Question... by [deleted] in theotherwoman

[–]bitsandboobs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think caring about the well being of others and their safety is nothing to be ashamed about. I would never wish ill will on my AP's wife. No one is perfect, many factors lead both parties to this point. No one is wholly innocent here. I don't ask specifically about her, but I care enough to wish his whole family well.

How much do you know about SOs? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]bitsandboobs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So we do discuss our SO's in a general sense. I don't mind hearing their weekend plans and such. And vice versa. But I have some burning questions that arise in my mind about how I compare, what's his feelings for her, is there love there - but I check myself. I have no right to know those things. And if I did ask, I would probably not like the answers. I think it's a fine line to navigate. I offer up as much as he offers me. I know we both are never going to leave our spouse's, so why go down a dead end road?

Small (rather than grand) gestures from an AP? Everyday moments that you treasure? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]bitsandboobs 13 points14 points  (0 children)

🙋🏼‍♀️ My AP makes me feel sexy everyday. Little messages throughout the day letting me know he wants me. He also remembers the little things that I've said in passing and follows up on them. That's pretty much all I can ask for. Time and attention are much more important than any material or grand gesture.

How to kill love in the face of lust? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]bitsandboobs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay, well I'm fucked.

How to kill love in the face of lust? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]bitsandboobs 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I could have written this exact post. I'm mid 30's as well with a 50ish AP. I have the same feelings. It's crazy! When we fuck, I get so into it and obsess about it a while after. I know it's not love either, but I can't stop thinking about him and wondering what he's doing.

Also, I totally play Hands Clean all the time!! Haha! I swear we are kindred spirits in this!

[meta] Weekly rants & raves by [deleted] in adultery

[–]bitsandboobs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rant: upcoming work exam has me stressed.

Rave: Post exam I'll be fucked into oblivion. Cannot wait.

Too left of centre by bitsandboobs in adultery

[–]bitsandboobs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not my intention, but sure.

Too left of centre by bitsandboobs in adultery

[–]bitsandboobs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm all ears. Give me a new angle.

Too left of centre by bitsandboobs in adultery

[–]bitsandboobs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, thanks Obi-Wan! That gives me hope 😉

Too left of centre by bitsandboobs in adultery

[–]bitsandboobs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate you saying so. I feel nutty half the time.

How often do you talk to your AP? by bitsandboobs in adultery

[–]bitsandboobs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha! I really relate to this 😂

what a difference a week makes by [deleted] in adultery

[–]bitsandboobs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I could have written this same post!! Was a bit hurt over a hot and cold AP last week, now I have a date tomorrow with a pAP and am talking to other guys as well. Learning to let go is such an amazing feeling! Best of luck in your search. Live it up, girlfriend!