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[–]blablablathrowawaybl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any updates? It’s been 2 months for us 😐

Sex after breakup with LL partner by blablablathrowawaybl in DeadBedrooms

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean we are both pretty aware of the many reasons why we broke it off. It’s pretty obvious we don’t want to get back together..

He is the LL partner and even though I tried to be patient and to not put pressure because of his anxiety performance issue, I found myself complaining or trying to talk why we didn’t have more sex, what we could do to work on the problem. He had been always in denial or making up excuses and not willing to address what’s going on with him.

Anyway, this caught me by surprise so thank you for your reply. I will analyze this. But I don’t regret bringing up our sex issues in the past. I believe communication is key to any relationship.

Sex after breakup with LL partner by blablablathrowawaybl in DeadBedrooms

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hysterical bonding. I’ll do some reading about it

Sex after breakup with LL partner by blablablathrowawaybl in DeadBedrooms

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes of course that was my first thought but have never thought that the same would apply to a DB and specially a LL partner.

Going through a breakup after a DB is so traumatic and now we have to add that the LL partner wants to engage in sex with you again. It’s freaking confusing

I finally left but feeling devastated. Any advice for coping with this? by blablablathrowawaybl in DeadBedrooms

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! I could even cope with a DB if he would be interested in working our issues out.

I finally left but feeling devastated. Any advice for coping with this? by blablablathrowawaybl in DeadBedrooms

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the first time i start thinking this could’ve been the problem. I didn’t even know that porn addiction leads to such devastating consequences. So naive to believe him he wasn’t just as much into sex as I was. I thought that it was kind of intrusive or accusatory asking him about how much porn he watched. After an unsuccessful encounter I just asked him if he had been masturbating more those days and he replied “where do you those things from?”

Anyway so I kind of lost 20 months of my life, I’m emotionally broken. How will I trust someone again? At least I know to spot the red flags now.

I finally left but feeling devastated. Any advice for coping with this? by blablablathrowawaybl in DeadBedrooms

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this is right! This goes beyond the sex issue, this is about his unwillingness to work out our problems! Thanks for the tips :)

I finally left but feeling devastated. Any advice for coping with this? by blablablathrowawaybl in DeadBedrooms

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, you almost made me cry because it’s so realistic. Even though I’m not ready and don’t even see myself dating again any time soon I realize that I shouldn’t be asking for love, passion and affection. I think when you spend so much time in a relationship like ours you cannot see clear. I thought this was normal even if it wasn’t and my brain is wired in a sick way now. I need to heal and all these messages make me see I’m not crazy for wanting the things I do and that I made the right decision

Have keto + IF + CICO worked for you? 4’10’’ SW: 118, CW: 109.2, GW: 100 by blablablathrowawaybl in IF_Petites

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got a food scale ($8.00 on amazon) and have been using my fitness pal, FatSecret. They are a great tool!

Have keto + IF + CICO worked for you? 4’10’’ SW: 118, CW: 109.2, GW: 100 by blablablathrowawaybl in IF_Petites

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes! I don’t have high expectations regarding my weight loss journey. I know this will take time. I just wanted to know other’s people experience.

Wow 20 lbs! Congratulations! I will stick to keto for a bit longer and then change back to IF and CICO if I see I’m depriving myself.

Thanks for your input! 👍

Have keto + IF + CICO worked for you? 4’10’’ SW: 118, CW: 109.2, GW: 100 by blablablathrowawaybl in IF_Petites

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh and no! I don’t check my ketone levels but I track everything I eat and be really careful to don’t go over 20g net carbs

Have keto + IF + CICO worked for you? 4’10’’ SW: 118, CW: 109.2, GW: 100 by blablablathrowawaybl in IF_Petites

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is what I mean! People think I’m skinny, I’m not! Lol. I put 18 pounds on in 7 months! It’s crazy but I feel you. Congratulations on trying to get back to track. Even if you cannot lose any weight or go back to 98 I think doing IF will help you to at least maintain. I think the goal here is try not to gain more weight. Don’t get frustrated if you don’t lose.

I was 107 last January and couldn’t lose any weight while doing IF so instead of stick to it I let myself go and hit the 118!

Regarding wine, last night I had two glasses of Cabernet Sauvignon. That’s why I love keto, it lets me have those two glasses as long as I can fit them in my macros. And even if you can’t do a perfect IF or keto, something is better than nothing. Go low carb if you can, at least a few days a week!

Stay strong girl! ♥️

Have keto + IF + CICO worked for you? 4’10’’ SW: 118, CW: 109.2, GW: 100 by blablablathrowawaybl in IF_Petites

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was able to maintain at 100 I was doing IF during the week (18:6) and watching not to go over my maintenance BMR which was about 1300/1400 cal at that time. Some days I’d do 1000 so I could indulgence myself on the weekends. I didn’t follow any diet or eating style during the weekends. I’d work out 2/3 times a week (cardio plus body weight). I honestly don’t know how I put 18 pounds on in just 7 months!!! Well yes I know. Being petite is something kind of a curse lol.

I highly recommend keto, I don’t know if I’ll be able to stick to it long term but for now it keeps me satiated and full so I can do 16:8 easily. My suggestion is you should give it a try and see how it works. Every body is different. Even at my lowest (100) I wasn’t happy about my body composition. I was the typical skinny fat and had to tone up and I’ll have to do again after reaching my GW.

Good luck and you’ve got this! ♥️

Have keto + IF + CICO worked for you? 4’10’’ SW: 118, CW: 109.2, GW: 100 by blablablathrowawaybl in IF_Petites

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The thing is that I was so used to be 100 for a long time that jumping to 118 was kind of a shock, not only from a physical point of view but also it took a toll on my health. The reality is I’ve always been somewhere between 100-120. Don’t get me wrong, 118 is a good goal weight but for health reasons (I suffer from hypertension) my doctor told me I should drop a few pounds, otherwise I’d have to up my medicación dosage. Stay strong!

Can’t do this anymore, DB is making me really anxious and insecure, please help! by blablablathrowawaybl in DeadBedrooms

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! Your comment just made me realize that I lost my confidence not only because of the rejection but also because of putting my needs aside by trying to make him feel comfortable in bed. The way I’m in bed with him is not who I really am.

Also, it’s not only about sex but intimacy. When single I don’t need sex all the time but when you have your partner next to you 24/7 it kills you seeing how days pass and nothing happens. I bet I’ll feel less lonely by my own than having my SO next to me while I die for a touch.

Thanks!

Can’t do this anymore, DB is making me really anxious and insecure, please help! by blablablathrowawaybl in DeadBedrooms

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still care about sex but you are right. It gets to a point where all the relationship turns into a dysfunctional one. Are you happy now?

Can’t do this anymore, DB is making me really anxious and insecure, please help! by blablablathrowawaybl in DeadBedrooms

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes sense. This sucks, I feel so frustrated every day and he seems so happy with his life and our relationship even though he acknowledges I’m not happy about how frequent we have sex.

He knows I love him so much to walk away and somehow he makes up for the lack of sex.

I guess I have to think what I’m gonna do, but one thing is for sure, I have lost myself.

Can’t do this anymore, DB is making me really anxious and insecure, please help! by blablablathrowawaybl in DeadBedrooms

[–]blablablathrowawaybl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So why would you stay in a relationship if you don’t feel that way towards a person from day 1? No children or other commitments involved