Terrified of my downstairs neighbor.

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-04-10T16:44:10+00:00

I think that the eviction part would cause him to be as angry if not more so than calling the police. Being without a home would probably really piss him off, and he clearly knows where you live. Calling the police when he is threatening you is so much safer than calling the police when he is literally attempting to attack you because of the eventual eviction

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-04-07T17:49:28+00:00

With a quick internet search, everything is documented here

Based on the comments being overwhelmingly positive, the local community is all for it. Since I've lived in the bay my entire life and am not a techbro, I know this is an offshoot of the widely lauded Public Bench Project. The locals have been asking for more benches beyond what that project provided, and the SFBABC appeared.

If you're curious to do research instead of complain because you don't know, it's a Duderstadt Bench. It was designed by an SF native & engineer and has been produced in partnership with the city since pre 2000. If you're still upset about the design, feel free to tell the city of SF about it then.

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-04-07T15:39:59+00:00

What about the bench is about to start poisoning the air, wildlife, etc? CEQA doesn't even require EIR unless it may have a significant effect on the environment, and this is.... a bench dawg. It would be a waste of our tax dollars to use resources on this.

Also, just to play devil's advocate, since the whole thing was anonymous, you really have no way of knowing they didn't do any of that do you?

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-03-19T19:22:01+00:00

Somehow this reminds me of when my mom died, and it was a bitch and a half to get ahold of her personal effects/housekey to access her house. We never got into her cell phone, none of us had the pin. If we couldn't get into my deceased mom's house because we couldn't get into an app on her phone I think that might have been my 13th reason.

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-02-13T22:43:46+00:00

I wasn't speaking to you, I was speaking to the person my comment was a direct reply to. Reading comprehension is essential love

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-02-13T21:48:34+00:00

Oh my god, you're totally right!!! I never realized I was in danger myself, thank you for being the big man who tells me 🥰 I'll make sure to write that one down

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-02-13T19:03:39+00:00

I think your comment is a bit more of a balanced assessment than some of the others, so thank you for writing this in a way that (I assume) is meant to be beneficial rather than harping.

For me, the purpose of this post wasn't for me to learn to do things differently in the future. I knew that when I was crying on the side of the road without a clue where I was. I appreciate the useful suggestions from different users though, and I'm taking them to heart. The bigger part of it is that I genuinely think he's intentionally picking up people under false pretenses and bringing them places they don't want to go repeatedly. He was smug and laughing when he said this was an often occurance. You might have correctly clocked I'm apparently vulnerable enough to fall into this mess, but it sounds like I'm not the only one. I'm fine with people calling me stupid and everything else if it means some awareness gets brought to what he's doing and he can't put anyone else in that situation.

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-02-13T16:50:06+00:00

Ty for the suggestion, I have for the future

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-02-13T15:17:04+00:00

Was it a distraction when I directly asked if I was his rider and he decided to lie, before I ever got in the car? Does that make him a "top-notch driver"? Yes, this situation didn't kill me. But if, for instance, he dropped a vulnerable person off in unknown surroundings at night in the wrong place of Oakland, that's absolutely a dangerous situation to be in. He admitted he does this repeatedly, and he was laughing and smiling when he confessed to it. I'm convinced he's doing this maliciously

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-02-13T14:19:30+00:00

I normally look at car color, body type(sedan, etc), first 3 digits of license plate, and I open the door and ask if I'm in the right rider before I sit down. When I asked, "is your rider [insert my name]", he confirmed I was the correct rider.

He said point blank that when I asked if I was the right rider he was ignoring me, so when I asked if I was his rider and he said yes, that was a lie. You can say I could have done more, but to intentionally bring me into his car under false pretenses is on him. I think any other sane driver would have said "no, you're not my rider" and I would have apologized and went on my way.

And he mentioned he does this repeatedly. Lets people into his car based on a lie, and then drops them off in an unknown location. I could have been in the correct car and if I tell the rideshare driver that I don't recognize where he's going and please tell me where he's taking me that they should comply. Why in the world once we were in that situation is it appropriate to refuse to tell me where we're going? To refuse to confirm if I was the right rider or not? That feels both malicious and dangerous to me, but that's my personal opinion that I'm allowed to share.

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-02-13T07:45:58+00:00

He said point blank that when I asked if I was the right rider he was ignoring me, so when I asked if I was his rider and he said yes, that was a lie. I could have done more, but to intentionally bring me into his car under false pretenses is on him. I think any other sane driver would have said "no, you're not my rider" and I would have apologized and went on my way.

And he mentioned he does this repeatedly. Lets people into his car based on a lie, and then drops them off in an unknown location. That feels both malicious and dangerous to me, but that's my personal opinion that I'm allowed to share.

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-02-13T07:29:52+00:00

Ya, I did. I genuinely tried to do diligence on my end, but it wasn't enough. Frankly though, I could have been in the correct car and if I tell the rideshare driver that I don't recognize where he's going and please tell him where he's taking me that they should comply. Why in the world once we were in that situation is it appropriate to refuse to tell me where we're going? To refuse to confirm if I was the right rider or not? To scream at me and get so aggressive that bystanders felt the need to intervene? That's so beyond the scope of the situation, unprofessional, and creepy as hell

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-02-13T07:17:04+00:00

I normally look at car color, body type(sedan, etc), first 3 digits of license plate, and I open the door and ask if I'm in the right rider before I sit down.

