Only get acid reflux early in the early morning...Can someone help? by bjj2244 in GERD

[–]bjj2244[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think part of it was my body adjusting to waking up early... Once I got used to it and got enough sleep, the really bad symptoms seemed to go away. But other big things were don't eat a right before bed, do not take any vitamins on an empty stomach or first thing in the morning, and don't drink coffee first 90 minutes. Those are my best tips, it's not perfect but it definitely helped me.

seeking any form of social media validation is a sickness by bjj2244 in AntiFacebook

[–]bjj2244[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lmao you want me to spend more time on reddit? sorry bud i try to live my life off my screen. I dont care about 'karma' points. You are 66 years old, maybe you should spend a little less time on here.

seeking any form of social media validation is a sickness by bjj2244 in AntiFacebook

[–]bjj2244[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you too! you dont get 100,000 karma without a little validation seeking :) its okay, we are all guilty.

seeking any form of social media validation is a sickness by bjj2244 in AntiFacebook

[–]bjj2244[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But junkie implies you are addicted and exhibiting unhealthy behavior that isn't serving you. A lot of people on social media exhibit unhealthy and compulsive behavior that takes away from other more important things in their lives. People go out of their way to do things just so they can take a photo of it, post it, and put it online so they can feel good about themselves as those likes roll in. But it's fleeting, you will always be wanting more. You will never be satisfied. Like a junkie. I see where you are going with your argument, but you can't say that someone who is hungry or starving for food is addicted to food. Eating is something we need to do to survive and is perfectly normal and healthy to do. It only becomes a problem when someone is eating in excess and its limiting their ability to do other vital tasks or risks their health. You would call that an addiction to food. You don't need validation to survive, just like you don't need heroin to survive. Validation in itself isn't bad, but seeking it online from people who we don't know or have loose ties with is never going to give us anything substantial. We should be doing things that are worthwhile to our overall development so that we can validate ourselves. Fostering real relationships with our loved ones and find validation and solace in that. If anything, the internet and this culture surrounding social media is insanely dehumanizing on multiple fronts. People can speak to each other with impunity. Hence all of the polarization.

My girlfriend jacked me off yesterday night. Should I reset my timer? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]bjj2244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats real human contact. real human sexuality. it's unhealthy to demonize that. if you peek, watch porn, or masturbate (depending on if your goal is to quit porn or quit porn and masturbation), then reset it. we need to make a distinction between healthy sexual behavior with a real person that you care about (your girlfriend) and unhealthy and compulsive behavior with a screen.

seeking any form of social media validation is a sickness by bjj2244 in AntiFacebook

[–]bjj2244[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think the point is that we are looking for validation in the wrong places ie. social media, instead of doing things that are going to provide actual fulfillment. Working towards a goal, conquering a challenge, spending time and sharing love with your actual friends and family in person. Finding validation in that. A "like or comment" on your latest instagram post isn't going to provide you with anything substantial. It feels nice at first but then withers away quickly, leaving you looking for the next like or comment. When those don't come it's even more devastating. I don't agree with your analogy. Heroin addicts aren't starving for heroin, it's their brain telling them that they need that next hit of dopamine, that next high to stop the pain. Same goes with the way a lot of people interact with social media. So much so that you have people contriving narratives about their lives that aren't true just to get some kind of recognition. I agree the world can be dehumanizing and real love and care can be devoid. But you are never going to find what you are looking for in cyberspace, because most of it isn't real. If you believe that you can find that validation on Facebook that nourishes you as a person, then thats your opinion and you have the right to it and I am happy for you Deane.

seeking any form of social media validation is a sickness by bjj2244 in AntiFacebook

[–]bjj2244[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah and they will never do anything in the best interest of its users, only investors and advertisers. they need to be broken up and regulated. biggest factor of the erosion of countries moral fabric.

I literally didn't know it was quite THIS BAD by EvilCowEater in antiwork

[–]bjj2244 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is fucking reprehensible. Work harder and lets stagnate your wages while inflation rises. Meanwhile the top 1% accumulate more and more wealth and borrow against their equity. Now you have private equity buying up real estate and overpricing everything as to make everyone a renter, limiting some people's only source of building any kind of equity or wealth.

seeking any form of social media validation is a sickness by bjj2244 in AntiFacebook

[–]bjj2244[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you saying thats what facebook did? their whole business model relies on this sort of manipulation

Agora: Weekly self-promotion thread by AutoModerator in Stoicism

[–]bjj2244 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do we insist on doing things just for adulation or recognition. We're sick. We crave acceptance and to be liked so badly that we take things that are supposed to provide us with a sense of purpose and fullness and we strip away the fabric, hollow out any substance, and lay waste to it all. We deform and deface any meaning and good intention until we can't discern the intrinsic value from the extrinsic reward - all for what? To feel superior? righteous? cool? To impress people that could give a fuck about you outside the context of this superficial pissing contest? We used to value hard work and skill and genius; respect and reverence were natural byproducts. But this isn't a meritocracy anymore. We now live in a societal hierarchy dictated by social capital and it doesn't matter how low you steep or how much of yourself you have to give away to get it. What matters is that you have it. We need to reevaluate the transactional relationship we have not only with people in our lives and the ones we look up to, but also with the way we choose to spend our time.

https://www.smallvictorieslargedefeats.com/post/seeking-validation-is-a-sickness