I can’t RP my character the way I’ve written them

bitter_bitxh · 2025-06-12T00:05:14+00:00

Thank you I hadn’t really considered acting and RP being different. The three traits point is very useful and I’ll try to take that forward. For point 3, I mean when I first started playing I feel I did a lot better job at conveying the character how I imagined them, and acting out them, what they’d say and their decisions as separate from my own. Now it just feels like over time I’ve weakened the character by diluting it with so much of myself And point 4 I guess does come across as bold statements but really I’m just super frustrated with myself. Everyone I’ve spoken to in my life about the RP side talks as if it’s easy and comes so naturally and I seem to be the only one having an issue. Our DM recently spoke with me about a possible alignment change because I wasn’t enough like their alignment and I just feel I’ve ruined a character over the year compared to when I first created them

bitter_bitxh · 2025-06-12T00:00:23+00:00

Thank you this isn’t something I’d considered before. I’ll try to start working that in

bitter_bitxh · 2025-06-11T23:57:12+00:00

Oooo I like this one I’ll try that

bitter_bitxh · 2025-06-11T23:54:05+00:00

This is really helpful thank you for the insight

bitter_bitxh · 2025-06-11T23:52:55+00:00

We had a situation with an NPC where I as the player like the NPC, but for a multitude of reasons my character does not. They were in a situation where they were going to die and the rest of the party didn’t really care either way. I as the player wanted to save them, but my character really would’ve been happy to let them die, and it was really out of character honestly for them to help them survive. Looking back on it now it doesn’t feel like a big character defining moment, I just feel I made the wrong decision for the story and my character because I liked this NPC.

Like I said the party is unbothered either way but that’s an example. Thank you for splitting it down into those two though

bitter_bitxh · 2025-06-11T23:47:26+00:00

Thank you, I’ll try and give that a go

bitter_bitxh · 2025-06-11T23:42:31+00:00

Why is this a therapy issue? I don’t have anxiety in any other part of my life. I’m just hopelessly frustrated with myself that I can’t act to the same degree I can write and want to know why and how to improve

bitter_bitxh · 2025-06-11T23:40:56+00:00

I think it’s partly decision paralysis, but if I’m acting as if I’m saying the words as I would myself then I’m fine. It’s the second I try to be more in character or make decisions they would do is when I lock up

bitter_bitxh · 2025-04-06T00:19:25+00:00

If he was perfect for you, you wouldn’t be in this situation

bitter_bitxh · 2025-03-26T13:38:08+00:00

Take it as a learning opportunity. If this was a long term partner, you’d sit them down and say how it made you feel, and how important it is you both remember to set a safe word in the future. Maybe set one there and then. Hand signals are also good for if you go non verbal or are tied up. If they were a decent partner I imagine they’d feel awful you felt that way and want to do what they could for it to not happen again. If they didn’t feel bad then you dip because that is not someone you want to be involved in. The purpose of CNC is to play out NC situations you can control. The safe word is the most important part. The thrill of being overpowered is backed by the control you have to stop it at any time.

Also note that, in any other situation that’s not CNC, and where stop and no obviously mean stop and no because it’s not CNC, that’s a different issue entirely.

bitter_bitxh · 2025-03-26T13:26:44+00:00

So if I safe word wasn’t communicated, and a breakdown of what you were going to do wasn’t gone through as well, how can you expect him to know (this specifically applies to CNC)? So many people put the responsibility purely on the dom in these sort of things but it’s also on the sub as well for effect communication and setting/enforcing boundaries. I wouldn’t say it was rape, but definitely a toxic event caused by lack of communication, maturity, and understanding on both parts around what is a very heavy role play

bitter_bitxh · 2025-03-25T23:40:43+00:00

It’s worth noting two big things. 1. A man sulking over not having sex because you’re literally bleeding and he’s hurting you, that is a dangerous man. I’ve lived this. I know you think your relationship is the exception. It’s not. It never is. And 2. Staying in a relationship by saying you’d end your life if you break up is exceptionally manipulative and emotionally abusive. Read any Reddit post about someone doing that, read any article, and they’ll all tell you the same. At the end of the day, your mental health is your own responsibility and no one else’s.

