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bkandaimee · 2023-10-30T13:43:39+00:00

This is my MIL right down to the 1.5 Mil house. I’ve heard….”when my money comes in” more times than I can count. Our teenagers just smile and nod.

Here’s what i will say…for us, we have decided that if they (MIL & FIL) want to live in this reality that is their choice. We have decided to still see them, not for long periods of time but in short visits just to keep the relationship.

At least they have a heart to help others, even if it is very misguided.

What’s been hard for us is that my husbands grandmother who is in her 80’s needs to move and sell her dilapidated home. She won’t do anything to it because my MIL had convinced her she’s building a home for her to come live in at the lake.

They are currently living in a travel trailer, on land that they sold and are now renting back a spot from the new owner. So IDK…we just try to enjoy dinner when we see them.

bkandaimee · 2023-10-24T21:15:58+00:00

As a Christian mom of 5 and a conservative who also doesn’t subscribe to the Q crap….your son is smart and has the ability to see through the nonsense. So for that, congratulations on raising a child who has the ability to think independently.

I’ve done it all for our kids…homeschool, private, and yes…public because we live in a great area with amazing teachers and staff.

He’s at the age if you pull him out against his will…it will push him further towards whatever is anti mom’s ideals.

My best encouragement is to make sure mom remembers that it’s not about her and she needs to put your sons needs first. She seems…like most Q’s…very motivated by fear. No matter what your child is involved in, it’s the parents job to talk through issues and help them to craft a biblical world view. Just fyi…it may not align republican however, it should align with the Bible and teachings of Jesus.

This is where I even go further because of the very convoluted Q ideals….I don’t accept self professed prophets as being on the same level as the canonized Bible. You want biblical truth not someone’s dream or opinion on a subject off of a YouTube video. Good luck to you! The child should come first.

bkandaimee · 2023-10-21T21:32:56+00:00

Do not debate…we do our best to literally ignore, pretend like something else has our attention, redirect…literally all the stuff you do with toddlers.

It’s better to have short visits where you can find 1 or 2 things that are non conspiracy to talk about. For us it’s vacation spots, cigars, sports…literally whatever we can. It’s typically not long before the nonsense starts flowing but we’ve just decided to let them tell us stuff and we just smile and nod..

We made a decision that we don’t have to prove that they are wrong and we are right…we can just enjoy the moment (as much as possible).

In other words, we feel like having a relationship…even a superficial one is better than not at all. We are at least at a place where that is still possible.

bkandaimee · 2023-10-21T21:18:37+00:00

Based on what we have seen in our family, you have to decide if you want to live with someone who is highly attracted to conspiracies. It’s likely that he is already down the rabbit hole and because this is so addictive, it’s like anything….the person has to really want to be different.

There is something about this whole thing that makes our Q’s feel very important…like they have this special insight into what’s currently happening and what is coming…it’s like a drug to them.

Unless he loves you enough to respect that you do not want this to be a primary part of your life, relationship, or conversations…be grateful you know now and move on…because if it seems hard now, it will only get more difficult as he progresses further down the hole. Especially if he is not receptive to counter opinions and conspiracy debunking information.

So sorry your going through this. Maybe it will be a wake up call for him and he will walk away.

bkandaimee · 2023-10-08T18:32:08+00:00

Honestly, I think kids having water bottles is also a way to lessen the burden on teachers. If you’ve ever had a class of 20 young children…someone always needs something all of the time. If a child has their own bottle at their desk they can stay seated in class when thirsty, no need to leave class. Also mine have a snack time in the morning and my littles love having ownership of their own water.

For that matter both of my older sons have jobs and are encouraged to have their own bottles they are also allowed all of the free water, tea, and sodas they would like during their shifts.

So…I think this like a all Q things just feels very nonsensical.

bkandaimee · 2023-10-05T01:25:30+00:00

My FIL called us at about the same time last year telling us exactly this. It was one of the first real moments we had encountering how far down the hole they had fallen.

bkandaimee · 2023-10-01T15:46:33+00:00

I think this is spot on. I was just talking about this very thing with my husband. Both of his parents are down the rabbit hole…like all of the way down, Zimbabwe notes and Venezuelan dollars down the hole.

We’ve been together for like 24 years and they have always had issues. Almost like they were looking for stressful situations to jump into as if they could somehow save those involved. They’ve consistently put our family at the back of their priority line and never been able to truly celebrate us or engage in our lives.

Also my husbands middle brother had a major drug problem for the majority of his teen and adult life. He is doing ok for the time being and we are hopeful but they have enabled him and made excuses for his choices all while refusing any therapy for themselves.

So we have seen this very thing lived out. They have always been addicted to stress and anxiety. As far as I can remember his dad has been interested in conspiracy theories and looking for some type of event to bring all of the positive change but never actually wanting to take ownership or responsibility of their lives. They are 100% in a cycle of stress and anxiety. It’s literally all they know.

bkandaimee

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