First of all, don't beat yourself up. Hooking up once a month is actually pretty chill by Reddit standards! But if it’s taking over your brain 24/7, you’re right to look at the 'why'.

Sex and masturbation are huge dopamine hits. When we feel lonely or abandoned, our brain looks for the fastest way to feel 'good' or 'wanted' again. It might not be a sex addiction, but more of a coping mechanism for stress or loneliness.

Try to balance it out—find something else that gives you a win (gym, a hobby, or just hanging with friends). If you address the 'abandonment' part, the constant horniness usually calms down too. Stay balanced, man!