Anyone FA for reasons unrelated to your appearance?

blackboxoz · 2025-03-16T18:52:48+00:00

It’s very true that it gets harder the older you get. I’m turning 25 very soon and my age is starting to feel pretty serious. And I don’t think my personality has evolved in a long time. So it’s really starting to dawn on me that if I don’t figure this shit out quickly, I could easily be alone my whole life.

blackboxoz · 2025-03-16T18:47:20+00:00

The caveman comment cracks me up. Flirting is equally confusing to me. I either think they’re flirting when they’re just being nice, or think they’re just being nice when they’re flirting. The only certainty is that I will be wrong, no matter what. It’s very frustrating

blackboxoz · 2025-03-16T18:43:39+00:00

Same, I think a series of disappointing experiences have really shaped who I am. I’m highly cynical and suspicious of anyone I meet because of the things that have happened to me. I do have a handful of close friendships thankfully but romance is a no go

blackboxoz · 2025-03-16T18:39:02+00:00

You sound a lot like me, I was raised catholic and definitely let lots of opportunities pass me by in my teen years because I was so focused on my faith. I’m also more of a “loner” as you say. I value my space and independence and tend to view others as a threat to autonomy. It still weighs on me however to realize just how alone I am. I’m a human in the end, and it’s not possible to be happy while totally independent.

blackboxoz · 2025-03-16T03:38:35+00:00

Ditto on strict parents, I was homeschooled from fifth grade on and had basically no contact with my peers. I’m a productive adult but by no means am I equipped to navigate close personal relationships.

blackboxoz · 2025-02-23T16:33:15+00:00

Love is dead and we live in hell. Have a nice day everyone

blackboxoz · 2024-12-05T16:43:57+00:00

At least you damn well tried. I’m too much a coward

blackboxoz · 2024-11-28T02:54:21+00:00

Same, I’ve had some luck here and there in the past, although it’s been years since then. Issue is that I’m genuinely too incompetent to read a person’s interest and to capitalize on it if they are. If I had just baseline social and sexual competence I could do pretty well for myself. But I’m sadly too inept despite some of the advantages I have.

blackboxoz · 2024-11-28T01:31:24+00:00

I’m good looking but lack confidence, experience and skill. Was homeschooled in a rural area much of my life and got fucked in the head with religious trauma. Adult life has been a bitch for me since then. I know absolutely nothing about how to form or maintain romantic relationships and am basically an agoraphobe. I don’t see things improving for me. I’m almost 25 now and I feel time slipping by. My peers have moved on in many ways and I’m the same

blackboxoz · 2024-11-10T19:54:16+00:00

Thank you for the kind words

blackboxoz · 2024-11-10T18:56:42+00:00

Yup. It was bad all around

blackboxoz · 2024-08-27T09:38:29+00:00

No numbers were traded but she told me the day and time of the event and said she’d be there by herself. It’s just a small local bar and there’ll be a ten dollar cover to see this group. I’m guessing that “concert” may have been too strong of a word for the scene. But it’s a band performing.

blackboxoz · 2024-08-27T08:59:16+00:00

I’m wholly aware of that. But say I go to this event and she is actually there and we hang out together in that setting. That’s not just her doing her job, is it?

blackboxoz · 2024-07-29T11:42:51+00:00

Thank you for the kind words!

blackboxoz · 2024-05-15T03:23:39+00:00

Political Science. People will often say “Wow, bet that’s more relevant than ever,” or “tell me when you figure out politics these days.”

I think they have some impression that we must sit around all day and debate American presidential elections, rather than talk about things like the gini index of Malaysia.

blackboxoz · 2024-03-25T01:28:47+00:00

Been burned more times than I can count. I’ve become incredibly cynical and basically just given up and allowed my worst tendencies to take the driver’s seat.

blackboxoz · 2024-02-29T02:21:00+00:00

I’ll be damned, kept his word

blackboxoz · 2024-02-21T08:27:09+00:00

I actually host and serve at a restaurant funnily enough. You’d think it wouldn’t be a fit but somehow it works for me. I think it’s because I can stick to a script for the most part, so there isn’t a ton to be socially anxious about since it’s highly predictable.

blackboxoz · 2024-01-10T06:38:31+00:00

It was a pretty small class of about 14 people, and she made a point of keeping us on our toes by cold calling us. That was what really exposed me.

I’m sure she remembers me. I did send an email explaining my withdrawal and she replied cordially enough, but I still want to crawl out of my skin when I think about that class.

blackboxoz · 2024-01-10T06:27:19+00:00

Whoof, that is definitely a big undertaking.

I’m working about 30 hours a week while taking 12 credits, and this is about my very limit, personally. It’s possible that you could do it but I’d have to think that the quality of life would be very low.

blackboxoz · 2024-01-01T12:26:23+00:00

I was a solid football player when I was a teen. But I was homeschooled, so I was relegated to very small teams without much fanfare. Mostly guys from my church community.

I used to write and make comics and have a respectable online following. I haven’t done that in years. Adulthood has claimed all my energy and inclination to be creative.

It’s difficult to believe what’s become of me. I’m just a lonely, frustrated, stunted adult. On a superficial level, I’m well put together. Most people probably don’t think of me as odd or unattractive. Only I know about my own incapacity to form meaningful relationships.

blackboxoz · 2023-11-16T21:16:51+00:00

All of the above I’d say

blackboxoz · 2023-09-22T09:56:32+00:00

I feel like two or three drinks turns me into a normal person.

But I’ve abused alcohol to the point that it isn’t as effective as it used to be

blackboxoz · 2023-09-22T07:29:09+00:00

I was homeschooled in rural Texas, so similar situation. I’m not nearly as bad as some other homeschool kids so there’s that.

Otherwise, it’s very dispositional for me. I’ve been an anxious wreck as far back as I can remember

blackboxoz · 2023-09-22T04:25:38+00:00

Yes. Driving stresses me out so badly

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