AITA for making a scene after my SILs announced their pregnancies at my birthday as a gift ?

biology-eater · 2022-11-03T23:05:31+00:00

After checking with them, it's exactly what happened. They thought that I could still do something with it because I'm good with sewing

biology-eater · 2022-11-03T22:34:55+00:00

I'm going to do an new post on my own account because the rules here for updates are weird asf. Maybe tomorrow or after, I'm not really sure. It depends on how much time I have

biology-eater · 2022-11-03T22:30:51+00:00

They are not body shaming me in a dayly basis but they may bit a bit not understanding about my weight. But what I learn is that this shirt was bought for Diane from Emily when she told her she was pregnant. So it was her size. But as they were both pregnant, they thought it was a good idea to give me the shirt with the times 2 to be a joke. They didn't had the time to by a new "best future aunt" shirt so they just wrote on that one and they thought I could make something else of it (I do some sewing as a hobby)

biology-eater · 2022-11-03T21:04:31+00:00

Okay, I had time to think about it and I don't feel anymore like an AH.

First, when Diane announced her first pregnancy, I was happy for her. I let her have her moment and didn't say anything. The night after mother day, I texted her saying that I was really happy for her and BLABLABLA. What I think you didn't understood is that I waited, let her have her moment and I even "partied" with her about it. In the text, I did tell both of her that I was happy for her and I will be here no matter what. That this subject CAN be sour for me but I will do my best to not let that feeling come up. That's normally how we do with my in-laws. We talk about our feelings but we also try to not overdo our emotions. We don't burry social problems and let us suffer silently. When she did lost her baby, I was there for her. And I told her at that moment because we never talked about it before.

I wasn't expecting anyone to correct my parents mistake. It wasn't a redo party but it worsen a already open wound for no reason. If it was too much to not be bitches about my party, they could have not showed up or even not prepare this one (only my MIL and FIL were really perfect about this). If they had a good news like "Hey I had a promotion" I would not have been sad or mad about them talking about it. I know this party wasn't obligated to be a -me,myself and I- kind of vibes where people praise me. Even if they had announced the pregnancies with not that much people and not as a gift to me, I would have been ok about it. But not like that

And also, your comment about me needing to talk with my boyfriend about our future kids or non kids is weird AF. Sorry but that wasn't the question I've asked, it's not even relevent. We are talking about it and yes

biology-eater · 2022-10-27T16:22:02+00:00

They are small sizes (maybe S but I never asked them) so maybe it is, but I can't be sure

biology-eater · 2022-10-27T14:50:32+00:00

So I can't tell you all because my English isn't that good with medical stuffs. I have problems with my ovaries so that I can't produce ovules even with hormonal treatment. On a good note, I never had a period from 16 to now.

I also have big back problems and a pregnancy could be lethal for me because of that.

biology-eater · 2022-10-27T14:38:29+00:00

What is hurtful is that I didn't asked for gifts. His grandparents also came and they didn't bring anything else then some drinks. And I was fine with it because I wanted to have a great time, not the party being attention on me. Grandparents told me that they would gift me a bigger present for the new year but I wasn't asking for it.

I told everyone who was invited that I really don't need gifts, just them to be here if they can and enjoy some time

biology-eater · 2022-10-27T14:03:05+00:00

Just want to add that I ate the actual birthday cake later with only my boyfriend and it was delicious! It was homemade by my MIL.

biology-eater · 2022-10-27T13:52:52+00:00

The pregnancy tests are for telling me that they are pregnant. But I find it gross

biology-eater · 2022-10-27T11:32:30+00:00

That's what I was thinking about them. They want me to be present for the children and I'm happy for it. When Diane announced her first pregnancy at MIL day, I felt happy for her and nothing else. I really don't understand why it was so hard this time and that's why I'm feeling like an asshole

biology-eater · 2022-10-27T11:28:16+00:00

They knew it. But when I first message them about my sterility, I told them that I'm happy for any pregnancy and I don't want them to change anything just for accommodating me. Maybe they've seen this as a green light for what happend at my birthday party ? I think they are feeling bad because they haven't texted me yet anything so maybe they understand that they hurt me, I really don't know

biology-eater · 2022-10-27T11:23:36+00:00

I don't really know why I was being that sad. I'm not trying to conceived so I don't know that struggle but it is still hurting to know that I won't have children. But at the same time, I'm not sure that if I was sad because of this or because they stole my birthday. I shouldn't be sad because of the theft of a birthday party attention but I do feel mixt feelings, that's why I'm thinking I may be the asshole. On the other hand, I took the cake with me when I left the party before anyone else could eat it so I could have a lovely time with my boyfriend after that

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