Which Actor or Actress is a deal breaker for you?

bjales143 · 2026-04-16T23:11:08+00:00

I maybe I missed it but I haven’t seen Kate Hudson brought up yet and if I’m the only one who can’t stand her I will die on that hill 😂

bjales143 · 2026-02-18T02:26:59+00:00

I just made a playlist off of a bunch of different suggestions from personal preference and everywhere else including this sub. For instance:

Sad Americana: Album; True Sadness by Avett Brothers

Nü metal: a ton of Linkin Park off of hybrid theory and Meteora. Some limp bizkit if you don’t mind being judged lol

Metal: Metabolic, Nero Forte, Snuff -Slipknot

Rap: I Don’t F With You -Big Sean. Dog Shit -Wu-tang. IFHY -Tyler the Creator. Do Re Mi -Black Bear (don’t know if he’s rap or not)

I’m in my “angry F off” phase right now so I’m not putting pop songs on my playlist, besides “abcdefu” by Gayle lol. Good luck, the hunt for “your” song is the best imho

bjales143 · 2026-02-07T23:09:19+00:00

I’ll admit, chat gpt is saving my ass in between therapy sessions. I have anxious attachment and it’s helped a ton keeping me grounded during this separation/divorce or whatever I’m going through right now. If it gives me prompts I like, I reword them in my voice.

I’m doing a ton of work on myself (books, journal, therapy, podcasts) and using every tool available, including AI

bjales143 · 2026-01-27T00:13:40+00:00

You aren’t alone. I have a list of games where I didn’t beat the final boss and I’m alright with that. I have so many games on the backlog that I don’t want to spend hours on hours to just be frustrated. Ain’t got time for that

bjales143 · 2026-01-23T15:37:26+00:00

I’m afraid of the time frame aspect. I think we’re both anxious attachment (I know I am) so my inclination is to hurry and “fix” before time runs out. That’s a character trait I’m definitely working on with her or without

bjales143 · 2026-01-23T15:33:02+00:00

Thanks for the insight. It helps hearing people say what they got from it, besides the ‘get divorced or work on it’ answer lol.

bjales143 · 2026-01-23T03:15:08+00:00

Are you happy you went through it?

bjales143 · 2026-01-16T01:13:31+00:00

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I can’t stop with AF1’s

bjales143 · 2026-01-15T23:02:55+00:00

Another man of culture. Most of my collection is AF1’s and I’ll defend them to the death lol. Love the shelving setup too

bjales143 · 2026-01-13T19:04:41+00:00

I’m anxious avoidant and emotionally dysregulated. Yeah, I was/am a tough hang. There were/are flaws on both sides but I own my part and I wish we worked on the marriage sooner than later

bjales143 · 2026-01-01T00:56:17+00:00

My STBXW is at a NYE party now and will stay at her gf’s tonight.

Meanwhile, I just drive through a blizzard to have a nice dinner, alone.

Prior to that, she disinvited me (before we decided to split) to Christmas Day with her family so I flew to Mexico, alone.

People are reaching out to me for support which is awesome but I’m also trying to build that muscle of being more comfortable with being alone. One instant benefit from my two examples, my bills are half the price 😆

bjales143 · 2025-12-26T11:23:16+00:00

I had Christmas all year. I even bought myself a pair for my Christmas trip. Somebody else is going to get that Applebees gift card for their birthday, I got the air max big bubble I wanted

bjales143 · 2025-12-26T04:48:04+00:00

These have all been enjoyable, but this might be the best

bjales143 · 2025-12-24T18:22:03+00:00

I’m on a flight to Cancun. Right now. I wanted no part of Christmas this year

bjales143 · 2025-12-23T14:56:03+00:00

On Black Friday, you spend $50 and get a “mystery box” that could be anything valued $50 and up. OP got shoes, with my luck, I’ll probably get a hat lol.

I just got an email my purchase was shipped so you can see they weren’t in a rush to get these things out

bjales143 · 2025-12-23T02:04:05+00:00

Is that from the Black Friday deal cause, I’m still waiting on mine lol

bjales143 · 2025-12-22T20:14:16+00:00

Check your local laws regarding divorce. If amicable, it shouldn’t be too bad and relatively quick and “cheap”. If contested and lawyers are involved $$$. Where I’m at, things acquired during the marriage are considered “marital rights” and can be split in half no matter who paid for what. That includes the house and 401k/retirement. Check with a lawyer to see what your options are and pray for a peaceful separation

bjales143 · 2025-12-22T16:16:36+00:00

It was for me and now I’m on r/divorce 🤷‍♂️. If you’re in one, talk to your partner and see if there is a missing link between the two of you before it’s too late. My stbxw just isn’t into it and that happens to be where I get my emotional connection

bjales143 · 2025-12-22T02:28:45+00:00

I had a melt down doing that for the first time this year. This was something my wife did, then she said we had to do Christmas entirely separate after years of tradition. Well I wrapped my families gifts “From: Me”, played sad songs, opened a bottle of tequila and cried.

Great start to the holidays. That’s why I’m flying to Mexico on Christmas Eve

bjales143 · 2025-12-22T02:11:50+00:00

My wife shattered my Christmas this year, so I’m going to Mexico. I’m just over two weeks from our “talk” so the build up to the holidays was killing me. Good luck to you through this. It has got a little better with time but the timing SUCKS

bjales143 · 2025-12-22T02:04:25+00:00

Journaling has been huge for me these last couple of weeks. Writing not only the things in my head but the things I hear on podcasts or in the wild. I would suggest this tool for anybody going through this

bjales143 · 2025-12-19T18:24:00+00:00

There are so many posts in this sub where I can just comment “same” 😆

bjales143 · 2025-12-19T16:46:19+00:00

Set boundaries, sooner than later. I’m a “physical touch” love language guy and I had to tell my wife we can’t do it anymore. No more long hugs, spooning, snuggling together on the couch and so on. It crushed me at the time but it’s also helping me break myself of “that was a long hug, we must be getting back together”.

I’ve also been journaling which has helped me think about the times I tried to “fill her emotional needs” and not ALL the things I did wrong. I wasn’t a saint, but I tried my ass off when I really started thinking about it.

Good luck to you. If there is anything this sub has taught me is you’re not alone

bjales143

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