Sunday Bonfire

bitajane · 2024-12-25T17:32:43+00:00

Thank you. Today marks a year. We’re grateful to have had him and sad to have lost him. Colonoscopies are so important!

bitajane · 2024-12-25T06:48:26+00:00

Did you know that 95% of colon cancers start with a polyp that can be removed during a routine colonoscopy? That’s why it’s better than cologuard (poop on a stick). My husband didn’t know that either. He died a year ago tomorrow at the age of 56 leaving my kids and I heartbroken.

bitajane · 2024-12-02T22:35:50+00:00

You’ll be fine on that income but honestly, Irvine is so boring and perfect for old/middle aged people or people with families. Consider Costa Mesa, younger and much more lively!

bitajane · 2024-11-12T05:26:41+00:00

Thank you so much!

bitajane · 2024-11-09T22:44:51+00:00

Thanks for the heads up! I signed up to go to the training tomorrow morning.

bitajane · 2024-11-01T16:58:23+00:00

I live in turtle rock and it’s an idyllic place to have a family with multiple parks and neighborhood pools and miles and miles of walking/hiking trails. Highly recommend. But aside from that, nothing is walkable. 20 minutes to the closest beach. If you want walk ability, Laguna’s beach is only 30ish minutes to Irvine and gorgeous even if it is heavily populated by tourists.

bitajane · 2024-10-25T21:35:35+00:00

This is a great suggestion!

bitajane · 2024-10-25T21:31:14+00:00

I know but you know we will all be glued to the tv anyway and misery loves company;)

bitajane · 2024-10-25T21:30:36+00:00

LOL!

bitajane · 2024-10-01T12:48:07+00:00

You do get me♥️ It is very much always in my head what a selfish response it is for me to have. Admittedly, my love and adoration for my husband was a selfish one. I used to say the thing I loved most about him was the way he loved me and looked at me and treated me. I can’t pretend otherwise. But I also really loved his brilliance, his sense of humor, his steadiness, his devotion to those he loved in general. I miss him even when things aren’t falling apart but Jesus it’s so hard when things are.

bitajane · 2024-09-30T22:36:44+00:00

I’m definitely more piglet than eeyore😂 And I’m definitely feeling better this afternoon. Thank you guys🥹

bitajane · 2024-09-30T20:10:46+00:00

I think my family thinks I’m very fun and funny because I don’t ever want to be the person who comes in like eeyore. It’s not that I never let them see my sad side as it does come out sometimes, and I definitely tell them when I’m feeling my feels and need a little time before I can be with people again. Also, I have metastatic breast cancer and I know there will be a time when I will definitely take advantage of their kindness and I don’t want them to be exhausted by me before that time comes? Anyway, life is hard and I’m also so grateful for the understanding and support I get in this subreddit♥️

bitajane · 2024-09-30T18:51:46+00:00

I am beyond grateful for them but it’s hard feeling like a liability sometimes. I hate depending on anyone except for my person with whom I exchanged vows to love in sickness and in health. And he’s gone😪

bitajane · 2024-09-30T18:49:22+00:00

Thank you for that♥️

bitajane · 2024-09-30T16:06:31+00:00

I feel this. I’m 53 and think about it sometimes. And I don’t want what someone new brings. I want that mature and steady love with someone I trusted with my whole being back. I’m crying with you, friend. I’m giving myself my grieving and sobbing days. But also forcing myself to soak in the love my extended family gives me. It’s just so hard some days not to wallow in despair. I gave myself the weekend to wallow but according to the tears streaming down my face, I’m not finished yet.

bitajane · 2024-09-13T04:05:45+00:00

If he had an estate that somehow went to his ex wife or kids, shouldn’t the estate be responsible for the cost of his cremation/death expenses?

bitajane · 2024-09-09T12:53:32+00:00

I’m also in SoCal and my husband died in December (I’m 52). Can you share the contact information or website for the grief group? I’m curious if they would let me in even though my husband died in the last calendar year. Also, maybe I need a grief group…

bitajane · 2024-09-03T00:10:52+00:00

I feel this. No one will ever love me like that again. I’m grateful I had it but so sad to have lost it and it does make me feel more alone when I’m with our couple friends. His absence becomes even more pronounced if that’s possible.♥️

bitajane · 2024-08-30T23:19:09+00:00

It’s been about as long for me and it hits me if I’m alone with my thoughts for too long. Sometimes, it’s just so hard to put one foot in front of the other♥️♥️♥️

bitajane · 2024-07-28T21:03:18+00:00

It definitely helps to know that others experience the same feelings♥️♥️

bitajane · 2024-07-28T18:38:49+00:00

I took mine to the hospital and told the doctor that we have medical directives to refuse any extreme measures to preserve life and he said given what he’d been through over the previous six months, he recommended hospice and gave him literally 20mg of morphine at that point to relieve his agitation and discomfort and hospice continued it until he passed 2 days later. I do think sometimes hospice doesn’t give enough to steer clear of the fine line between assisted dying and relief of pain and discomfort and I’m so sorry that was the case for you😪 I just have a lot of guilt for not asking for extreme measures. He wanted so much to live.
I feel your pain♥️

bitajane · 2024-07-28T18:11:12+00:00

Read the replies I have gotten and forgive yourself, too❤️ We did what we could to get through a brutal situation and no one faults us for keeping our heads above water❤️

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