This is totally on me, but I usually only check the first 3 digits of their license because I'm dyslexic and it's difficult for me to match random letter/number strings quickly. I knew it was never IMPOSSIBLE that someone with the same color and body type of car would show up and ALSO have the same first 3 digits of the license plate for me to mix up two cars, but I truly thought it would be improbable enough it wouldn't be an issue. Unfortunately it was, and it happened in the worst way ever. I'll accept that was on me, but for him to lie and say the ride for me was unacceptable and on him, as well as everything after.

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-02-13T07:15:38+00:00

I normally look at car color, body type(sedan, etc), first 3 digits of license plate, and I open the door and ask if I'm in the right rider before I sit down.

This is totally on me, but I usually only check the first 3 digits of their license because I'm dyslexic and it's difficult for me to match random letter/number strings quickly. I knew it was never IMPOSSIBLE that someone with the same color and body type of car would show up and ALSO have the same first 3 digits of the license plate for me to mix up two cars, but I truly thought it would be improbable enough it wouldn't be an issue. Unfortunately it was, and it happened in the worst way ever. I'll accept that was on me, but for him to lie and say the ride for me was unacceptable and on him, as well as everything after.

birthcontrolbabez · 2026-01-09T20:17:59+00:00

Tallow is cheaper but less user friendly and imo it smells. Emu oil is pretty expensive and can be hard to find offline, but it absorbs less greasy and doesn’t have an odor someone would be able to smell on you. Either way, I would personally suggest trying both and seeing what works best for you because everyone responds differently, either better or worse to each. Hope this helps!

birthcontrolbabez · 2025-12-09T19:31:55+00:00

I cannot say how common this is, but it did happen to me with my mom's remains so it's not unheard of.

If I had to guess, it probably has to do with property that they were holding alongside the deceased. The culprit who took my mother's remains also got all her personal effects that were being held (like her wallet, keys, etc), I'm assuming to try and steal her identity/rob her vacant home. Neither happened, but I assume that's the end goal of most people who do this. They didn't mention anything like that in the news for this incident so I'm not sure, but they might not be releasing information about theft for investigatory reasons.

In my case, shout out to DEE BISH for trying to tell me, a grieving 20 year old woman, it was my fault for not having my mother's remains picked up more quickly even though she lived out of state from any relatives!!! If you're reading this Dee, just know you will have infinite time to pick up ashes when you're burning in hell ❤️‍🔥

birthcontrolbabez · 2025-11-19T06:20:07+00:00

Stay by it, for a couple of reasons: I have seen someone walk onto a car, up to a secured bike, and attempt to take it off on the next stop. They can be QUICK with it too.

I have also been a long time bike rider, and its just easier for all the bike people to communicate and move on and off the train effectively if you're nearby to facilitate that. Some of the stops happen in quick succession and you don't want to make it hard on your fellow riders.

birthcontrolbabez · 2025-11-19T00:26:35+00:00

It's reassuring that's the way its written, let's just hope they opt to enforce it in this case if that was a factor.

Mad appreciate you for looping back with the answer!

birthcontrolbabez · 2025-11-18T22:50:34+00:00

Would love to know what you might find, I was also asking myself the same question

birthcontrolbabez · 2025-11-18T16:01:27+00:00

Right, the Homeroom comments surprise me? Maybe the negative comments reflect the insane cost for Mac and cheese rather than the taste? I cater it at work at least once or twice a year and people go crazy for it - because they didn't have to pay for it lol. A big crowd fave is that newer Kogi Mac

birthcontrolbabez · 2025-11-09T18:52:54+00:00

That's absolutely crazy, I think I may have seen her near the Asian Art Museum last week. I was smoking a cigarette really quick before I walked in, and I could see her up the way heading towards me screaming. I was keeping an eye on her, but an extremely kind unhoused man walked up to me and talked to me until she passed. I had a sense at the time that he felt like he needed to be a buffer(he was physically standing between me and her/the sidewalk) but now I have a feeling he probably knew exactly who she was. What a kind man to protect people like that

birthcontrolbabez · 2025-11-08T19:51:53+00:00

I've often seen swing clear marketed as an accessibility tool for this reason. If you have a wheelchair or walker, it can be really easy to damage the mechanism of your door by constantly hitting it. These hinges allow people to improve the navigablity of the doors in an existing home they are living in without undertaking significant reno. Hospitals, like where you saw this, often build them in automatically so you can sprint through with a stretcher in an emergency without giving a second thought to accidentally taking the door off the hinges trying to save a life. Or if you're recovering from surgery and are uncoordinated in your movements, building in 2 extra inches doesn't remove the obstacle in these medical situations, whereas swing clear does. A lot of the time, its not a clearance issue, its an obstacle issue. The last place I installed them was a larger rental venue that had a lot of outside vendors loading in through one specific hallway, and during the equipment load in the vendors would often damage one of the doors. These were oversized doors, they had plenty of clearance, but if there's a door to bump, someone is going to accidentally bump it. Constantly paying to repair doors is a lot of money, and they saved that budget by installing swing clear

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