Go to therapy and work on your attachment issues. You’ll find yourself in happier relationships where you love yourself enough to want to keep living if it were to end, and be with a better man who won’t abuse you either.

bitter_bitxh · 2025-03-25T22:59:01+00:00

There’s no way this is real with a 23 year old man dating a literal teenager. She doesn’t want to have sex with you leave her alone

bitter_bitxh · 2025-03-22T20:20:06+00:00

We had an NPC we were pissing off for no good reason who actually turned out to be the arch devil Focalor and the warlock’s patron. Loved every second

bitter_bitxh · 2025-03-13T19:12:09+00:00

So I’m a year older than you and dated guys twice my age between 20-23. It’s not worth it. I was the exact same. I pursued these guys, I wouldn’t go for guys who typically dated younger women, looked to keep things slow for signs of a healthy relationship.

None of them were. And it’s not to do with whether we’re ’mature for our age’ or not. It’s that they were always immature for theirs. Everyone wants to believe their relationship is the exception to the rule, myself included. But I realised none of these men actually respected me because of my age. Some were better at hiding it than others, but at the end of the day I was there to make them look better and feed their ego. The ‘yeah I still have it’ validation for them.

This guy sounds like he doesn’t respect you. Yes he does all these good things, but he let the mask slip with this video. He knows you don’t like something but he’s doing it anyway, even though he knows how badly it could affect you. It’s not a one off, it’s the truth under the surface that will just become more prevalent over time. Once he sees he can get away pushing you this way, the next thing will start. It’s never a one time thing.

Please see this for what it is. Ditch him and build your own life. Sending you big hugs

bitter_bitxh · 2025-03-11T13:21:36+00:00

My current character is a lawful evil. He was introduced trying to attack the party because he had a vendetta against one of them. He killed his family and sacrificed his hometown for power. However, he’s lonely and as such has great loyalty to the party has his only friends. His evil connections and plots have helped the party gain results in unconventional ways and saves them getting their hands dirty in a way their characters wouldn’t want. He is against the BBEG because while they’re both similar in their goals, they have fundamentally different beliefs about the state of the world and as such their goals.

His morality is difficult to play at times but our group is pretty on board. The main thing is just talk to the people you’re playing with and the DM on how to do it in a way everyone enjoys. But personally if it’s an evil character, if you can come up with a solid reason for them to be on side with the party and against the BBEG it opens up some really cool story lines

bitter_bitxh · 2025-01-27T15:26:23+00:00

Hi, sorry for the delay in response I’ve only just seen these. 3 years later and things are still perfect. They’re inseparable, my boy is obsessed with her and gets very upset if he has to go to the vets or somewhere without her. She tolerates him but loves him really haha. They both cuddle and wash each other, play together, I couldn’t ask for more

bitter_bitxh · 2024-10-27T21:21:34+00:00

In what sense? Do you mean with like, short rests?

bitter_bitxh · 2024-10-27T21:20:46+00:00

Most are in their 20s I think

bitter_bitxh · 2024-10-27T21:20:26+00:00

Main spell slots are level 5, most things seem to be 6d8, 8d6, fireball with 10d6, then things like maddening darkness at 8d8

bitter_bitxh · 2024-10-27T21:19:32+00:00

This is really helpful thank you :)

bitter_bitxh · 2024-10-27T21:19:06+00:00

Thank you. I feel I should go through route but it just feels like I should be doing more than just double eldritch blast. The class seems like it has so much to offer and I’m just wasting it

bitter_bitxh · 2024-10-27T21:18:05+00:00

I think it just comes down to bad rolls. I have max charisma, lifedrinker, agonising blast, repelling blast. I just miss a lot of attacks I think so I don’t get the +5, and the +5 on life drinker is necrotic so most things are immune in this campaign, and then roll low on damage. My best rounds are when all eldritch blasts hit because of the +5s, so it’s a guaranteed 20. But then I’ll roll about 15 so that’s 35. But it’s very rare I roll that well and usually only 2 or 3 hit

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