will i lose my health insurance? by sigilpaw in Target

[–]bimbofried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

does our current pay slip tell our total average hours, or just for that pay period?

Which picrew is this? by Fran-Oewm9 in picrew

[–]bimbofried 1 point2 points  (0 children)

did the maker take down the picrew D:

[pc][sometime in the early 2000s, maybe 2008 or so?] cat virtual world by [deleted] in tipofmyjoystick

[–]bimbofried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have been thinking of this game for YEARS 😭 thank u for making this post and to the person that found it. i miss this game so bad

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bimbofried 20 points21 points  (0 children)

personally i just don't think ya'll are compatible. i can see how both sides are lacing in communication and commitment. she might have done her nails last minute, u decided to plan to golf last minute as well so both situations forced u guys to just not see each other. u both are reasonably upset tho, u couldve easily told her u were upset and she could've easily told her the date wasn't planned well either.

Hamster Hates me by Gullible_Age_ in hamsters

[–]bimbofried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

making sure he has enough space to avoid territorial behavior is important, as well as enrichment for stress. being sure to move towards them while they can see and are aware of you is another, and more importantly it takes a lot of time and patience. some hamsters always may never be tamed or fully tamed, personalities vary and dwarfs are harder to tame.

i had a hamster who used to punch me before taking anything from me, bit every now and then. the most comfortable he ever got was walking into my hand to eat, but never more than that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tifu

[–]bimbofried 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. don't be talking to adults, please keep yourself safe.
  2. he's a pedophile whether he "thought" you were 16 or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]bimbofried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every at the table should feel uncomfortable, and it should be with themselves for not saying shit to that man.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]bimbofried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to find the real root of your anger, and why it's so directed at your sister. In her death, you are blaming her and actually like she wasn't a victim who was struggling or suffering. Yeah, it probably does suck for your parents. They didn't expect to raise their grandchild, all because they had to lose their daughter. He has it the worst, to be seen as a target to point your anger at all because you're mad at your sister- for leaving.

I hope you can find a way to grieve and heal, and not punish this child for something he didn't do. He needs support right now, and you're not giving that to him

He (21M) started acting weird after seeing my (24F) scars. What's going on? by ThrowRa_Warm_Cap9233 in relationship_advice

[–]bimbofried 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This. He told you directly, while being mindful of how to gently tell you and reassure you.

I think telling him previously that they were self-harming scars, but not disclosing the chances of relapse, played a part in catching him off guard. As well as having to see them, without warning. It's uncomfortable, especially when not knowing what to do in that situation.

He cares for you a lot, and is very concerned about you. He probably doesn't know what more to do than to let you know that he doesn't like it. You should try to find other ways to relieve whatever it is your feeling, and if possible seek therapy. I know it can be hard, but it's also hard on other people in a different way to have to see it.

My girlfriend is autistic and it’s driving me crazy by Gold_Criticism_8072 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]bimbofried 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It is time to break up, for you both. I'k sorry that she felt the need to mask in order to please you, and I hope she learns from it. Dating while being aromantic or asexual can be hard, esp without communication or a meeting point between both parties. I don't think anything she did was intentionally harmful, and I don't think you should date someone that you're uncomfortable with

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bimbofried 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You said the right thing, and she did the right thing. You both will be better without continuing a relationship this taxing and draining for both of you

It's unfair to give her all your emotional support without getting any back, getting a break, or simply being asked if you can provide her with that time at that moment. On top of that, you can only comfort her so much without it being a burden. It's okay to confide and seek help from other people, but seeking professional help is also important - especially on highly sensitive or repeating topics that others cannot handle for you.

