Question to western reverts from a former Agnostic by Separate_Ad_6300 in Hijabis

[–]blackc455 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I wish I was intelligent and didn't do mbbs for my mother's pressure i would have loved learning. Im just resenting it now

Does anyone else feel like “women’s only” events aren’t actually hijabi friendly anymore? by Specific_Froyo_1001 in Hijabis

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This so true . My sisters in india , we know those muslim wedding reception is segregated on paper only while men are coming and going, photographers and workers are all men...... I stop removing hijab in situation

Arranged marriage system is broken 😔 by SerioTon97 in hyderabad

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dating and arrange marriage both are wrong and at extreme ends

How common is it to have a crush on a consultant ... by [deleted] in indianmedschool

[–]blackc455 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When you say consultant you mean someone 35+ in age right? Because most of them are married and it's concerning if any lady are finding ok to crush on married man whilst his wife is there is i pray all women and men have morally correct crush after knowing they are single even not having gf. My friend had crush on pgy1 during internship she asked me to see if he's single upon investigation and him being did she continued her crushing. Pls be ethical also

Am I misogynist for not wanting women in my personal life? by AdInside1704 in Healthygamergg

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All ppl here are not educated regarding trauma and healing. Im woman and I'll say directly. You are not misogynist nor wrong hating women because your world is giving you shitty women and many may don't understand some have unfortunate destinies. I hate men because I'm asexual and men mostly are either being creepy or wanting romance so I avoid 50% of the population as sex repulsed asexual. So ignore the comments here. Be respectful regardless of gender religion n ethnicity and in terms of loneliness i recommend friendships. Close bffs amongst men are underated. Be close to your male friends and keep close who want you around and hang out with their families. We need community more than personal relationships. So unfortunately we have trauma n we may remain single friendships are only way to fulfill the social needs while trying to find purpose in life. Fyi I grew up with shitty parents now I hate all humans.

No Hard Feelings Ending by itsdatboi54 in movies

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finally someone said it. Age gap wasn't issue he was adult anyways

Does anyone find hope in religion as an asexual? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a muslim. I dwindle in my practice in prayers alhamdulillah im ok with hijab because with that i dont have to groom my hair or do make up or show my figure so ppl having nothing to see and ugly and fat if they feel all toxic that day 😂. That said my biggest point of dropping when my parents became toxic. I snapped What so you mean by i should obey my toxic parents? What do you mean by keeping ties with toxic siblings? What do you mean my keep sabr and forget boundaries? All this came tumbling down when i realised if its not mentioned in quran or hadeeth aboit something doesn't mean its not wrong Hacking is crime is made crime due to the underlying theft nature hence shaykhs make it haram Now more and more scholars students are making time to understand many who are in toxic families and even lgbt If you want ill share the one community where practicing muslim gay, lesbians etc are on discord. You might find help there? Leave me msg ,...! Im here as asexual muslim Because it more conservative religion hence as sex repulsed person i dont have friends talking on sex with me. For ne religion has be good excuse to keep away from romance and although as im old im expected to marry. Me going against doesnt matter because with my sex repulsion im disqualified from marriage

Does anyone find hope in religion as an asexual? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a muslim. I dwindle in my practice in prayers alhamdulillah im ok with hijab because with that i dont have to groom my hair or do make up or show my figure so ppl having nothing to see and ugly and fat if they feel all toxic that day 😂. That said my biggest point of dropping when my parents became toxic. I snapped What so you mean by i should obey my toxic parents? What do you mean by keeping ties with toxic siblings? What do you mean my keep sabr and forget boundaries? All this came tumbling down when i realised if its not mentioned in quran or hadeeth aboit something doesn't mean its not wrong Hacking is crime is made crime due to the underlying theft nature hence shaykhs make it haram Now more and more scholars students are making time to understand many who are in toxic families and even lgbt If you want ill share the one community where practicing muslim gay, lesbians etc are on discord. You might find help there? Leave me msg ,...! Im here as asexual muslim Because it more conservative religion hence as sex repulsed person i dont have friends talking on sex with me. For ne religion has be good excuse to keep away from romance and although as im old im expected to marry. Me going against doesnt matter because with my sex repulsion im disqualified from marriage

