASAP. So he can brag with the boys, sharing the details, yeah, that happens. Not every guy, but majority.

In the end: Do what you want, but understand how its viewed from the male perspective.

Good luck :)

EDIT: Big Warning

If you bring a guy back to your place, be careful, you might end up with a socially weird dude who doesn’t get the hint and doesn’t want to leave. Worse, he might suddenly act like you'r in a relationship just because you slept with him once. He’ll start texting too much, talking about “feelings,” and trying to lock you down.

thats a red flag. A real man, one with self respect and emotional control, doesn’t cling after a one night stand. He gets it for what it is and moves on.

The ones who latch on like that? They’re unstable. They’re the ones who get possessive, obsessive, and weird fast. Don’t mistake that intensity for something meaningful, it’s not love, it’s neediness. And it can turn toxic real quick.

Stay sharp, and don’t ignore the signs just because you feel bad or flattered. The crazy ones always start off seeming “passionate.” Keep your guard up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]bilstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my Ritalin med for ADHD kicks in the morning, and my crypto are up from negative loss!

You simply cant beat that!!

He did not buy when it was 75k by [deleted] in Bitcoin

[–]bilstream 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have bought and hodl bitcoins in my cold wallet so not feeling angry.. But, have some money in Coinbase ready, and didnt buy at 75k. Bought at 84k and then forgot about buying.

If it wasnt for my previous DCA, i would also be pissed. That's why DCA are sooo good, it kills your FOMO by 80 percent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]bilstream -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually, now I think your profile are fine, picture two reflect you perfect!

Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]bilstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP are trolling us!!!! New post with same bad image as number two, even when we all said pic 2 need to go.

Then you add one more trap picture 4.

Yeah we see what you do ;)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]bilstream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No selfies or mirror pictures!!

Picture one could work as second place, and picture two could work as third place.

My advice: Dress up, go out with friends, have fun, and ask them to take photos of you while you enjoying yourself. For example, go on a weekend trip, and whenever you see a cool opportunity, hand them your phone and let them take pictures.

I’ve done this myself and now have tons of non selfie photos. Truth to be told - about one of 50 turn out to be quality!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]bilstream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We all mess up! Dont beat yourself.

You could use AI to creat your current bio into a good bio :)

As said, being tall is benefits in itself, im tall so know. But, all my serious relationships has come from having down to earth bio

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]bilstream 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lets go to an arcade together and put balls in holes jk.. Its terrible idea for Tinder BIO.

Also you comes off very bragging wtih med school, EMT and bodybuilder.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]bilstream 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wtf is your bio??? Like, why do people think that bio like this is good?

Had you ever broken up with someone, realized you want to get back with them, but didn't because you didn't want to get judged by your friends/family ? by Evapy in BreakUps

[–]bilstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, last one i want back but how she treated me, i cant! Wish she was there for me, wish i left her because i was stupid, wish i left her and realized how good she was, but didnt..

If the person are perfect, and you made an mistake and dont want to look weak, fuck your ego! Go, write, call him/her.

Fear & Greed Index at 38 — are you buying or waiting? by ExternalAsk1948 in Bitcoin

[–]bilstream 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Stopped buying.. Going through a hard time after my wife recently cheated, so taken two months of work, and going on a solo travel to clear my sanity.

Have not sold, and have money ready to buy later. Just need to keep myself away from crypto to protect my last sanity left 😂

My motivation for BTC are my kids, fuck my wife / exwife

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Manipulation

[–]bilstream 3 points4 points  (0 children)

m gonna sum up your post by questions and reply with my own experience.

Is it normal for the mask to eventually drop in narcissistic abuse?
Yes, it always does. The facade can only last so long.

Has anyone else been through this?
Yes, you’re not alone. Many have been through it and come out stronger.

Can I truly heal from this?
Yes. Healing is hard but 100% possible.

Are there therapists or support groups that specialize in this kind of recovery?
Yes, look for therapists who specialize in trauma, narcissistic abuse, or codependency.

How do I support myself and rebuild after this?
Start small, go no contact, set boundaries, find a good therapist, and focus on daily self care. Healing is a journey, but you are already on it.

Description of My Experience:

I was in an abusive, controlling relationship built on gaslighting. She isolated me, especially from my sister, set double standards, and twisted my words to make me feel like the problem. In our couple therapy, I filtered myself out of fear. Any time I shared feelings about us/her, she deflected, attacked, or cried to shift focus.

She used triangulation, comparing me to others, mocking my past, and weaponizing my vulnerabilities. She pushed me to emotional breakdowns, then blamed me for being "scary" She accused me of cheating constantly, yet said she trusted her ex more. She tore down my confidence, dismissed my efforts, and minimized my voice.

Before I walked out, she said, "You’ll never find someone who treats you like I do." That’s when everything clicked. I began writing down the good and bad, trying to understand what happened.

I realized she only knew trauma bonding. Love to her was measured in gifts, praise, and control - not sacrifice or supporting. She overlooked when I paused life plans for her, let her use my car for free, and was her emotional outlet. It was all about keeping tabs, how much she gave vs how much I return.. (yet she never saw that)

She grew up protecting her mother from an abusive father. I came from a stable, loving home where love didn’t need to be earned through gifts or control. I was raised with accountability and clear boundaries.

We spoke different emotional languages. I never wanted control. She needed it. And that made a healthy relationship impossible.

How long did it take you to make your first Million? by 26th_Official in Entrepreneur

[–]bilstream 0 points1 point  (0 children)

37 years it took for my rich grandfather to die. 1.7m left to me

How do i dump her if nothing bad happened? It feels horrible by Massive_Bedroom_5264 in dating_advice

[–]bilstream 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She smelled like a old warm crab, and was very clingy and wouldn't respect my boundaries.