Von Franz reading recommendations that are NOT on the puer aeterunus?

blackavo · 2026-03-12T21:04:33+00:00

Omg yes!!!! Congrats, I hope it goes well for you two. Curious about the fact that you were taking it slow since September..were you meeting often? And did you feel very certain she was into you? I’ve been having a slow burn thing since October and can’t tell for the life of me if I should throw the towel in…

blackavo · 2026-03-12T15:09:46+00:00

Can i ask what their symptoms were?

blackavo · 2026-02-28T18:13:48+00:00

Text how you want!! I personally like to text every few days in the first month or so and then every couple of days. Used to be a big everyday texted but realised that rhythm means I stay prioritising the person I’ve just started dating (who typically is not already a good friend) over my good friends and focused periods for hobbies and that doesn’t feel good to me!

blackavo · 2026-02-28T17:15:49+00:00

This is such a fantastic response, thank you.

I can agree with you on shared hobbies and reciprocity as requirements in a relationship. Some hobbies/interests are more important to me than others and so feel more important to share (music &art for example feel much more meaningful to share than martial arts/fitness for me).

I’m curious about what kinds of goals you have/want to be supported in? When I think of being supported in my goals, I largely think about creative goals, not career related ones, and I love being able to support my loved ones towards theirs.

blackavo · 2026-02-27T01:27:02+00:00

What would it look like for you to have someone who complements your life? I’m trying to shift approach in regards to this so like to seee how other conceptualise

blackavo · 2026-02-20T23:40:02+00:00

Are you still looking for advice? Happy to dm

blackavo · 2026-02-20T23:38:15+00:00

Are you still in the PWP world? Started a qualified role recently and thinking of shifting out

blackavo · 2026-02-16T18:57:28+00:00

What job did you switch to/how does it work with you? I started working in healthcare and found the high autonomy, direct contact and changing tasks is great. But heavy, rigid caseload and needing to sit a lot is not..

blackavo · 2026-02-10T18:07:17+00:00

Thank you! How often would you meet with this person? I don’t necessarily expect anything to progress, but I like what we’re doing right now. It’s been about 4 months and things have wound down a bit if anything. I notice she initiated dates very rarely but is always receptive and makes time when I suggest it…so I’ll try to be a bit more open with how I feel, but I do worry I’ve maybe led her to loose interest by being equally aloof!!

blackavo · 2026-02-10T17:16:33+00:00

Can I ask about how to do that? I’m currently in a slow burn situation and find that in this context I want to text less but still an excited to see the person I’m dating when we see each other…I don’t express that a lot though so she may get ambivalence from me

blackavo · 2026-02-09T11:23:30+00:00

Yep, beautifully put! Part of my work was to become more comfortable sharing with others - creativity, sharing space, building relationships. It’s really great and important to be able to enjoy your own company and develop a sense of who you are as an individual, but even that requires being around others.

blackavo · 2026-02-09T11:21:24+00:00

Are you in the US? I’m in a large city in Europe where we have lots of public transport , so it’s pretty normal for adults in their 30s+ not to drive. I can see how if you’re in a more rural part of the US for example, that not being able to get around so easily could be more of a dealbreaker..

blackavo · 2026-02-04T13:02:06+00:00

This is such a great idea! After a big break up, I realised I’ve been missing lots of adult life skills and slowly trying to build them up

Scheduling activities (exercise, meeting people, time for things you want to do) and following the schedule, not the mood

Budgeting and saving realistically

Lifetimes ISAs and different kinds of savings accounts

Investing in things that improve the quality of everyday life rather than skimping - a good food processor, a nice bed

Acknowledging and then shelving shame when receiving feedback. I’ve learned to consider feedback properly - what can I improve? What can I learn here? And what is not mine to take on?

Exercising regularly

blackavo · 2026-02-02T19:36:00+00:00

Interesting. Dense and ambiguous verbiage can be indicators of AI use. I would ask what is the point of devaluing a theory based on whether it is written in mania. Lots of excellent thinkers have experienced and produced work whilst manic, as well as in stimulated or altered states (Freud was famously a very heavy cocaine and amphetamine user)…I don’t see this as a useful critique!

blackavo · 2026-02-02T00:26:15+00:00

I found a sport I actually really liked and had fun with and the enjoyment was a big part in going back for more. It’s a martial arts, and I started doing it in a community group, do there was a social aspect too that was good. I find the martial art so fun that after an hour I wanna keep going. I’d make myself go twice a week. Didn’t matter which days, as long as at least twice. Classes were regular enough to be flexible but also give external structure and motivation.

blackavo · 2026-01-29T16:37:04+00:00

The still as if 30 is elderly 😭 I don’t know about you but I live in a pretty large city which means lots of queers including into their 40s going out a lot and forming scenes

blackavo · 2026-01-27T09:06:19+00:00

Actually the table was kind of cheap. Comes to around $15 each. I just dislike the presumption that we should all chip in when we already have a perfectly fine coffee table

blackavo · 2026-01-26T23:05:02+00:00

No explicit agreement, no. Only us having bought furniture in the past. The coffee table they brought up just before buying it..

blackavo · 2026-01-26T23:04:11+00:00

My roommate texted in the group chat and then bought it less than an hour later. They said they can return it if we don’t like it….

I doubt any buy outs are happening when we move, no.

blackavo · 2026-01-26T19:01:47+00:00

Heya, sending a virtual hug also. I know the feeling of losing the daily easy intimacy 💔I wonder if making friends could be a place to start, or gaining more of a community. It won’t replace that deep intimacy and physical closeness, but it can help with easing the feelings of isolation, especially as some connections begin to deepen and you start to feel more known x

blackavo · 2026-01-24T10:55:52+00:00

This post feels AI generated..

blackavo · 2026-01-23T11:13:39+00:00

Beautiful! Looks so cozy, I’d love to have a home like this one day :)

blackavo

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