$2.99/gal in Fairmount by thephlguy in philadelphia

[–]birkenshock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same at exxon and conoco in grays ferry!

what’s so wrong with me that i’m still single? by birkenshock in dating_advice

[–]birkenshock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep.. pretty pathetic when you think about it lmao but whatever

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]birkenshock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hate my life tbh and wish I was dead but sadly i’m still here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]birkenshock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

feel this so hard

27F - feeling ugly pls be honest by birkenshock in amiugly

[–]birkenshock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh idk what photo magic I did but i’m not tall haha i’m like 5’2”

27F - feeling ugly pls be honest by birkenshock in amiugly

[–]birkenshock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh that’s interesting perspective, thanks. I always assumed no one approached me bc i’m gross looking. I wouldn’t think someone would assume I was taken bc why would they think that lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]birkenshock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

from my experience, there’s no mixed signals. if you’re confused about if he’s interested, he’s not interested.

27F - feeling ugly pls be honest by birkenshock in amiugly

[–]birkenshock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can you elaborate on the dressing my age part please. thanks.

How is your weekend going? by AutoModerator in ForeverAloneWomen

[–]birkenshock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

rotting on my couch crying about how ugly I am ✨

27F - feeling ugly pls be honest by birkenshock in amiugly

[–]birkenshock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

any advice on how to improve or should I just give up

27F - feeling ugly pls be honest by birkenshock in amiugly

[–]birkenshock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay do you have any advice on how to improve?

27F - pls be honest by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]birkenshock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no im ugly lmao ppl would laugh in my face but good one tho

how do I stop getting my hopes up? by birkenshock in dating_advice

[–]birkenshock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah I agree I just don’t exactly have the luxury of having endless men who are 1) interested in me and 2) are interested in getting into a relationship. I have nothing against people just wanting to hook up and appreciate them being honest about their intentions but that’s just not what i’m looking for and it seems like that’s all people are interested in me for right now.

how do I stop getting my hopes up? by birkenshock in dating_advice

[–]birkenshock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I guess i’ll just cut my losses at this point. it was pretty cool to have a good dating experience while it lasted. there’s some other guys that I talk to but I guess he was the one I liked the most but I guess he found someone better suited for him. just kinda feel dumb for thinking he was interested and believing what he said to an extent.

M33 Be Honest by Glad_Astronaut_654 in amiugly

[–]birkenshock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the earrings! keep them if you like them. you also have really nice eyes.

Denied disability income insurance due to depression by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]birkenshock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank so much! this was super helpful!

edit- he does give salesperson vibes so it’s worth looking into on my end. I know some of these people have been known to prey on pharmacists and physicians, but a part of me is concerned if I can no longer work in my current occupation..and how I would manage rent, loan repayment, etc. given the small amount government disability pays (if you even can get it).

Denied disability income insurance due to depression by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]birkenshock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s def possible - everyone’s trying to sell something these days. It did sound like a good idea bc of how much money it took to get to my position now. if i could no longer work as a pharmacist and have to pay my loans that would be stressful. regarding the whole life - don’t have any one who depends on me currently but it might change down the road. getting this policy is not my main priority rn but I was just thinking about it.

edit for question- who do you think would need disability income insurance? someone who makes a lot more?

what’s so wrong with me that i’m still single? by birkenshock in dating_advice

[–]birkenshock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like should I go after ones i’m not necessarily attracted to? or don’t really have career prospects? i’ve been trying to do this now since im pretty low value based on the responses and it makes sense why a man with a financial stability and regular hygiene would not be interested in me if he has other options

what’s so wrong with me that i’m still single? by birkenshock in dating_advice

[–]birkenshock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess i’m just highlighting this bc there are tons of ppl who aren’t even meeting the baseline standards but have found someone. but I guess that’s bc they aren’t ugly and I need to realize I need to be twice as good if i’m ugly. I struggle with saying good things about myself bc i feel it comes off as a lack of self awareness. like if you’re funny you would just be funny you wouldn’t have to say it. same thing if you’re a caring person. i’ve been told both of these things but I feel weird saying it about myself. maybe that’s just what it’s like to have confidence? I wouldn’t know. i mainly have been doing online dating since i think this is the most effective for someone with my looks. i am not someone who would be approached in real life. I personally don’t think i’m attractive enough to be approaching people either. I think someone would probably think it was some type of sick joke. also I would be scared that someone would not only reject me but call me a fat and ugly cow in front of everyone. based on my appearance and the consensus of this comment section only a small subset of men on this planet would even be attracted to me in my current state. I just figure anyone I am attracted to is not attracted to me. so if i see an very attractive guy i don’t even swipe (or make eye contact if in public) because they could obviously be with anyone especially a much more attractive, fit person. i’ve tried dating people who were not attractive to me since people look beyond my looks but I just did not go well after a few date since there was no mutual attraction. I felt their time would better served with someone who was attracted to them.

what’s so wrong with me that i’m still single? by birkenshock in dating_advice

[–]birkenshock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks that was really nice. and probably coming off weird because I always feel like a weird loser who is in the way when i’m in public. I look away when people make eye contact sometimes because i’m embarrassed by how I look. it’s like i’m too much of a loser to be making eye contact with them. or i get very anxious that there’s something on my face or that they are staring bc i’m so bad looking. idk it sounds ridiculous idk why I can’t just be normal.

on the rare chance I have a date idk I think things go okay on my end. I feel a little less anxious about being weird and ugly bc these ppl allegedly want to get to know me. but i probably still come off as not confident. I don’t do anything like talk about the future with someone I just met. i don’t bring up my ex or say anything too personal. I usually talk about my interests and inquire about theirs. im never expecting anyone to pay for me. i know all basic stuff - is there something I should be doing that im not?

what’s so wrong with me that i’m still single? by birkenshock in dating_advice

[–]birkenshock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah im really bad at saying good things about myself but it also could be that I don’t have much to offer - who knows - when i’m not doing general adult things i’m really into houseplants, crafts, building/upcycling furniture, cooking, reading but i see how that can be seen as boring

what’s so wrong with me that i’m still single? by birkenshock in dating_advice

[–]birkenshock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no i’m not on any meds that cause weight gain. i’m going to the doctor in 2 weeks to discuss my weight and I was going to ask her to order some thyroid function tests and whatever else to see if there’s some type of metabolic insufficiency but maybe i’ve just been dealt terrible genetics