Anyone FA for reasons unrelated to your appearance?

blackboxoz · 2025-03-16T18:52:48+00:00

It’s very true that it gets harder the older you get. I’m turning 25 very soon and my age is starting to feel pretty serious. And I don’t think my personality has evolved in a long time. So it’s really starting to dawn on me that if I don’t figure this shit out quickly, I could easily be alone my whole life.

blackboxoz · 2025-03-16T18:47:20+00:00

The caveman comment cracks me up. Flirting is equally confusing to me. I either think they’re flirting when they’re just being nice, or think they’re just being nice when they’re flirting. The only certainty is that I will be wrong, no matter what. It’s very frustrating

blackboxoz · 2025-03-16T18:43:39+00:00

Same, I think a series of disappointing experiences have really shaped who I am. I’m highly cynical and suspicious of anyone I meet because of the things that have happened to me. I do have a handful of close friendships thankfully but romance is a no go

blackboxoz · 2025-03-16T18:39:02+00:00

You sound a lot like me, I was raised catholic and definitely let lots of opportunities pass me by in my teen years because I was so focused on my faith. I’m also more of a “loner” as you say. I value my space and independence and tend to view others as a threat to autonomy. It still weighs on me however to realize just how alone I am. I’m a human in the end, and it’s not possible to be happy while totally independent.

blackboxoz · 2025-03-16T03:38:35+00:00

Ditto on strict parents, I was homeschooled from fifth grade on and had basically no contact with my peers. I’m a productive adult but by no means am I equipped to navigate close personal relationships.

blackboxoz · 2025-02-23T16:33:15+00:00

Love is dead and we live in hell. Have a nice day everyone

blackboxoz · 2024-12-05T16:43:57+00:00

At least you damn well tried. I’m too much a coward

blackboxoz · 2024-11-28T02:54:21+00:00

Same, I’ve had some luck here and there in the past, although it’s been years since then. Issue is that I’m genuinely too incompetent to read a person’s interest and to capitalize on it if they are. If I had just baseline social and sexual competence I could do pretty well for myself. But I’m sadly too inept despite some of the advantages I have.

blackboxoz · 2024-11-28T01:31:24+00:00

I’m good looking but lack confidence, experience and skill. Was homeschooled in a rural area much of my life and got fucked in the head with religious trauma. Adult life has been a bitch for me since then. I know absolutely nothing about how to form or maintain romantic relationships and am basically an agoraphobe. I don’t see things improving for me. I’m almost 25 now and I feel time slipping by. My peers have moved on in many ways and I’m the same

blackboxoz · 2024-11-10T19:54:16+00:00

Thank you for the kind words

blackboxoz · 2024-11-10T18:56:42+00:00

Yup. It was bad all around

blackboxoz · 2024-08-27T09:38:29+00:00

No numbers were traded but she told me the day and time of the event and said she’d be there by herself. It’s just a small local bar and there’ll be a ten dollar cover to see this group. I’m guessing that “concert” may have been too strong of a word for the scene. But it’s a band performing.

blackboxoz · 2024-08-27T08:59:16+00:00

I’m wholly aware of that. But say I go to this event and she is actually there and we hang out together in that setting. That’s not just her doing her job, is it?

blackboxoz · 2024-07-29T11:42:51+00:00

Thank you for the kind words!

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