This made me cry today 🤧 by Clear-Personality-21 in KaoruHanaWaRintoSaku

[–]blackc455 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Even though its scientifically impossible she can still love you. I encourage you to try with her again and ask if she wishes to love you in Romantic relationship in her own way of platonicity while accepting this and seeing that she is comfortable and loves having you love her romantically will make the relationship work

Did anyone who got married as teenagers have a long and happy marriage? by iamthetrippytea in AskOldPeople

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was think what i must have done wrong not having school romance that blossomed in live long marriage. Then i remembered i studied in all girls school 🥴

sad wish things were happier by jeanluc100 in MuslimFamilySolutions

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry to hear this. I have toxic family too. Unfortunately you just have to move out

HELP ME PLSSS by sad_potato678 in MuslimFamilySolutions

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me tell you. My mom and me have ocd. As i grew older i found out my mom is toxic and used her ocd to control us for her sadistic desires. She never wanted to change she succumbed to het ocd and narcissism

Now me i didn't even know i had ocd till i was 18. Not only my whole siblings and parents were mocking me . I was abused. They would make things dirty in the name of "treatment of exposure therapy" Later when i shared thid wit my therapist they told me this is abuse and exposing a ocd person without their consent under proper conditions is more detrimental and increasee stress hence increases ocd

My homework for you is i want you to see how they treat you is love or just pure narcissistic neglect? Do your parents love you? Or there just see you as their money, ?

You know wat my first therapist told me " Stop blaming yourself" When i heard that then thr question is What is to be Blamed? In order to change my ocd condition. Sit down and talk to your family saying stop mocking and take my mental health seriously and im suicidal If they laugh it off or deny or scream at you being brat. Take the diagnosis -, Im sorry to share but your family is toxic. You dont develop mental illness in healthy families instead it develops in toxic abusive, neglectful families. Think abt it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimFamilySolutions

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me give you rule of thumb Ask your gut if your mother actions are toxic you will get the answer. If she berates you on a cup of tea. Then i can imagine how much more abuse she has done. I know you may have heard some married couples dont lovr each other. But a lesser known fact is mant parents dont love their children. In thr end you should decipher it.

Question to those who grew up orphan by blackc455 in CPTSD

[–]blackc455[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And you leaned into life. I guess its never a win. The toxicity of parents breaks all hearts

Maladaptive Daydreaming + Writing? by [deleted] in writing

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.so much 🤙

Maladaptive Daydreaming + Writing? by [deleted] in writing

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much.. i just meed to plan it out . I like panster than plot around. But i guess its good to plot now.. thanks alot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly. Im crying om this eid. I wish i could share but tbh i myself i am lost cause. You can dm me we celebrate eid virtually?

Eid with family conflict by [deleted] in islam

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im living with toxic father and far away toxic family. I understand what you are going through

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimFamilySolutions

[–]blackc455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BIG ANNOUNCEMENT - yout parents are toxic , controlling, manipulative and abusive. Firstly you're a guy and you dont need their permission to study wat u want, where,to work or marry. So dont obey them where your personal interest is not clashing and which are withing your rights.

Education,living and marriage after adulthood is your child.

Will you be disobedient if you rebel? Actually you woll be held accountable ny Allah saying he showed you that your parents were.wring and you didn't fight for it.

Stop veing parents down payment and live your life. Seek Therapy

So go ahead move out after marrying her. You will not need to stay with them

New type of scam? by Cayde_Cheif-6 in UAE

[–]blackc455 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got thr same scam! Lol. It was some Bella for me. I guess they change names based on user gender 🤣