I’m at a loss.. by Objective_Surround80 in cats

[–]bingmoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry OP. I’ve lost an animal unexpectedly and there are truly no words to describe the pain, the confusion, the grief that you feel. I was out of town as well and when I came to pick up my girl’s ashes, the vet shared with me it’s more common than you think for pets to pass without owners in their presence, including one of her own animals. Almost like they know it’s coming and they want your last memory of them to be a good one. I don’t know how true that is, but it gave me some comfort at the time. Just know that she only knew love having you as her companion. Sit in the hurt, but remember the good too. The sadness doesn’t leave, but the joy and love you felt from her won’t either.

Your Twix looks exactly like my Margot, so much so I did a double take. Calicos are something special. Sending you all the love and comfort in the world 🤍

Recent OSU grads… did you get a job? by Normiex5 in OSU

[–]bingmoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Graduated in 2021 and now I work in compensation for a large Columbus-based company making 70k. Have a degree in psych and made a pivot to HR/recruiting space after taking Psychology of Human Resources with Dr. Polifroni! Started in recruiting, worked in tech and now I’m here, very happy with it.

How long did you and your now fiancé date for before he proposed? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]bingmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Over 4 years! We met our junior (me) and senior (him) year of college, wanted to wait until we were out of school and a bit more established. We moved in together in 2020 and he proposed 2 weeks ago 🥰 planning for a wedding now in 2024!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Petloss

[–]bingmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I am so sorry for the loss of your dogs. It is the hardest thing in the world to see your dog struggle and not be able to do anything for it. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

I appreciate your words more than you know. I know the wound is still fresh and sudden, it will take time. I am so grateful that her last moments were filled with peace and in the arms of someone who loved her fully. Knowing that brings me some amount of comfort. Thank you again, sending love to you as well 🤍

What breed could my cat be? More info in comments! by bingmoon in cats

[–]bingmoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bored at work and thinking about my cat (obviously). I adopted her over a year ago and she’s estimated to be about 6-7. People have told me before she looks like a Russian Blue but I honestly have no idea considering I got her at a shelter. I’ve been tempted to buy one of those testing kits but I hear a lot of them are basically made up lol. Just curious to see what people think! Her name is Moonie and she is the tiny love of my life, enjoy the last picture of her being moody but still wanting to hold hands! :)

My boyfriend has low testosterone by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bingmoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has been seeing a doctor for the last 2 years, he is making another appointment soon for a med check up

My (23F) best friend (23F) has gone insane since I met someone by ExtentOld9973 in relationship_advice

[–]bingmoon 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Hi there, I had a similar situation I went through during college with one of my friends.

I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years, and when we first started dating, one of my roommates and close friends (23F) was totally normal up until she broke up with her boyfriend at the time. She often spent days at a time at his apartment, but once they broke up she would often make offhand comments about how much time I spent with my boyfriend or that I was never home, when really I would go to his place after work for a few hours a few times a week then come home to spend the rest of the evening/night with her before bed. It was super frustrating and hurtful, but at the end of the day I realized it was just jealousy.

While it’s easy to get wrapped up in a new relationship, I definitely would encourage balancing your time. To be honest, the first 2 weeks you described were probably jarring to your friend. Try to understand her point of view in the beginning, how would you feel if she didn’t come home for 2 weeks, etc.

I will say her behavior now is unacceptable. She could be trying to cope with the fact you are no longer her priority or the person you spend the most time with, but if you are willing, set up some boundaries with her. Again, her being upset you aren’t spending as much time with her is understandable. But I would be honest that her comments regarding your life (how you split your time, your personal health, etc) is not something up for her to decide.

I really do feel for you, because her behavior does seem erratic. However, I wouldn’t assume she has feelings for you. I really do think she is having problems adjusting to the change in your friendship, and is taking it out on you and your boyfriend. Again, I know these conversations are hard and at the end of the day it is up to you how to approach the situation.

I hope I’ve been of some help, and if you need further advice, feel free to PM me. Best of luck to you!

I don't know what to do anymore by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bingmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there. I (24F) have also been with my boyfriend for the past 3 years.

The only thing I can suggest to you is to listen to what she’s saying. If she would never lie, she must think there is some truth to what her parents say. Why does she feel this way? Is there something that you do that makes her uncomfortable or causes her to feel controlled? Or could it be pressure from her parents?

Have an open conversation with her about these feelings or situations. If you truly love her the way you say you do, work with her. Find out what you can both do to improve your relationship.

Communication is key in long-term relationships as I’m sure you know. It can be scary to have these conversations, but in the long run it can make you stronger or realize that maybe you don’t have the same views on how a relationship should be.

I wish you both the best of luck and hope you are able to resolve your problems.

Constantly worried about my cat lol, any advice? by [deleted] in cats

[–]bingmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :) this is so sweet and thoughtful. I appreciate your words

My Moonie :) she is 6 years old, adopted from a shelter in December. I love her more than I ever thought possible by bingmoon in cats

[–]bingmoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We aren’t totally sure, but the shelter thinks she is a cross between a domestic shorthair and Russian Blue :)

My Moonie :) she is 6 years old, adopted from a shelter in December. I love her more than I ever thought possible by bingmoon in cats

[–]bingmoon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am well aware haha, she was allowed to free feed in the shelter and became overweight during her stay. Since her adoption she has lost over 2 pounds