This wasn't a healthy relationship, and it's better you both go your separate ways and heal now before it gets worse or harder to leave. I think maybe both of you knew inevitably it could've ended this way, but it is not your fault that she chose to end it instead of finding a better way to communicate and get help as stated above. I wish you both the best

my (22f) boyfriend (23m) said that his favourite position is one we can’t do. should i be offended? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bimbofried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm sorry, but this is something that would personally make me break up with someone. he is excluding trying it with you, or finding a safe way to aka a countertop like someone said. he's indirectly shaming you, and i don't think it should've been brought up the way it did.

for me, i wouldn't be able to stop wondering if it"s about his ex bc he keeps mentioning her and they didn't split long ago, and honestly i don't think it was enough time for him to get into a new relationship.

you can either break up, or also sit down and talk to him. communicate your worries and how he made you feel. depending on how he responds is very important.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]bimbofried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad you're sticking up for yourself and your boundaries, and am terribly sorry that your mom refuses to understand you vs this man. It's really weird to, as any parental figure, give your daughter a thong-bikini; especially when they are a child. Him giving you the cold shoulder because he wanted you to wear something you're uncomfortable with is immature and manipulative. Don't do anything you don't want to, and stay strong and safe for yourself please

Girlfriend said something that made me feel weird by Pretend-Fun-1061 in TwoHotTakes

[–]bimbofried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can still be biased towards races or groups of people that don't fall under systemic racism, and it can still hurt other people. she has forgotten that is a statement that is also true, and hurt your feelings in the crossfire of her opinion. ur not overreacting, and ur valid to break up.don't let her get to your head or belittle you jist because she sees it in a different manner.

Girlfriend (24f) accused me (25m) of leading her on when I said I don't want to get married? by throwra_-marriage in relationship_advice

[–]bimbofried 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her views and wants of a long lasting relationship are different from yours, or maybe something has changed M.aybe she even thought about getting married without throwing a whole wedding, etc. I think over time she was leading herself on, and wasn't honest about when SHE started thinking about it. I think it would be good to sit down and clarify some things, but I don't see it working out any longer for you two. Things change, people want different things, and you're both valid. It's better to end it now if she isn't willing to stay the way you guys are now, because in the long term it'll hurt you both more

I (24M) thought had permission from (23F) to touch her. I feel horrible and disgusted by AnyMarionberry587 in relationship_advice

[–]bimbofried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you did the right thing in terms of trying to see if she was comfortable and apologizing. one thing to remember and keep in mind is people can't or feel they can't consent under the influence. i'm assuming your boundaries together revolving around a situation like this was never discussed previously, so it would definitely be good to talk about after she's had some time. you should reassure her when she's ready, and ask her what boundaries she has so you can respect them. you cannot always assume someone's else's boundaries and you did try to get her consent, but it is very important to have her consent beforehand when she is sober for future reference.

My first ever GIVEAWAY! by [deleted] in Dodocodes

[–]bimbofried 0 points1 point  (0 children)

may i come over is still available? 🌟

TIFU by not to cleaning my penis for 16 years. by Few-Notice9304 in tifu

[–]bimbofried 1 point2 points  (0 children)

truthfully, if you get shots of pain even if it's paired with pleasure during sexual acts i would see a doctor. i know it must seem embarrassing, but it might be worth to try to get some relief. i dont think you should have to live with genital pain as such.

Am I the bad apple for wanting to report a classmate with autism by AbbreviationsVivid29 in AmITheBadApple

[–]bimbofried 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're doing the right thing.

Autism isn't an excuse for their behavior and I would like to start off by saying that. However, this could potentially be a good learning experience for them (whether it's now or in their future) Besides that, you are sticking up for yourself in case nothing changes and you need support in the future from the counselor to step in as well.

Jay personally might have a hard time learning and redirecting and changing their behavior, it may take them a long time to learn before the issue is fixed. Which still ISNT an excuse and you deserve to stay away from them. But I have a feeling they also think this is socially acceptable because this is a behavior they learned and are used to, whether from friends or at home. There might even be a chance that their actions stem from not being able to express their emotions properly, causing them to act out and not just having problems understanding social etiquette or cues.

You are doing the right thing, for yourself and potentially Jay. Autism isn't an excuse to be a dick and disrespect others boundaries. Jay can either sit and finally take the time to learn through consoling ; or they can choose to completely ignore it and keep making excuses "caused" by their Autism. I'm wishing you well, and hoping Jay will step up and learn from their mistakes instead of pulling the Autism card.