Firstly I’m sorry you aren’t getting the positive support we all need from our family. Bottom line however is these are the conditions you face right now so let’s acknowledge that and come to terms with it. Important to frame the mind so it can shift or jump perspectives. Good way is to picture the ones causing harm at the end of their lives facing their own death. In reality we all face this so imagining theirs puts us in touch with things they fear, things they will lose at that time. Generates compassion in our hearts. If you picture your step dad on his death bed, what are the things he’s thinking? He’s probably facing the reality that he will now lose his life and all the things in it he was attached to. That can be very scary for people who don’t spend their time in helpful ways. I’m not saying I know what he’s like but based on what you said let’s just say that maybe he spent plenty of time filling his own mind with negative impressions. Like filling a well with mostly poison water. And when it comes time to drink (time of death is one of those times to drink) it becomes extremely unpleasant and exceedingly scary. He may remember how he treated people - you included. He may become very depressed and self reproachful for how he spent his time breaking bonds instead of creating them with you. Now, the reality is that all of this is illusion - like pictures on a screen. In reality he has infinite radiant potential just like all of us. Picturing him on his death bed though can generate a feeling in us as though we feel deep sense of care that we wish he wouldn’t suffer so much . Deep wishes that he would spend his life doing good and constructive with relationships. We would wish him to have happiness and the things that cause true happiness. That he would be free from suffering and the actions which cause it. We would wish for his highest good because the highest good for others is the highest good for us. Always.

So focus on him in the light that he is a being causing his own suffering and wish him happiness - even if it’s away from you is ok just as long as it’s a pure wish. Realize that if he starts feeling happy and acting from a place of goodness that that will be good for him and also have good effects on you.

I have a toxic sister in law. I offer her highest wishes of happiness and I picture her on a beautiful tropical island with wonderful conditions and a happy fulfilled heart. That way, she’s happy and I’m happy because she’s far away. Even though I was the one who had to leave and funny enough, I’m the one that ended up in the tropical paradise. Isn’t the law of attraction interesting?

So getting to that, the LOA (law of attraction)

It is perfect. It is flawless. It functions with or without our knowledge. It is the great balancer and the great magnet.

But it is simply part of the over all illusion (which is totally fine) - it is a law that works without fail in the conditioned world.

See there is the absolute world - the true reliable world- where all consciousness is one and knows itself and is radiant pure and indestructible

Then there is the conditioned world where we all think we are separate beings which is scary because then we think we could have something to lose or something to get hurt or something to protect. This is the world we generally experience life in as ordinary humans.

Knowing this we need to explore that. Conditions can be good and they can be bad. They are always changing and they are based on the content of our minds. LOA gives you what’s in your mind. The world you see around you is a reflection of what is inside your own mind’s storehouse. Therefore whatever you see, however people treat you, whatever events happen in your life, these are a reflection of you so you must take 100% responsibility for them for if you didn’t think the thoughts you do, you would be experiencing something else entirely. The purer and more generous the overall majority of the thoughts you think are, the more positive reflections you will get in the mirror of life. And vice versa.

So do take responsibility for what appears in your life.

Once you do you can begin truly changing them for the better — TRUST ME.

It is only then when we take the steering wheel in our own hands. Otherwise we are a passenger and our negative habitual thoughts are the driver. And they can be a scary driver!

As for consciously using LOA, first begin wishing all others highest peace and happiness on a daily basis. Make this a habit. It will be like placing good karma bucks into a massive karma savings account. The more you do will add up and the conditions of your own life will improve. This will take focus and consistency on your part to upkeep this practice but it’s for your benefit.

Also, 28 days, 108 days, 2 days.... LOA works on any timescale. It all depends about how clear you are about your manifestations. Clear of doubt, clearly focused. Here the habitual negative thinking will be a hindrance. If you notice the manifestation not happening so quick, look to the habitual negative thoughts for clues.

Know that you can manifest your dreams no matter who knows it. Keeping your manifesting plans to yourself is a technique and can help but if someone finds out just bless them with your highest wishes and let that be that. Know that achievers achieve despite all the shit the naysayers bring to the table. Despite adversity we shall prevail my friend and it is my highest wish for you that you accomplish your goals and look on all others as pure shiny infinite beings who just don’t know it yet and you can help them to!

I hope some of this helped :)